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About pravinshah

I am a citizen of Canada, emigrating to Canada from Kenya in 1974. I am currently working but have offered my retirement letter effective Monday, 2007 April 16. This is just after my 67th birthday (which falls on April 08). I have been working as Professional Cvil Engineer (and subsequently as a Manager since 1962 June).

Diwali 2018 – Renfrew County

The following is the little note i wrote and circulated to all members of the Renfrew County Indian Community via deepem@googlegroups.com .

Dear friends ,

Diwali 2018 – Renfrew County

The auspicious Diwali party time arrived with a bang on Saturday 03 November 2018.

The Lions Hall in Chalk River was abuzz with laughter, hugs and shakes of hands between friends and also with strangers (most of who have recently arrived and settled down in Renfrew County).

The old mix of professionals have now transformed into mix of professionals and business community members. What a change we have seen in recent years ! We have now seen rejuvenation of the community with young families and many kids amongst us. This brings excitement and energetic participation in the entertainment programs .

I was also pleasantly surprised to see many non-Indian friends of our community members joining us in this festival of Lights – celebrating victory of good over evil. We enjoy freedom, openness and dignity which behooves us to care for our friends and neighbors and respect for others’ culture and traditions. It is the premise on which our community survives. In this country (where we have settled ) there is much camaraderie and equality and it is important that we respect these virtues . Let us welcome participation of many of our friends from the larger Canadian Society.

I being a senior and inching towards the ultimate goal , I found the cheers and just playfulness of many of our youngsters – from babies to teenagers to young adults in our Indian garbs at the Diwali party – to be very enervating . The dances (individual and group) were varied from young kids to adults. The dances really brought to the fore our cultural diversity with harmonious interplay. This enjoyment of our heritage brings delight to my old soul and it definitely identified the colorful garden that is the Canadian society of which we have become one type of flowers amongst many others. May we spread a scent so pleasing to all and sundry in our society.

What is heart pleasing is the selfless effort by many of our volunteers who devoted time and effort to make this party to become a successful and memorable event. Without these volunteers, the function could not have occurred . So I would like to congratulate all the volunteers for their devotion. I am rather leaving out names as there are many of you who volunteered cheerfully.

However I would be remiss not to mention and thank my dear friend Ken Philipose and his wife Leela – who have taken initiative not only this year but also previous years to provide impetus and leadership to keep this cultural activity alive amongst our community in Renfrew County. This adds a flavour to ” Unity In Diversity” in the society. I am sure , hopefully others are stepping in the responsibility.

Happy Diwali to all and my wife Jackie Shah and I wish you all a very successful New Year . We pray for the immense growth and progress of our community as part of the larger Canadian Community.

Pravin Shah

Democarcy at work

I wrote this article on the eve of Municipal Election of 2018 in Deep River.

The article has been forwarded to local newspaper for publication (on 16 Sept 2018)

Democracy at work

Deep River is all excited about the upcoming Municipal election. We have many candidates for Mayor and Council . Also for the Reeve position. It is really very heartwarming that we have a diverse group of people offering their time and effort for the good of the town.

There is proliferation of meetings , signposts and pamphlets . The whole town is now decorated with these signposts – some small, some large and all of different colors and height. It adds an ambience to the town.

Our democracy is very transparent and without impact of wealth or power of an individual. What is needed is a genuine commitment for serving the public . Yes, the candidate needs to be polite , civil and have demonstrated genuine good work ethics.

Each candidate projects his or her vision for the future of the town and the method by which such vision will be attained. At least an effort will be made to achieve the stated vision in partnership with other elected members. As we have a democracy in action, any future will be molded with a majority of the Council members in sync. The elected Mayor really cannot dictate his/her views or vision .

Having listened to many candidates at various forums or in private conversation along with reading pamphlets from each candidate the following common objectives are surmised by me.

1) Most candidates seem to want

”¢ the Town to have a great relation with CNL – our largest employer

”¢ to bring about growth of more diverse economic activities in the Town.

”¢ definitive real housing development within our Town for different categories of people – senior, young and for those of lower income.

This has been an effort in the past for Economic Development but not much diversification has been seen . I think with new technology – it is believed some on-line businesses can be developed.

A focused tourism type business has a possibility . For example, an escorted holiday package can be developed – for city populations (Toronto, Ottawa, Montreal etc) when the Town can during summer offer boating, pontoon parties, swimming at our two beaches coupled with lessons for boating and fishing . In winter, the Town can offer actual cross country skiing, downhill skiing as well as coaching for such skiing . And in the evenings for entertainment at various times we have plays , orchestra , dances and other programs that can be developed. We also have Lawn Bowling, Card Games ( Bridge ), golf etc which can be weaved into the program. An genuine entrepreneur , I am sure can develop a good package -but will need cooperation and help from the Town . This can bring employment and income for many diverse group of people in the town .

Remember, there are so many newcomers in our country who require ” hand Holding – someone who can show/teach techniques ” for things like boating (and other river activities) , skiing, fishing, card playing etc.

2) Most candidates are genuinely concerned about high property taxes that we have in Deep River . This subject has been discussed and studied by previous councils but we have not seen any reduction in taxes.

Many feel that increase in population in the town will spread the tax burden and thus help in reduction. However, it seems many new employees by CNL or the Garrison wants to stay around Petawawa due to lower taxes there.

Note: Increase in population is feasible if new businesses are developed or attracted in the Town. So far instead , over last few years , we have seen closure of some of the existing businesses.

Many feel that we have Cadillac Police Service and Fire Department – these two services need fair amount of our taxes.

I am sure previous Council(s) have looked at these services and have come up against a wall for any major changes though some movement is noted.

May be an out-of- box type solution is necessary . What ? A restructuring of Municipal administration and/or restructuring current duties of Police and Fire personnel or how about offering Police Services to adjoining towns like Chalk River . Our Police Force is closer than OPP.

I believe the new Council will have their work cut out for this issue. For an out-of-box type solution , a focused leader with a penchant for success is necessary.

We are enchanted and excited by the process of our democracy, our genuine participation in our future and we are fortunate to have many good candidates to stand for election. This is a real democracy at work.

Only job remaining is for all of – each and every one of us – to understand the nuances and commitment of each candidate and go out on the voting day to vote for those we prefer.

Grandparents =2018

I have stopped writing about kids these days as it isnot possible to keep up with their daily activities.

However this June 2018 – both Sitara and Sachin are seeing a great change to the outdoors – at their parents’ home . Major Landscaping work has started ,This will see layout cahnge and also eventually all wrap around patio ripped apart and new style pf patio built instead.

Thank You Canada – POEM – for 1 July 2018

On the eve of celebrating Canada Day (01 July 2018) – I have written a
POEM – which expresses my/our Thank You Canada – for bestowing respect, dignity and growth of our family and friends.

Note: This Poem has been circulated to North Renfrew Times for publication and also many contacts and friends. The POEM was published in the North Renfrew Times in their Wednesday 27 Jun 2018 edition.

POEM

Thank You Canada – O! Canada – 2018

Thank You Thank You Thank You

Canada our land

So beautiful

So empowering

So polite and respectful

With four seasons

With people from all over

For freedom, equality and dignity

We are passionate about you

Thank You Thank You Thank You

For our 44 years within your bosom

For our children & their spouses

For our great grandchildren

For our friends in Niagara Falls

Where we started

For our friends in Deep River

Where we are in retirement

For our friends in many cities

Where we had worked for living

Thank You Thank You Thank You

For our Canadian extended families

For fulfilling our dreams

For being there when we needed

O! Canada

We celebrate Canada day

With enthusiasm, pride and joy

We stand on guard for thee

Sikh Issues – my perspective

I wrote this article – completing on 16 March 2018 . This is in response to recent trip to India by our Canadian Prime Minister Trudeau and family – which resulted in discussion of Sikh issues in India and Canada.

I presume that the article is self-explanatory.

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16 March 2018

Sikh Issues – my perspective

I believe if we think coolly and a bit carefully about the Sikh issues I guess we can discern the development of a community – over decades – the Sikhs were spoilt by all Indians with overarching admiration and attention.

If we go and sit back and recall in our own life experiences ( when we interfaced with many of our Sikh friends and colleagues ) each one of us had a great admiration for these Sikh colleagues for their wit, humour and sacrifice for their friends and community around – and this admiration was expressed volubly by many to their face. This attitude by many of us spoilt some of these Sikhs – and then politically minded section used that to demand our attention/admiration/ along with various bounties as an entitlement . One of my Sikh friends told me once that in India – many of these Sikhs when travelling on Indian trains would obtain a seat (as you know in India for a long time travelling by train in India was a challenge for seats and other amenities) forcefully by bullying especially the Hindus . This is a small example as to how the Sikhs had stranglehold on Indian polity and social life which was prevalent in India – with the background of genuine admiration for the Sikh community as a whole.

Then came Jarnail Singh Bhindranwale in the 80s . In 1982 – he started a movement with an excuse for a larger share of irrigation water and the return of Chandigarh to Punjab – a very legitimate demand but such demand was pushed by use of arms and force. A genuine demand turned into – my way or I will take it by force. He and his armed men occupied the Golden Temple – for blackmail and threat to Indian Government’s responsibility. The rest is history . It was clear that he was not supported by most of the Sikh population – specially for his use of force.

Prime Minister Indira Gandhi was assassinated by her two body guards . This goes against the very Sikh (and Indian) values . A person (specially a guard) does not use violence against one’s own employer who puts his/her faith in that person to safeguard him/her. Besides a valourous person (specially Sikhs) will never use sneaky violence against a woman. These Sikh bodyguards discarded their honour/principle which was maintained/nurtured for centuries fighting Moguls and Muslims.

The morals lost forever within the Sikh Community .

The effect of this departure from this principled norm can be seen and experienced many times since this incident. One hear about some Sikhs using violence within the Gurudwaras, against their wives and even against their own mothers. You just have to keep your eyes/ears open and listen to news for incidents like this. The Sikh culture has been somewhat compromised and anything goes is becoming a new norm for some of these Sikhs.

Fortunately most Sikhs are upright people and they are not contaminated by such behaviour

Prime Minister Indira Gandhi was a very respected/revered prime minister of India for taking Pakistan head-on and helping East Pakistan to separate and become an independent nation ( BanglaDesh ) She also stood up against the mayhem created by Bhindranwale in Punjab. Her assassination resulted in a spontaneous backlash (as claimed by some in India). Throngs of masses ran rampage killing many Sikhs in New Delhi – even their neighbors and colleagues. This also spread in some other parts of India . It seems some people found an excuse and took advantage for personal gains or revenge. This spontaneity is not recognized/acknowledged by many disgruntled Sikhs and specially those who lost their loved ones .

Also lack of speedy corrective action ( or perceived slow action ) by the authorities led to charge (by some Sikhs and Human Rights activists) of deliberate vengeance style killing of many innocent Sikhs . This is the root of continuing simmering feeling of gross injustice to the Sikhs. It is terrible and hurting if one feels betrayed by their own Government and friends and neighbors . Even after so many years (some 30 years plus ) no acceptable action to bring the perpetrators ( or their perceived leaders) to justice by Authorities is noted.

So the aftermath of this mass killing (and resulting frustration in Sikh Community) was felt in Canada when an Air India Flight 182 was sabotaged (with a bomb ). The Flight ( Emperor Kanishka ) operating on the Toronto-Montreal-London-Delhi was destroyed by a bomb at an altitude of 31,000 feet (9,400 m) on 23 June 1985,. It crashed into the Atlantic Ocean while in Irish airspace. A total of 329 people were killed, including 268 Canadian citizens, 27 British citizens and 24 Indian citizens. Most Canadian citizens were of Indian origin – who were initially referred to as Indian citizens by the then Canadian Government .

One of my friends lost his whole family – very talented family . I was shocked -so were many others . We were also shocked that the Canadian Government has missed identifying these as Canadian Citizens . Fortunately I was the President of Jain Society (in Toronto at that time) and I got an opportunity (along with others) to be interviewed by the CBC radio. I brought this anomaly in identifying the lost persons as Indian Citizens (instead of them being Canadian Citizens) by the then Canadian Prime Minister and my speech remained/repeated on CBC radio for at least a couple of days. This anomaly was finally corrected by the Canadian Government . I am glad for my small contribution to the conversation at that time.

What bugs me most that the RCMP and other Canadian Government Authorities seem to have botched the investigations, trial and punishment of the Sikh terrorists who planned blowing up a plane. It seems that there was some cover-up and softness towards the perpetrators. At that time, most western Governments were not in favour of India (as it was wrongly considered pro-Russia – India just being non-aligned ) and Pakistan’s star was high above. Any mischief to India was sort of acceptable – specially by Britain and USA and thus it includes Canada.

In the mean time the Sikh Community has built itself in Canada numerically, economically and in recent years politically. Some of these Sikhs (the pro-Khalistan activists) have remained aloof from normal Indian socials and advancement . They celebrate their Diwali at the Canadian Parliament Building as a separate event . They join by in mass numbers the main political parties of Canada and thus influence the election of political leaders . They also contribute money liberally for campaigning elections . In British Columbia and Brampton (Toronto, Ontario) , they have numbers for putting forward political candidates besides supporting other Canadian candidates.

Some of these people are committed and dedicated to developing their own history separate from India history . It is fortunate that most Sikhs in India (as well as in Diaspora) do not subscribe to this fallacy. All these parades and glorifying known terrorists and killers in Canada is having a mixed reaction. Only now after recent trip by Prime Minster Trudeau visit to India , the local Canadians and the political class is recognizing the danger in supporting such parades and dialogues. It also works against Canada’s interest now that India is becoming economically sound and a major developing country with about 3 trillion dollar economy. Hopefully, the 1984 episode is resolved properly in India and justice is delivered. Besides Sikhs here in Canada cannot forever be embroiled themselves in issues in India – that is if Sikhs want to become real Canadians and participate in the Governments as political leaders.

For positive outcome , the Sikhs should concentrate in the well-being of Canada , all its citizens and cannot harbour silent animosity towards innocent Indians either in Canada or India or for that matter anywhere in the world. Sikhs in India have moved forward and they are as usual most model citizens of India.

I believe that Sikhs have their work cut out for them if they want to pursue the cause of Sikhs either in Canada or elsewhere -including India. Their roots will always be in India as most Sikhs’ spiritual bond is centered around Golden Temple in Amritsar in Punjab, India . Though they have some historical places in Pakistan too.

The Sikhs who want to be active in pursuing acceptance and justice and a homeland should take a different tack -which is positive and helpful in making Sikhs model world citizens. By keeping external attire similar to many known Islamist terrorists ( with long flowing beards and frown on their faces ) only complicates their task. I understand that said Sikh attire with colorful turban is a required necessity for their religious and spiritual identity – and so be it . But if this is associated with violent behaviour at home or in Gurudwaras or against innocent individuals (even sporadic) do cause a concern as to their attitude.

I believe those Sikhs who are so much active in the Community fighting for justice for their cause should pose and note that many of us are supportive of their demand and looking for resolution of such incident. However what I skim in various cases in India – from Bhopal Disaster and other atrocities, rapes and frauds – in many cases the justice is delayed, denied or compromised from negligence or deliberate manipulating by powers to be . Only way forward is to strengthen the democracy and many institutions of democracy in India. Which incidentally cannot be achieved by violent means – specially by running protests in Canada with display of photos of known killers of Canadian Citizens . Many Indians are active in India for such an outcome .

Our Canadian Sikhs or those Sikhs who are residing in the Diaspora can help achieve their objective of justice and respect in India by being themselves of higher morals and desist from any violent vengeance type activities. They can establish a friendlier relations with other overseas Indians – individually and collectively – which will bring eventual better results.

The Diaspora Sikhs can use their knowledge and wealth and positive attitude to help solve many of Punjab’s social and economical woes. Punjab is supposed to be number 1 province of India but have squandered its development possibilities by politics tied to religious happenings.

There is the issue of use of drugs in Punjab – drugs being smuggled from Pakistan . These smugglers have become a kind of conduits for traitorous activities against the security of the country. Overseas Sikhs can provide relevant technical, medical and educational support to stem the drug use amongst Punjab’s young population . In the process , the overseas Sikhs can encourage peace movement between India and Pakistan.

If we look around here in Canada or USA or UK , we see hard working Sikhs in all fields which include Industry and construction (real estate) and have been very successful – and that is why they can support financially many of the political parties at in one way or another. This acumen is very useful and necessary for the industrial development of Punjab and other parts of India . Why can The Sikhs take up the call like Jews who developed Israel .

My final thoughts turn to what I call moral downgrade in some of our Canadian Punjabi youths (men) -who go to India for marriage – get a dowry and then leave the girls there abandoned and return to Canada – with loot of dowry in their pocket. These type of incidents have been reported in the press – why these so-called Sikh leaders in Canada do not take steps to stem such behavior. May be they have done it but I have not heard/read about any such activity.

Finally winning the world for Sikh nation is an admirable yearning but first of all the violent arrogant attitude need to be removed -even though the Sikhs are a martial race – only by recognizing that the flowering of the Sikh Community has come about by sacrifice of many Hindu families over hundreds of years when many Hindus have had offered/sacrificed their first born towards the Sikh growth

Pravin Shah

Kieran’s 4th Birthday – 12 March 2018 – An extended Haiku

For celebrating Kieran’s 4th birthday -his Bapuji wrote the following Haiku and sent it first by e-mail on his birthday (celebrated in Toronto) and sent a copy with a Birthday Card . Note” Kiearn has just been to Jamiaca with family for week and returned back only last Thursday.

Here it is:

An extended Haiku for Kieran on his 4th Birthday

Kieran’s 4th Birthday – 12 March 2018

My charming grandson

All tanned from Jamaica Beach

Lets party for your birthday.

Love you for your jabbering

Love you for your broad smiles

Llove you for your politeness.

You will sparkle the world

You will be a popular dude

More so – You will be a great brother

Happy Birthday – our future

Many more to come

Totally embraced by all.

Bapuji

Christmas 2017 – Christ’s message

On the eve of Christmas coming and with the background of attacks on innocent people all over the world – I thought about what an individual can learn from the ocassion which can strengthen the message of peace. So after some thinking and studying the subject – I came with the following article (write-up) .

I usually send my articles to local newspaper (North Renfrew Times – NRT ) – for publication. I have sent the current article to NRT . However for Christmas articles they wait till last week of December to publish.

In the meantime , I do circulate the articles to my friends or colleagues or bridge partners.

Article:

Christmas 2017 – Christ’s message.

This year the birth of Lord Jesus will be celebrated as usual with joy and gusto by the faithful. Christmas parties and festivities will be cheerful and spreading joy all around.

This is the holiday when not only the faithful but also those who belong to other beliefs also join in the festivities due to the Santa Clause phenomenon which is included along with the celebration of the birth of Lord Jesus. The old “cult” of Santa Claus incorporates many traditions: Christian as well as Pagan

Santa brings everyone together! No matter whether one is a Christian or not. Kids (of all nationalities) all over the world know who Santa is… And although he may be a little commercial, who can help, but love the jolly old elf? Toys and gifts become the centerpiece in the festivities.

It’s the idea of giving that reminds us: we are all on this planet together, for the long run.

There are some 2 billion Christians on this planet who believe in the birth of the Son of God . So what message one gets from this occurrence. Why the Son of God is to be born and then persecuted and finally to be nailed on the cross. Why and what for ? The faithful may say that He came to remove/wash our sins. The only way is through Jesus. Jesus came so He could die on the cross for ALL of our sins.

Not being of Christian faith myself , I believe there is a deeper message from this occurrence. Here is the Son of God born to a virgin mother, had to be a refugee , then persecuted (and do not forget the betrayal by a close confidante ), finally believed to come alive and walk away from His grave. He is risen. This phenomena of resurrection is the most astounding one.

The conception of Jesus was miraculous. Son of God comes on this earth as a human being. That tells that human beings are a special species and are important in the scheme of things. So it is critical that we human beings learn to look after each other rather than stockpiling weapons of mass destruction or go berserk and start bombing or shooting the neighbours. We have the obligation to nurture and look after other species like animals, flora and fauna. We need to respect people of all races, color or nationalities without prejudice. Only then God will be joyful.

Jesus’s life illustrates to us the greatest weapon in our hands for happiness and that is to be compassionate and forgiving . Even when he was on the cross – tortured and nailed – He asks ” Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.”

Jesus’s life also teaches us to be courageous and not run away like cowards against evil and malicious actions by others but stand up against any injustices with calm and composed attitude believing in our convictions and prepared for sacrificing our comforts and life, if need be. Human dignity and rights are paramount and shall be equal for everyone. Jesus on the cross is a very visible symbol of ” sacrifice ” for a cause.

We know that the Son of God had to be protected from King Harod’s machinations for wanting to kill the new born and thus the family (Joseph & Mary along with the baby) took refuge in Egypt for two years . The refugees that we welcome these days are not different than what was happening in the old world and who knows amongst the modern refugees one of them may be a messenger for good. However so far we have not had signs from any heavenly angels or from any wise men. Then Jesus teaches us the value of ” patience ” and belief in workings of the Almighty.

Jesus teaches us to “turn the other cheek ” and not be violent under any circumstances – any violence or revengeful nature only bring devastation to all and sundry including those who perpetrate violence. This is the quality of divinity – message of God Almighty . Even when he was betrayed by Judas (Judas was one of the 12 disciples closest to Jesus), Jesus became sad but did not get angry at him but forgave him for his deeds.

Jesus’s resurrection is very ennobling and shows us not to despair for any failure or loss as these failures/losses would be redeemed in one form or another in its own time – if you have conviction and faith.

Christmas is without a doubt my favorite time of the year. It’s the most wonderful time of the year. The family gets together from near and far. All grandchildren go helter-skelter having fun , playing with each other and bringing sound of joy in the household. The exchange of gifts and opening these bring so much excitement and laughter while the nature is showering snowflakes outdoors . One can almost hear the jingle bells in the ears. The Santa parade is a fixture for all to go and enjoy the bond with our neighbors .

Let us remember that the Christmas – celebration of the birth of Lord Jesus – enhances our empathetic attitude, encourage us to share our bounty and for us to remain connected and caring for the world around without any biases and prejudices.

The profound message of Christmas should not be forgotten amidst all the festivities and Santa Clause parade, Christmas Tree decorations, multiple gifts and feasts.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you all from me and my family.

Our Recent Visit – Oshwal Center in London, U.K. and the Jain Temple

The following article i wrote re: my impressions of the Oshwal Center and JainTemple in LOndon, U.K. – which we recently visited – during the month of September 2017. The article was sent to the Editor of Oshwal News (published in Londion U.K.) – for a possibility of publishing this article in the newsmagazine. So far I have not heard from the Editor – of the status of the article.

8 October 2017

Our Recent Visit – Oshwal Center in London, U.K. and the Jain Temple

We recently visited the Oshwal Center in London, U.K. and the Jain Temple situated at Potters Bar, Hertfordshire when my wife and I had an occasion to travel to the U.K. from Canada.

It’s a fabulous place and worth a visit. We in fact had visited (during our stay in London) the Oshwal Center (& the JainTemple) two (2) times for different programmes. The first one was on SamvatsarÄ« Lunch day on Sunday 03 September 2017 and the second time was during a Snatra Puja at the Jain Temple on Friday 15 September 2017.

We found the Jain Temple to be very pretty and appealing. During the SamvatsarÄ« Lunch day, we were a tad bit early – so it afforded us time to go over to the Temple – offer our prayers and then went on the grounds to enjoy the garden and many different well carved ” stambhs – pillars.

The Jain Temple

The Jain Temple is a “Shikhar Bandhi” Jain Temple and is popular with artistic carving. The inner sacred sanctum houses idols of 3 Tirthankaras (spiritual teachers of the dharma – righteous path) . Mul nayak is Mahavir Swami; on his left is Parshvanath and on his right is Adishvara.

There is a ” Hand with Ahimsa Chkara ” on the ground along one side of the Temple. It is called the Ahimsa Hand (Jain Hand) and symbolizes non-violence. It is a right hand shown facing upwards (fingers up), with the thumb slightly pointed out.

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Over upper level ground – a magnificent grove of trees is planted – some 52 trees – representing 52 villages of Halar. Note: Halar is a county/borough in Saurashtra , Gujarat, India – from where originally members of our Visa Oshwal community migrated – about a century ago – to go overseas mostly to Bombay and then to Kenya & other parts of East Africa .

Each tree is planted on its own separated from each other by a fair few feet and each tree is surrounded by a concrete round platform ( ” Otlo “- a Gujarati term ) depicting the name of a village and donors who have contributed funds towards planting that particular tree & platform.

This Temple is gaining reputation for an excellent place for pilgrimage (by Jain visitors to London) and also by tourists interested in knowing/understanding other culture/religion/tradition of the world.

The carved artistic temple along with well laid out and spacious garden provides the peaceful and solemn ambience for those seeking spiritual experience.

Samvatsari Lunch

The Samvatsari lunch was held at the main building – utilizing all the halls (and a marquee)- as to accommodate many participants who had come to share this joyous but somber day in the Jain calendar.

The organization was superb, the enthusiasm and caring attitude of the volunteers were exemplary and worth to be proud of. The crowd was well behaved and remained in queue where so needed. We stood in the queue and there we met some of our London family members and acquaintances. Further we met others in the queue resulting in camaraderie.

As the queue wound down to the lower basement hall, we were greeted with smile and ” namaskar ” by specially posted volunteers welcoming the participants with humility and wishing all of us a nice lunch. This was very profound in lifting our joyous spirit and at the basement hall – we picked up our lunch (chosen by each of us from a variety of menu items) served by volunteers posted at various tables. After pick up of the lunch – we proceeded to the marquee which was erected next to the Main Building . There we all sat down and had our lunch – with quiet and relaxed manner.

After lunch, we came out to the grounds – from exit side – and there we had some time to mill around meeting more of our family members and some old acquaintances.

After finishing our lunch- we spent some time at the Main Building halls – where the ” health challenged” guests were served lunch. The love and care shown by the volunteer servers to each and every guest was exceptionally heart-warming. We ended our visit to the Oshwal Center by 3.30 pm and returned back very contented after enjoying the modern facilities and very warm welcome for the Samvatsari Lunch.

My admiration and many thanks ( and ” Koti koti vandan ” ) to all the volunteers who made the day very comfortable.

Snatra Puja

Friday 15 September 2017 ) was a special day at Oshwal Center for Snatra Puja – which my sister Ranjan and brother-in-law Mahendra would like to participate. So we joined them. What an experience!

I had not done Snatra Puja for a long time – so this was an opportunity to remind me about our Tirthankar Bhagwan achieving liberation from life and death cycle (attains Moksha) and provides an inspiration as to what can be achieved.

Also did ShantiKalash Jal puja, Chaitya Vandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & performing Aarti .

As I understand – Snatra Puja is a common Puja widely performed by most of the Deravasi Jain worshipers. It is also a starting Puja before any other main Puja.

Snatra Puja is a celebration of life of Tirthankar Bhagwan . This Puja recital explains the effect of Bhagawan”™s birth on the whole universe, narrates how glorious the occasion was and how much joys were shared by all the living souls including all heavenly souls.

Also did ShantiKalash Jal puja, Chaitya Vandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & performing Aarti .

Note: ShantiKalash Jal puja – Water symbolizes life”™s ocean of birth, death and misery. This Jain puja reminds that one should live one’s life with honesty, truthfulness, love and compassion towards all living beings. This way one will be able to cross life”™s ocean and attain liberation (Moksha).

LINK: http://www.jaincentreleicester.com/resources/puja/

Lunch was provided in the hall. The volunteers and the care was outstanding. The lunch was very delicious – prepared with love.

We also had the privilege to listen to the Oshwal Center President Mr. Tushar Shah – who provided background about various activities that the Community is currently engaged on. Very vibrant and modern thinking .

All in all, our visits to the Oshwal Center provided a religious/spiritual and social contexts for our short visit to London, U.K. It provided the view as to how we as a community are leapfrogging into the modern time and yet keeping “volunteerism ” as a central mechanism for our advancement. Our Jain Religion which proclaimed “Non-Violence “as its central precept some 2500 year ago is becoming an engine for a viable peaceful existence in this world.

Grandparents – 2017 – 4th Quarter (upto end December)

Friday 06 October 2017

These days – during few days in the week -Nina works – mostly in Pembroke and thus on those days both Sitara and Sachin come over to nana/nani home -dropped by their dad . The kids then have breakfast at nana/nani home – relax and then nana/nani drop them at school by 9.15 am. In the evening , they have different programs (such as badminton or swimming or Sitara’s painting) so nani sometimes go to school to pick them up or one of them – and their dad pick up the other. All flexible. They would have dinner at nana/nani home – by that time their mom would have been back from her work in Pembroke and the kids go to Mackey with their dad or mom . All flexible.

However, this day was a part of Thanksgiving weekend (in Canada – in USA it is in November) andkids were home in Mackey.

Toronto kids – Maya, Kieran and Priya went for the Thanksgiving weekend to the cottage (their grandparents’ cottage in Muskoka) with their parents -where they will be joined by Cole (their cousin) – and his parents .

Both nana/nani joined Sitara and Sachin at Mackey home for their early Thanksgiving dinner. Nana played with Sachin – toy car dominoes and other games . Nana also played with Sitara couple of board games . Nani joined with Sitara – making a painting -sitting outdoors on the patio.

All had dinner – some Thanksgiving gifts were given to the kids and after that nana/nani returned back to Deep River – all refreshed and relaxed.

Saturday 07 October 2017

To — MÃ¬wÃ te: Illumination of ChaudiÃ¨re Falls – October 7 — Kids went there with the parents.

Both Sitara and Sachin went to Ottawa with their parents to spend the Thanksgiving weekend there. On the way, Sachin had ice hockey at the Deep River Arena at 10.00 am and was drivefn there by his dad.. Nani went to the arena to watch/cheer Sachin and after that Sachin came over to nana/nani home and had shower – by the time Nina and Sitara arrived from Mackey and all then went to Ottawa . In Ottawa , theywere to go to Museum of Nature – amongst other activities and staying at a hotel.

On Sunday about 6.00 pm they were driving towards Cornwall – to a Upper Canada Village Pumpkin Show . Pumpkinferno – Upper Canada Village – Morrisburg Oct 8, 2017

This is how it was described on their web page: https://www.uppercanadavillage.com/events/pumpkinferno/

Award-winning Pumpkinferno returns featuring a selection of specially designed Canada 150 themed pumpkin-carved displays! This mesmerizing installation of artist-inspired, glowing pumpkins is a not-to-be-missed event for ALL ages! Take a tour through this spectacular outdoor art exhibit of 7,000 handcrafted pumpkins all lit at night along a kilometer long path in a picturesque 19th century backdrop. Open select evenings from late September through October, you won”™t want to miss this chance to discover the culture of Canada in a world of pumpkins.

The carved pumpkins you will see at Pumpkinferno are realistic, artificial pumpkins, whose forms have been shaped from molds of real pumpkins. The pumpkins have been designed and carved by a talented group of young artists from the Eastern Ontario region. These designers and carvers were selected based on their penchant for design, whether in his/her field of study or as a personal hobby. They embarked in May of 2012 on this monumental project, designing, carving, and constructing the amazing array of pumpkin-carved installations you will discover on your tour. Each spring through summer, a group of new and returning designer/carvers create all that you will see that is new and vibrant, added to our collection of amazing exhibits at Pumpkinferno!

Friday 20 October 2017

This week is kind of celebrating Diwali – but we as a family are so stretched for one thing or another that we celebrated Diwali in bits and pieces – both Sitara and Sachin took all that in their strides and nana just going with the flow. Of course the family in Toronto is not here in Deep River area -so they are really not joining in this part of Diwali -BUT we are all looking for real deep celebration

a) Deep River and Area Diwali function on Saturday October 28 at Lions Club in Chalk River where both nana/nani and Mistry family will be joining in

b) Oshwal Diwali Celebration in Toronto area on Saturday 11 November 2017 – where Sunir/Shannonamd kids (Maya, Kieran & Priya ) will be going -and also joined by their Ba/Bapuji who will be travelling to Toronto from Deep River – to stay few days with them.

Today – both Nina/Sunjay have gone to Ottawa for the weekend – thus kids – Sitara and Sachin are with nana/nani. Today nana/nani dropped them at school at 9.15 am – after breakfast . Nani picked them from school at 3.40 pm . After dinner – Sachin was dropped at Deep River arena (by his nani) for his Ice hockey game . Sitara would be dropped at Mackenzie Community School at 6.00 pm for her badminton game – so would be Sachin after his ice hockey game .

Tomorrow – kids will be ferried to Petawawa by nana/nani for Sitara’s gymnastics at 10.30 am.

Done and came home during late afternoon. Kids spent the night at nana/nani home as their parents returned from Ottawa late at night and thus went straight to their home at Mackey.

Note: last two days nana/nani were in Ottawa – gone there on Wednesday (18 October) morning for nana’s appointment at Heart Institute -for a heart monitoring check-up ( by Dr. Roy Masters) and on Thursday at the Ottawa General Hospital for nani’s medical check-up for intestinal problems. Nana/nani returned back to Deep River on Thursday late afternoon. On Wednesday night they stayed at ROTEL – near to the Ottawa General Hospital. Also nana/nani went for dinner on Wednesday evening at Rangoli Restaurant ( an East Indian restaurant) in Orleans .

On Sunday 22 October 2017 – the family again celebrated Diwali with special lunch meal at nana/nani home . After lunch – Sachin had ice hockey match – and after that the Mistry family went to their home at Mackey.

Tuesday 24 October 2017 – Nina was working and thus the kids were dropped by their dad to nana/nani home — and after breakfast and after some relaxed time — nana/nani dropped them at school

Note: This day their dad is going to Toronto on business – so Nina and kids will stay over in Deep River at nana/nani home for at least two nights. It is more convenient -at least when Nina is working.

Saturday 28 October 2017

Today the Deep River and Area East Indians celebrated Diwali festival at Lions Hall in Chalk River. Both Sitara and Sachin dressed for occasion – so did their mom and dad . Their mom and dad helped in the organization of the event – while nana/nani enjoyed the program. Both Sitara and Sachin took some part in the program – though they could do more. Bears Den ( now owned by an Indian – emigrated from Gujarat, India ) catered the food for the ocacsion.

Now the kids are preparing for the upcoming Halloween day on Tuesday ( 31 October 2017) and have already carved the pumpkins.

Their mom posted on her Facebook wall on Sunday 29 October 2017:

An Owl and Snorlax (our family’s most favourite PokÃ©mon )

Wednesday 01 November 2017

Tuesday night and Wednesday early morning , Deep River and area got season’s first snow – after the Halloween evening on Tuesday 31 October 2017. Note: For Halloween, the Mistrys were ” Halloween 2017 as the Star Wars family ” .

Thursday 02 November 2017

This is the e-mail (with a photo) from Priya’s mom (today):

” This little rascal is into everything… and she took her first steps on Sunday! She still prefers to crawl, but is taking a few steps at a time. Our baby is growing up! Looking forward to seeing you very soon ”

Another e-mail (with a photo) about Maya & Kieran having a ball of time on Halloween day :

” Thanks for the Halloween decorations! The kids loved putting them up. Here they are on Halloween night.”

Tuesday 07 November 2017

Visit to Toronto. We began our car journey ( 2016 Nissan Rogue) to visit the grandkids (Maya, Kieran & Priya) and their parents in Toronto . Left Deep River at about 9.30 am – stopped at Mackey en-route. Picked up lots of clothes for kids in Toronto. These are Sitara & Sachin cloths which they have outgrown – while Maya, Kieran & Priya are growing into.

Arrived safely in Toronto in good time about 4.30 pm. Shannon was not home but at work. Sincew e arrived early on time , Sunir could go pick up Maya (taking Priya) with him while Kieran stayed behind with Ba/Bapuji.

Wednesday 08 November 2017

Maya was dropped at school by Sunir – Shannon had already left for her work.

Kieran had not gone to his daycare. Kieran these days go only two days a week to his daycare – this is because Shannon is on “maternity leave ” and thus would like Kieran to be with parents and enjoy home life.

So today Sunir decided to take him to visit Mount Pleasant cemetery – for Kieran was curious about ghouls etc after enjoying recent Halloween . Ba/Bapuji also joined in for the visit. All went by subway – Priya in the stroller & Kieran walking all the way . We left at around 11.45 am & returned back by 2.00 pm – having had a snack on a bench in the cemetery.

It was a pleasant day. Kieran was looking at different tombstones and artifacts .

On Thursday 09 November 2017 – , both Kieran & Maya went to their respective school/daycare. I (Bapuji) went to the local library (on Yonge St.) after a brief walk around.

Friday – 10 November 2017 .

Both Ba and Bapuji went after dinner to kids’ maternal grandparents (Doug and Kathy) home

They were invited to visit and play social bridge. Shannon had gone for a conference at work -usually she does not work on Fridays. The conference was for two days -so Shannon was away on Saturday for most of the day . All three kids (Maya, Kieran and Priya) had opportunity to play with Ba and Bapuji – with theri dad being around too.

On Saturday 11 November 2017 – Sunir also took Maya and Kieran for their weekly swimming session while Priya remained with Ba/Bapuji.

Then on Saturday evening -all went to Oshwal Diwali function in Mississauga – Priya had a great time along with Maya and Kieran.

7) on Sunday, Doug/Kathy & Ryan (along with Cole) came for dinner at Sunir/Shannon home . Heather did not come as she was gone to another party. Ba’s (Jackie’s) birthday was celebrated with a take-out Thai dinner & a cake (ginger ) by Shannon. All sang ” Happy Birthday” to Ba.

Monday 13 November 2017 – a Kenya lady came to Sunir/Shannon home for cleaning job. Ba/Bapuji went out to the local library. Maya was at school and the other two kids (Kieran and Priya) went to a music class with their mom . this way people do not come in the way when cleaning of the house is being done.

Tuesday 14 November 2017

Ba/Bapuji returned back to Deep River – after spending a week with Maya. Kieran and Priya along with their parents

Wednesday 15 November 2017

This day Sachin had a demonstration in his class with other kids to participate in a play (children performing Little Red Robin) and playing a recorder. His nana/nani went to cheer him – between 4.00 till 5.15 pm. Also his dad (who had just returned from Toronto – from his business trip) was there. His mom could not come as she was working that day in Pembroke.

His teacher Miss McCarthy had sent a note to all parents to that . The whole weak till Friday the children did different play.

Sunday 19 November 2017

This evening Sitara, her mom and nana/nani went to Childs Auditorium , Mackenzie Community School (Deep River) to watch a “A Passage to Bollywood ” by a Dance Company from Mumbai, India . Sachin and Sunjay did not come and went home . It was classical Bollywood type dancing with a love theme.

Note : Sitara had hurt her knee this last couple of days – she is taking part in gymnastic presentation in the coming week -hopefully she recovers in time. Plus she now (as of Wednesday 22 November 2017) . has flu and recently she is going through some changes (re: her maturity as becoming a pre-teen) . So remains a bit downcast but I am sure she will spring back to her normal self soon.

From: Nina Shah <ninashah@hotmail.com>
Sent: November 21, 2017 12:58 PM
To: pravinshah@sympatico.ca; Nina Shah; Sunjay Mistry
Subject: This week’s schedule

Today – Tuesday – Nov 21 – we will go home after Candu at 5pm – Sitara has hurt her knee so she will not be skating. We are not coming to your house for dinner tonight! Sunjay is at Ski Patrol tonight too.

Wednesday Nov 22 – 7:45am – kids at mom/dad’s house for breakfast – then to school. Then sitara walks to Olga’s for art. Mom to pick Sitara up at 5pm and pay Olga $20 for art lesson (we will give you $20 in the morning). Feed Sitara and take to Candu at 6:15pm. Don’t sit and watch her swim – go home. Come back at 7:45pm to pick her up and take her home. Get her to brush and change into pj’s and we will pick her up at 8:30pm. She needs to sleep early at home. Sachin will walk to library after school – Sunjay will pick Sachin up at the library at 4:15pm to drive him to beachburg for his hockey game at 6pm. The game will finish at 7:45pm and then we will drive back home.

Thursday – 7:45am – kids at mom/dad’s house for breakfast – then to school. Kids will walk to Candu. Sitara skates at 4:30pm if her knee doesn’t hurt. Take her to the arena at 4:10pm. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO STAY. Go to watch Sachin at the pool and bring him home at 5:15pm. I will be back from work between 6:45 and 7pm. You can go and pick Sitara up from the arena at 6:30pm if you want and she can eat. Sunjay is leaving for Ottawa at 4pm and will be back Friday night at 8pm.

Friday – I do not work. I will put the kids on the bus and then the kids have eye dr appointments in Pembroke at 1pm. I will bring them back for powerskating at 5pm and badminton lessons at 6pm. I will feed them in Pembroke.

Thank you for all your help!!!

Nina and Sunjay

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Friday 01 December 2017
This day the Sitara and Sachin along with the parents came over to Deep River and stayed the night with their nana/nani – this is because on Saturday Sachin was to participate in the ice Hockey match first with the Petawawa novice team (early in the morning at 8.00 am) and then with Pembroke team at 12.00 noon. Also Sitara had her gymnastic session in Petawawa at 11.00 am. So staying in Deep River saves time and generates travel convenience – besides giving Grandparents a fabulous time with the family.
So on Saturday, all (including Sitara) went to the Deep River arena just before 8.00 am to cheer Sachin in his play against the Petawawa team – though they lost big time. At 12.00 noon game , his mom and Sitara were not there as Sitara was driven to her Gymnastic session (in Petawawa) by her mom but Sachin’s dad and nana/nani were there. However in that match against Pembroke the Deep River team lost big time . Sachin enthusiasm for playing hockey was evident and he was relaxed and happy to get an opportunity to play.
On Saturday, then all went to Deep River downtown around 5.15 pm to watch the Santa parade – in which Sachin and his dad were in one float (by the Mt. Martin Ski patrol team) . The parade startted at 5,30 pm sharp beginning from the old A & P store location and went around the Deep River Town Hall before returning to the start point.

Sunday 03 December 2017
This day Sitara was participating in XPERIENCE GYMNASTIC AND UVGC program held at Fellows School in Pembroke – which presented gymnastics with various category of gymnasts trainees as part of a play called ” Once upon a fairy tale “. Sitara was in the fifth part of the play ( called – In the dwarfs’ cottage) and she amongst others (of her colleagues) posed as a cleaner and with that they demonstrated their gymnastic skills . Nana/nani attended the event along with the whole Mistry family.
Monday 04 December 2017
Sachin is participating in the area wise junior ice hockey tournaments – and with that program had been playing matches with Petawawa, Pembroke and Barrys Bay teams. This day they had gone to Barrys Bay – drivenby his dad (of course missing school ) . Their team won the match 3 to 0 . Earlier matches with Petawawa and Pembroke (played at Deep River Arena) during the weekend did not get any win .
Saturday 09 December 2017
Both Sitara and Sachin came over to nana/nani home for a sleep-over. In fact the whole Mistry family to spend the night at nana/nani place in Deep River -as the parents were going to a party in Deep River. So the kids were to spend time with nana/nani. Nani took Sitara for her figure skating at the Deep River Arena – while nana played with Sachin (after watching a Pokomen movie ) -catch ball and soft ball soccer in the living room.
Also an e-mail from Toronto – Priya’s dad sent a message with a title – We have a walker – :
” Priya just got the hang of walking over the past day or so. Be prepared when we come for Christmas. She is a rascal! ”

After that we talked on the phone with her dad and a bit with Maya . Kieran was away from home with his mom – to have gone for shopping getting ready for Christmas.

Sunday 10 December 2017

This day kids (Sitara and Sachin) helped in decorating the artificial Christmas Tree – that nana/nani had put up on Friday (08 December 2017) in the Deep River home living room. The Tree is lighted with a nice star ( separately lighted) on the top. This year the Tree is a smaller one – not used the bottom part that belongs to the whole Tree.

This Sunday was exciting one on another count. Nina worked hard and prepared and then gave a training session to a group in the J.L. Gray building on the subject of – How to use “naloxone kits”.
This was is a part of Deep River Ski patrol team initiative.

Note:

” This is a opiod overdose kit . Naloxone blocks or reverses the effects of opioid medication, including extreme drowsiness, slowed breathing, or loss of consciousness.An opioid is sometimes called a narcotic.”

Also this day Sunjay was participating in the training of – the techniques of CPR ”“ cardiopulmonary resuscitation and this day he had his second test. The third and final will be next week (Tuesday). This is also a part of Deep River Ski patrol team initiative.

Tuesday 12 December 2017
Mall building sold to Tushar/Ragini effective 08 December 2017. Sunjay completed his final test for CPR training. Sailed through.
Thursday 14 December 2017
Celebrated Nina’s birthday at nana/nani home – simple family affair . Friday 0n 15 December 2017 , Sunjay went to Calabogie (near Pembroke) for downhill ski instructor training
Saturday 16 December 2017
Sachin is participating in the – Christmas Junior Music Performance at Childs Auditorium (Deep River) – part of his school activity.
It was piano playing – Christmas Junior Music Performance – Dec 16, 2017 – Frosty the Snowman
Sunday 17 December 2017
These past few days -from Friday evening to Sunday , kids’ dad have been occupied – Sunjay going to Calabogie (near Pembroke) for downhill ski instructor training . So kids are with Nina – going places and shopping in Pembroke etc as well continue with their extra-curricular activities .
The following was posted by Nina on her Facebook Wall – with photos – to-day:
” She (that is Sitara ) would NOT go anywhere near Santa no matter how much he chatted her up so he came to her. And then we had to work hard to get a smile out of her. It’s just like when she was 1! He (that is Sachin) chatted Santa up got almost 10 min as there was no one else in line ”
Note: Since last few months Sitara has become more reserved and shy. Hopefully she will regain her mojo and smile often soon.
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nana/nani just sold their mall property in Petawawa effective 8th December 2017 – Tushar & his wife Ragini. This will bring a bit of respite and free time – though monthly income will diminish.
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Monday 18 December 2017
The following e-mail was received today from Shannon – sharing some moments from Maya, Kieran and Priya’s activities.
” Here are a few recent photos. We have Priya looking at the miniature village at my Gran’s condo, Maya showing off her new toothless grin, and Kieran’s art. His pictures are usually very “abstract”, but I think we can recognize Santa’s animal helper in this one!”
Monday 18 December 2017
This day Sitara and Sachin participated in their school assembly sing song ahead of Christmas holidays. The program was in the afternoon about 2,30 pm. Nana/nani could not attend as they were in Petawawa – having a meeting with the new owner of the mall property and then playing bridge card game at Lions Club.
Monday 25 December 2017
nana/nani spent Christmas Day at Mackey – arriving there at about 10:30 am. Both Sitara and Sachin were up and ready for opening their Santa gifts . They got lots of gifts – different types . Educational to play items as well as cloths and books . Nana/Nani gave Sachin an Electric Circuit Board – making various electrical items . Sitara got a Chemistry set .
Nana/nani spent the night at Mackey – played games with kids and their parents while watching TV program on their new TV ( some 60 inch) installed in the Recreation Room .
Maya ,Kieran and Priya (along with their parents) spent their Christmas Day with their grandparents ( maternal side) in Toronto. They got a combined gift – a doll house(so all kids can play together) from their Ba/Bapuji . This Doll House will be presented to them when celebrating Christmas in Deep River ( with their Ba / Bapuji/ cousins – Sitara and Sachin/ and their Nina Foi and Sunjay Fuva ) on coming Friday 29 December 2017.
Maya ,Kieran and Priya are coming to Deep River on Thursday 28 December 2017 – being driven there by their parents.
On Saturday 30 December – all celebrate Priya’s 1st birthday (born on 22 December 2016) here with her Ba, Bapuji, cousins Sitara and Sachin, her Nina Foi, Sunjay Fuva and of course with her sister Maya , brother Kieran and her parents. The birthday party was at Mackey – her Nina Foi/Sunjay Fuva organized a superb party. Nadia and her family were also participating in the birthday celebration. The day was most joyful . Ba/Bapuji (nana/nani) returned to Deep River at about 10.30 pm – very cold outside . Temperatures are dipping for last few days. Priya, her siblings and parents stayed at Mackey for the night.
Sunday 31 December 2017
After spending time at home- kids playing few board games and after dinner (around 7.30 pm) all went to Petawawa Civic Center for free skating and other entertainment for the last day of the year. Stayed there till the end ( 9.00 pm)
Both Kieran and Maya were supported by their dad , Nina Foi and their cousins (Sitara and Sachin) It was a cold night hovering around -20 degrees C. Both had great fun while Priya got looked after by her mom . Ba/Bapuji were also there.

Our Recent Visit to the U.K. – August/September 2017

Our visit to the U.K. – from Tuesday 22 August to Tuesday 19 September 2017

Our recent visit to United Kingdom turned out to be overwhelmingly successful – in terms of the wide ranging experience and uplift that I (and of course my wife) received – while interacting with many of our family members and friends – visiting from Kenya and those residing within the U.K.

Here is the write-up – a bit long one but it provides lot of information- for future reference :

In short, I can describe it as heavenly – as it uplifted our emotional vibes from meeting our family members and friends.

Background

The primary reason visiting U.K was to attend Mohanlal’s granddaughter Anisha’s ( daughter of Mayur/Bhavni) wedding in London but arising from that event – my wife and I were to rekindle our memories of family ties with many of my wife’s relations. This view was fortified by the fact that my eldest brother (Kanti) was also visiting from Kenya at the time to spend time with his two sons (Shammir & Nehul) & their families. This would again afford further chance to revisit our fond memories with many of my side of relations. Further, this provided the argument that (having) my brother visiting U.K. will afford us a lifetime opportunity to pose for a family photo of those of my siblings & their spouses (currently alive ) and who are presently in U.K. Of course we missed my sister Sarla & her husband (Satish) who remain in Kenya.

Note: Last we visited U.K and Kenya was some 10 years ago – to attend the wedding in Kenya of Mohanlal’s granddaughter Aarti (daughter of Anju/Naina in Nairobi). So there was a gap of 10 years -when we remained only sporadically connected with our near and dear ones.

So eventually with some gentle plodding by our daughter (Nina) and son-in-law (Sunjay) , we decided to take the trip. So last minutes tickets were booked and the trip began safely -with Sunjay taking time from his work and drove us to the Ottawa international Airport and Hasu , my cousin (my maternal uncle’s son ) came over & picked us from the Heathrow Airport on arrival.

Thank you Hasu and Dhanak for a warm welcome to London. Your warmth, chatter and late night tea along with Atul’s energy and his recommended Chinese Dried Plums will be remembered at all times.

There were some specific events and experiences that we went through when visiting the U.K this time. We avoided any tourist traps and remained focused to spend time with our family members and friends.

So now I will narrate some of these events :

These are:

Event 1 – Remembering my AmuMama – whom we recently lost

Event 2 – Anisha weds Rikin

Event 3 – Meeting some of my colleagues from the Royal College, Nairobi

Event 4 – SamvatsarÄ« Lunch at the Oshwal Center

Event 5 – Attending ” Saadadi ” – a condolence meeting at Oshwal Ekta Center

Event 6 – Celebrating 80th Birthday of my eldest brother

Event 7 – Ajul’s dream girl (Daksha) – and announcement of impending engagement

Event 8 – Our itinerary of stay in U.K – as it unfolded

Event 9 – Departure ( adios) – Michhami Dukkadam to all

Event 1

We spent the first few days – after our arrival in London for remembering and expressing our sorrow for recent loss of my loving maternal uncle AmuMama ( who passed away not too long ago in Kenya) with his son (Nilesh & family ) for loss of his father, with Hasu, his brother Atul , his brother Jitesh and families for loss of their uncle ( AmuKaka – who is their paternal uncle), my ShantiMama & family – for loss of a brother and with my ChampaMami for loss of her brother-in-law.

Subsequently , we mourned my uncle’s death with my RamnikMama & family – for loss of his brother and Darshi ( who had just come over from Nairobi,Kenya) – who is my AmuMama’s granddaughter and was with him till last minute.

My take on my AmuMama – (note : for my poem from the heart refer to my blog – referred below).

Link: http://pravinshah.org/wp-admin/post.php?post=1025&action=edit&message=1

My AmuMama passed away on 12 July 2017 in Nairobi, Kenya. AmuMama was born in Kenya, lived his whole life in Kenya. AmuMama had been a pillar to me – when I was 16 years old and completed my Senior Cambridge in Mombasa – he helped me with moral and financial support so I could start on my journey to become a professional engineer . I graduated from the Royal College, Nairobi ( second batch of the newly opened college -with Mahatma Gandhi statue- funds contributed by the Indian Community of East Africa) in 1962 as a Civil Engineer with professional qualification from the Institution of Civil Engineers of London. I stayed with the joint household of my AmuMama & GunvantMama on Duke Street in Nairobi – and then walking from there to the Royal College precinct. During third year, I moved to the Hostel attached to the Royal College. After my graduation and my work career , my AmuMama remained my best friend and support in case of any need – like transportation etc. Well he was such a helpful person for anyone who needed his help – with cheerful smile and witty conversation on his lips.

We – I will miss you a lot but then you are always in my heart.

The London trip helped me to share my sorrow and thus overcome my grief for my beloved AmuMama and accept the reality of loss.

Event 2

The Anisha wedding was fabulous with so many events to attend. We met with Anisha and all family members prior to actual wedding day – and also the groom (Rikin ) – on Mehndi day.

The three days we spent with various events/gatherings – led us to meet most relatives from Jackie’s side but also others who were friends and/or related to Mohanlal and family. Most of us celebrated each event with complete attention, fun and serious understanding of what was being done/celebrated.

The food was fabulous. Jackie being on a non-dairy diet- was catered accordingly.

From the young ones of Mohanlal’s family we met:

Niraj/Nili ( parents – Anju/Naina )

Neel/Rachna ( parents – Jinit/Mina )

Vikesh/Heenal ( parents – Jinit/Mina )

Arjun ( parents – Mayur/Bhavni)

Of course — Anisha & her to be husband Rikin ( parents – Mayur/Bhavni)

The current Anisha wedding – was leading us at times on a journey through memory lane – reminding us of the earlier wedding we attended in Nairobi (travelling from Canada to attend the wedding) some 10 years ago for Mohanlal’s other granddaughter (Arti ) – when Jackie and me had opportunity to reconnect with her relatives in Kenya at that time after a long time away in Canada.

This time all young ones (in Mohanlal’s family) have grown up, most married and all being so polite and welcoming.

Of course at that time (10 years ago) Anoop ( Jackie’s nephew – her brother Jayantilal’s son) was alive. Anoop is still very much in our thoughts.

During this wedding , Anoop’s sister Minal and her husband Sachin had come along from Kenya with Minal’s mom Manjubhabhi. We were so taken by Minal’s loving smile and her simple but caring attention to her JackieAuntie.

During this wedding, we were pleased to meet and join in the celebration with Jackie’s other brother Sobhag and his wife Hansabhabhi -who had travelled from Kenya to attend the wedding. Their daughter Anjali had also flown in from the USA to attend the wedding.

This afforded the opportunity to be around the near and dear ones (even for a short time) – as we are aging this meeting becomes all the more important for reliving our past.

The actual wedding was performed at the Ditton Park Manor – the bridegroom party to be arriving at 8.30 am in the morning of Monday 28 August 2017. So to enable us an easy and relaxed experience -we had decided to stay two (2) nights in a nearby hotel (Heathrow/Windsor Marriott Hotel , Langley, Slough) – Sunday night and Monday night.

The wedding bridegroom party arrived at around 9.00 am and thereafter bridegroom having been welcomed ceremoniously by the bride’s mother – the wedding started ( within a professional lawn marquee ) at about 10.00 am (after breakfast) . The presiding priest was Kamal Pandey – a young, affable and bi-lingual priest for the occasion. The ceremony was kind of Jain themed. There was pin-dropped silence during the ceremony.

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Ditton Park Manor

Just 20 minutes from London is a truly exclusive location, where time appears to stand still within an atmosphere of enchantment.

Ditton Manor has over a century of charm but with all the modern amenities to host wedding parties from 120 seated in the Great Hall or up to a 1000 guests within a professional lawn marquee.

Ditton Park belonged to the crown in the reign of Queen Elizabeth 1. It then eventually passed to Ralph Montagu , 1st Duke of Montagu, through marriage. The present house which may have been first built around 1500 was badly damaged by fire in 1812.

Nearby, on the Great West Road, a public house known as the Montague [sic] Arms stands, now owned and operated as a Harvester restaurant. The pub dates back to the early 19th century.

Link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ditton_Park

Note: Jackie and I had dinner on Sunday (27 August 2017) night and breakfast on Tuesday morning at the said Harvester restaurant. So friendly and homely – the waitress spent time and found a carton of Soya Milk for Jackie’s non-dairy diet along with other menu items.

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After wedding was over – all were treated to a fabulous vegetarian lunch and then some of us went to their accommodation at the Marriot hotel for rest till 5.00 pm – and then embarked on the bus (special for transporting guests from the Ditton Park Manor to the Hotel and back) and arrived back at the Ditton Park Manor at about 5.30 pm ( start of the Reception time) . We all gathered on the grounds and had refreshment/drinks and took photos etc.

At one point, looking at the Manor – which looks like a palace (albeit all simple and without much decoration) – where I saw a balcony and uttered to others as to ” When is the Prince or Queen coming to wave at us? ” It was in the spirit of making a lighter conversation in the ambience of sitting under a balcony of a palace .

Well, it happened – both Rikin and Anisha ( assuming the role of prince & queen for the moment – as they were the groom & bride ) appeared on the balcony and waved to us – sitting or standing under the balcony. So the statement uttered came to be true – for us.

How times have changed? It was not long ago when Winston Churchill spewed venom at India (and Indians) – calling Mahatma Gandhi posing as a fakir and his imperial bent was supported by many British citizens and leaders. Now Indians can rent a manor (previously owned by a British Duke) and perform wedding ceremonies with Jain/Hindu slokas with all the freedom and rights. So Britain has changed – and we have advanced educationally and economically plus politically. That is the effect of democracy in Britain.

After reception dinner – there was dance on the floor – the first dance led by Rikin and Anisha. Jackie and I joined in the fun and danced a couple of numbers – before we left for the hotel at about 11.00 pm.

Event 3

The meeting with some of my old college colleagues ( from way back ) had come out of the blue.

Note: I did my Civil Engineering education at Royal Technical College (RTC) , Nairobi finishing in June 1962. The RTC was established in 1956. I was in the second batch(at the new College) starting my college time in September 1957. Depending on when you attended the college, it may have been called Royal Technical College , Royal College Nairobi, or University College Nairobi. It wasn”™t until 1970 that the college was transformed into the University of Nairobi.

It so transpired that we were warmly welcomed by Bhaskar/Vidula Patel to spend some time with them -while visiting U.K. this time. Both Bhaskar & Vidula are ex-Royal College students – whom we had met earlier. We decided to spend a few days with them immediately after Anisha’s wedding . So Bhaskar & Vidula picked us up at noon time on Tuesday 29 August 2017 from the Marriot Hotel. Well, they were working enthusiastically to organize a gathering of a few Royal College ex-students (who are currently residing in London) for a dinner party to welcome Jackie & me in their midst.

The dinner party came about on the same day – that is on Tuesday 29 August 2017. Lo Behold! the gathering was planned to be at the famous and historic Indian Gymkhana Club in London. We were so spell-bound with all the happenings – first meeting with some of the old College colleagues and that at the Indian Gymkhana Club.

Note: Indian Gymkhana Club is a combined Cricket, Football and Hockey Club and was established in 1916. It is the largest and longest-standing multiracial Sports Club in the United Kingdom. The club is celebrating 100 years of existence this year. However, the current site was opened on 15-acre site in Osterley, West London in 1922 – thanks to donations from some of the most illustrious families in India, including the maharajas of Patiala, Kapurthala, Jhalawar and Cooch Behar.

Link: https://www.theguardian.com/cricket-has-no-boundaries/2017/may/25/its-a-special-place-the-101-year-history-of-the-indian-gymkhana-cricket-club

There were some 6 couples (besides us) who attended the dinner gathering – all very charming and bubbly in welcoming us.

Following colleagues and wives attended the dinner.

1) Bhaskar Patel & his wife Vidula – who organized the dinner party & with whom Jackie and I had gone to the dinner party.

2) Mansukh Shah & his wife Lata

3) Pyarali Mannani & Nasim

4) Edgar d’Sa

5) Himat Talsania & Kanta

6) Chhagan Mistry (Architect) & his wife Nalini

Note : Mansukh and I were classmates in High School in Mombasa & then at Royal College in Nairobi. The others who came to welcome me were students at Royal College – possibly a couple of years junior to me (and Mansukh) but I had met a couple of them at a RTC gathering in Toronto in the year 2001.

My wife and I were floored by the warm time we spent together -remembering and reminiscing about old college days and also remembering others who were not at the table at this time. Fabulous.

One incident that we remembered & jolted me and my memory was about — a rag day parade in 1961 – during which an accident happened and we lost one of our colleague students (Chhaya) who got caught under the wheel of a parade truck. Also another incident -shortly after our graduation , one of our colleagues ( Fonseca) had joined with the Royal Air force in U.K. – and during training had an accident and plane crashed and we lost him. This memory was a bit of shocker – buried , at least , in my conscience for a long time. Now it has surfaced and the sad memory does hurt – even after so many years.

I was pleased to see Mansukh Shah and his wife, Latta who had come to the gathering to welcome us. They were introduced to Jackie and I am sure they had pleasant conversations.

Mansukh and I have been together while growing up in Mombasa, Kenya – we were together in the high school (Technical High School) Mombasa — in the same class- and there after again at the Royal College in Nairobi – again in the same class for Civil Engineering qualification. We completed our education at the same time – graduating as Civil Engineers. After college, we separated out to different career routes – leading him to be in U.K. and I am in Canada. So meeting him after so many years was a very pleasant happening – though now both are retired as professional Civil Engineers.

I got the opportunity during dinner to have a chat/conversation with Chhagan Mistry. He is an architect by profession. Nice chat with Chhagan – it transpired that he was instrumental in bringing to the notice of Oshwal Shahs Community in London about a huge property at Potters Bar, which was available for purchase. The long and short of that is — the Oshwal Shahs own that property and now we have Oshwal Center there. Also he helped in the design & details for the Jain Temple on the property.

A bit of history for my record from my conversation with Chhagan.

One item that kind of spilled over during the conversation is about the visible success in their career and generally in life of many of the early years graduates from the RTC – even when they are scattered across many countries (such as East Africa , U.K., Canada, Australia and USA). The technical acumen and leadership exercised by most is astounding and is a tribute to the values instilled and foresight of our fathers and grandfathers during our upbringing under difficult colonial times.

A note about our stay with Bhaskar and Vidula

We feel that we are fortunate to enjoy the warm hospitality that Bhaskar and Vidula bestowed on us during our stay with them and which kind of transitioned us subsequently to a smooth stay in London.

After Bhaskar & Vidula picked us up at noon time on Tuesday 29 August 2017 from the Marriot Hotel , we went to their home in Ruislip.

Both Jackie and I were immediately awed by collection of their various fabulous artifacts in their home. The most attention grabbing and those inspiring reverence were two – i) a ” stained glass” Ganeshji (crafted by one of their contacts) and ii) an intricate photo of ShreeNathji studded with various semi-precious stones. These two ignited in my heart my prayer mode – a sort of doing a religious pilgrimage visit.

We spent Wednesday shopping – went with Bhaskar for woolen sweaters (made in UK) – bought two sweaters – Pringle brand (made in Scotland) and also I needed two special AAAA batteries for my hearing-aid remote. These we could not get from the shops.

Well, Bhaskar/Vidula were kind & took (drove) us to Rugby on Thursday 31 August 2017 – where we wanted to make a visit to meet with our son-in-law Sunjay’s mom Hasuben . It was a beautiful day and we had experience of M1 highway and we arrived at Rugby at noon time – we had a good visit and after lunch and socializing for a while we returned back to Bhaskar/Vidula’s home by the evening. After dinner we spent time chatting and also looking/savouring at Bhaskar’s album of RTC memories & photos from yonder years.

Vidula is an expert cook and enjoyed her meals . I still remember her home made pickle – ” Chhundo ” (mango pickle) – exceptional texture and test and accompaniment to any main dish. Thanks Vidula.

Event 4

It was the Paryushana festival time when we visited the U.K. SamvatsarÄ« (Forgiveness Day) is the last day of Paryushana festival observed by the followers of Jain religion. On this day, Jains ask for the forgiveness for their mistakes committed knowingly or unknowingly from the fellow beings.

It so happened that we were in London during Jain Paryushana festival and thus we were fortunate to partake in this year’s Samvatsari Lunch organized by the Oshwal Association of the U.K. on Sunday 03 September 2017 at the Oshwal Center, Potters Bar, Hertfordshire.

This afforded us the opportunity not only to partake in the Lunch – but also to visit the famous Oshwal Center of London and also the Jain Temple located there. Besides we were to get to meet many of our relatives and friends whom we would not have time otherwise to visit individually.

At that time we were guests and staying with my sister Ranjan and her husband Mahendra in Edgware. So we went with them – driven by Mahendra – to Oshwal Center arriving there by 11.00 am. Also their daughter Bini was with us.

**As we had time before lunch – we went over to the Temple – made our prayers and then went on the grounds to enjoy the garden and many different well carved ” stambhs – pillars “.**

The Jain Temple

The Jain Temple is a “Shikhar Bandhi” Jain Temple and is popular with artistic carving. The inner sacred sanctum houses idols of 3 Tirthankaras (spiritual teachers of the dharma – righteous path) . Mul nayak is Mahavir Swami; on his left is Parshvanath and on his right is Adishvara.

There is a ” Hand with Ahimsa Chkara ” on the ground along one side of the Temple. It is called the Ahimsa Hand (Jain Hand) and symbolizes non-violence. It is a right hand shown facing upwards (fingers up), with the thumb slightly pointed out.

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Over upper level ground – a magnificent grove of trees is planted – some 52 trees – representing 52 villages of Halar. Note: Halar is a county/borough in Saurashtra , Gujarat, India – from where originally members of our Visa Oshwal community migrated – about a century ago – to go overseas mostly to Bombay and then to Kenya & other parts of East Africa .

Each tree is planted on its own separated from each other by a few feet and each tree is surrounded by a concrete round platform ( ” Otlo “- a Gujarati term ) depicting the name of a village and donors who have contributed funds towards planting that particular tree & platform.

This Temple is gaining reputation for an excellent place for pilgrimage (by Jain visitors to London) and also by tourists interested in knowing/understanding other culture/religion/tradition of the world.

The carved artistic temple along with well laid out and spacious garden provides the peaceful and solemn ambience for those seeking spiritual experience.

Samvatsari Lunch

The Samvatsari lunch was held at the main building – utilizing all the halls (and a marquee)- as to accommodate many participants who had come to share this joyous but somber day in the Jain calendar.

The organization was superb, the enthusiasm and caring attitude of the volunteers was exemplary and worth to be proud of. The crowd was well behaved and remained in queue where so needed. We stood in the queue and there we met Jigna ( Mahendra/Ranjan’s eldest daughter ), her husband Richard and their kids – Ishan & Rishi. We also met Priyal (my nephew Sunay’s wife) and her two kids – Ayla & her brother Ridai. Further we met others too while in the queue – I remember meeting my niece Rina also.

As the queue wound down to the lower basement hall, we were greeted with smile and ” namaskar ” by specially posted volunteers welcoming the participants with humility and wishing all of us a nice lunch. This was very profound in lifting our joyous spirit and at the basement hall – we picked up our lunch (chosen by each of us from a variety of menu items) served by volunteers posted at various tables. After pick up of the lunch – we proceeded to the marquee which was erected next to the Main Building . There we all sat down and had our lunch – with quiet and relaxed manner.

After lunch, we came out to the grounds – from exit side – and there we had some time to mill around meeting some old acquaintances (I met a couple of brothers (Ashok & Suryakant) who were our neighbours in Mombasa -Station Road when I was in primary school). And also meeting some of our relatives ( in fact we met most of Jackie’s cousins & wives ).

We spent some time at the Main Building halls – where the ” physically challenged ” were served lunch . The love and care shown by the volunteer servers to each and every guest was exceptionally heart-warming.

So we ended our visit to the Oshwal Center by 3.30 pm and returning back we decided to visit Jackie’s cousin brother Laljibhai ( who lives with his son Harshit & Alpa ). Laljibhai has medical problems and need constant care.

My admiration and many thanks to all the volunteers who made the day very comfortable.

Event 5

Saadadi – Condolence Meeting . ” Saadadi ” style condolence meeting , I believe , is unique to our Community – having originated in Nairobi, Kenya. ” Saadadi ” is organized at a Community Hall within few days immediately after death of an individual – by the close relatives of the deceased.

On Sunday 03 September 2017 (the day we went for Samvantari Lunch) – after visiting Laljibhai (Jackie’s cousin brother) at his son’s home – we came to Ranjan/Mahendra home and had dinner and some rest.

After that we went to a ” Saadadi ” – a condolence meeting held at the Oshwal Ekta Center for Hansaben. We went with Mahendra/Ranjan. Hansaben had passed away a few days back. She is sister of my JayaKaki ( wife of my RashikUncle or Bachukaka – as we used to call him) plus she is also related to Mahendra from her husband side.

At the Condolence meeting – all (those coming to condole) get into a queue ( can be a long line) which slowly threads towards a line of mourners (from Hansaben’s family members – in this case) – either standing or sitting down – and as we get to the line – each one in line get to offer his or her either silent condolence message or expressing few words to that effect and then move on to the next mourner – until all are touched (metaphorically speaking) and offered condolence message – The purpose being that – in a way to make a gesture that lets the family know you”™re thinking of them and share their sorrow. Your choice of words is important and to avoid any inappropriate word.

This meeting has a set time – so we arrived within the allotted time and once the line move on – it takes only about 1/2 hour to complete the process.

This meeting allows opportunity to meet others -who would have come to condole – either before joining the line or after the process is complete.

As we were recent visitors to London – many people came over and said Hi and had a bit of a chat – remembering our past. One of the guys I met was Mansukh Kanji -who was my neighbourhood friend when I was in primary/secondary school in Mombasa – living on Station Road -near our Visa Oshwal Community Place – that is now 60 -65 years ago. That was very nice. We also met Mansukh and his wife – Indu (Manjubhabhi’s brother & wife) as well as met Mahendra & wife (Virparfuva’s eldest son – the other sons &wives we met at Oshwal Center on Samvatsari lunch day).

After that we went over to Anuj’s parents home ( Anuj is Bini’s husband). Also Anuj was home – as he had returned back from his visit to Belgium.

Oshwal Ekta Center is the Oshwal Community center in Edgware, England – not very far from Ranjan/Mahendra home. Nice hall and they ( the Organizing Committee ) have plans for more renovations in the days to come. Only problem with this location is lack of parking – not like Oshwal Centre at Potters Bar where parking is ample.

Event 6

This visit to London was to achieve few objectives . One of these was to spend time with my eldest brother, Kanti (turning 80 and visiting from Kenya for a few days) – as much as is feasible during our visit.

It so happened that he turned 80 – the day we landed at Heathrow Airport arriving from Canada – Wednesday 23 August 2017. Though talking with him on the phone after we landed in London – we got opportunity to meet him only after a few days. That was the day when his sons (Shammir & Nehul) had organized a surprise birthday party for him. He did not know about it and his son Shammir and family were overseas (visiting California , USA for holidays) – when we arrived in London. We were approached by Nehul for the party – the invitation and the date – at 6.00 pm Saturday 26 August 2017 and it to be at Shammir’s place – as he would be back from USA by then.

Saturday was a busy day for us – as we were to be at Mayur’s place (Northwood) in the afternoon to participate in Anisha’s Mehndi event. We had to excuse ourselves around 8.30 pm from the festivities and leave Mayur’s place to get to the party. Note: There was a dance after dinner but we missed all that as we could not remain late and miss my brother’s birthday party.

It was important to be at the birthday party on two counts 1) It was my brother’s 80th birthday party and thus I would not want to miss it and 2) this is the only chance we will get to meet the whole side of my family together – which would then allow a photo shoot of our siblings and their spouses – who are in U.K. So we arrived at Shammir’s place at about 9.00 pm – a bit late for the party but we were in time for the cake cutting and subsequent photo of all my brothers, sisters and their spouses together. I must mention here that we could not have in the photo — my brother Arwind, my Kanchanbhabhi (Kanti’s wife) – as both of them have passed away some years ago. Also my sister Sarla and her husband Satish could not be in the photo shoot – as they were in Nairobi, Kenya.

It was terrific that we managed to get to the party- however late and missing some items at Mayur’s place – as besides my siblings /spouses we also met almost all of our nephews and nieces and spouses and most of the grandkids. Note: My sister Daksha and her husband had come all the way from Northampton and their three sons ( Ajul, Krupesh and Dinit) have also joined in – them being in London.

The party turned out to be exciting – having some cool moments to reminisce our family fraternity and getting fun looking at each other and sharing happy moments. At the end of the party around mid-night, my brother Suryakant dropped us at Hasu’s place where we were staying.

Event 7

Ajul decides to propose to his girlfriend (Daksha). This event was kind of a surprise (especially during our visit to England ) – not thought of even in our dreams.

Ajul is my sister Daksha (Dipak)’s eldest son – whom we had met earlier at my brother Kanti’s 80th birthday party. Fine young man.

So we had gone over to Northampton to spend a weekend with Daksha and Dipak.

We went to Northampton to Daksha/Dipak home on Friday 08 September 2017 with Mahendra/Ranjan and my brother Kanti. Mahenda drove us all in his car.

That evening, Ajul had also come over (by train from London) along with his girlfriend (also named Daksha) to be with his parents in Northampton and also spend some time with us too – besides they arranged it in such a way so his girlfriend Daksha was introduced to all us on Friday – as Ranjan (his Masi), Mahendra (his Masa) and Kanti (his Mama) and myself & Jackie (his Mama/Mami) were all there. A sort of breaking a story /news of impending engagement.

However, Mahendra, Ranjan and Kanti returned to London on Friday night leaving Northampton at about mid-night – and Jackie and I remaining to spend the weekend there.

After spending the day together – going to John Lewis Mall at Milton Keynes and to a Buddhist Pagoda around that area – we returned back to London on Sunday 10 September 2017 in the evening – driven by Dipak in their minivan . We were to stay with Suryakant/Jasu in London that night but we had a detour to my nephew Nimish’s home . So Ajul introduced his girlfriend Daksha to his KumudMami and to Nimish and Prasita . After that Dipak drove us to Suryakant/Jasu home and there again introductions were made and after that late at night they left.

So it happened fast after that – Daksha’s parents flew over from Dehradun (India) on Friday (15 September 2017) next and spent their Saturday in Northampton and ” the die was cast “. So unofficially Ajul and Daksha were engaged – a formal ceremonial proposal was made by Ajul to Daksha later.

So on Saturday (15 September 2017) evening – Daksha/Dipek , Ajul and his girl friend Daksha & her parents come over to London at Shammir’s home – where we had gathered for dinner and introductions were made and relations were established. Also Krupesh (Ajul’s brother) came over after a while to join in the bonhomie.

To top it up – sweets from Dehradun (India) were distributed for celebrating the occasion. After a short time together – Daksha/Dipek , Ajul and his girl friend Daksha & her parents and Krupesh left – and thereafter we went to the dining table for our dinner. At the dining table – we were – Jackie, myself, Kanti, Suryakant & Jasu, Kumudbhabhi , Rina’s mom , Shammir & Rina – 9 in total. Both grandkids (Ruan & Syan) had their dinner earlier.

Event 8 – Our itinerary of stay in U.K – as it unfolded

a) Departing from Ottawa on Tuesday 22 August 2017 at 10.40 pm local time & arriving at Heathrow Airport , London on Wednesday 23 August 2017 – Welcomed by Hasu ( my cousin – maternal)

Stayed with Hasu and his wife Dhank – from Wednesday 23 August to Sunday 27 August 2017

See above Event 1 (remembering my AmuMama) write-up – for some details.

Also see above Event 6 write-up – for some details on my brother Kanti’s 80th birthday at his son Shammir’s home

b) Stayed at Heathrow/Windsor Marriott Hotel , Langley, Slough – from Sunday 27 August to Tuesday 29 August 2017 – for attending Anisha’s wedding.

See above Event 2 ( Anisha weds Rikin ) write-up – for some details.

c) Stayed with our Royal College colleague & friend Bhaskar Patel & His wife Vidula – from Tuesday 29 August to Friday 01 September 2017.

See above Event 3 ( dinner with Royal College colleagues) write-up – for some details

also we had a day visit with Hasuben ( Sunjay’s mom) in Rugby on Thursday 31 August 2017 – driven there by Bhaskar / Vidula .

d) Stayed with Ranjan/Mahendra (my sister & her husband) – from Friday 01 September to Tuesday 05 September 2017

See above Event 4 ( Samvatsari Lunch) & Event 5 (Saddaadi) write-ups – for some details

During our stay – we had dinner at my ShantiMama/LekhaMami home on Monday 04 September 2017. My brother Kanti was also invited.

e) Stayed with Suryakant/Jasu (my brother & his wife) from Tuesday 05 September to Friday 08 September 2017

also during that time :

– had dinner at Blue Ginger Restaurant with Harkhu/Nimu, Mansukh/Lekha & Laxmikant/Mukta on Wednesday 06 September 2017. – A good time spent with friends .

Harkhu is my old time friend from Kenya. Mansukh is my school and college friend. Laxmikant is Jackie’s relation and friend.

– had lunch at Mansukh /Sobhna (Jackie’s cousin brother & wife ) home on Thursday 07 September 2017 – there were also (also Sheetal and his wife were at the lunch) , ManuBhabhi, ManjuBhabhi, Pravin/Champu, Manjubhabhi’s brother Mansukhbhai and his wife Indu were also invited. Also Sushi/ Rajni were there too. Pravin/Champu’s daughter (Shaily) also came over.

– Went over for a visit to Rina/Minesh home on Thursday 07 September 2017 evening . Met Minesh’s parents ( Vijayaben and Venichandbhai (Vinubhai . Also met their daughter Ruhi . Their other daughter, Kria, had gone to sleep at that time.

Rina – trying to be vegan – knew about Soya Yogurt , Soya Ice Cream . Also had tea which was Caffeine free – a product of South Africa ( known as Tick-Tock tea)

Note: Tick Tock”˜s deep colour and full taste make a delicious cup of tea, and it”™s well known for its health properties too. Gentle, soothing, naturally caffeine free and low in tannin, Tick Tock Rooibos Tea can be enjoyed at any time, even at bed time.

Tick Tock Rooibos tea is still harvested by hand and cured in the traditional way The process takes place in the crisp air of the Cedarberg Mountains of South Africa’s Cape. It requires great skill to know when the cure is at its peak; one sign is that it begins to give off a delicious sweet aroma that attracts wild bees.

f) Stayed with Daksha/ Dipak (my sister and her husband) in Northampton between Friday 08 September to Sunday 10 September 2017 . Driven there by Mahendra/Ranjan . My brother Kanti also joined us.

See above Event 7 ( Ajul’s dream girl -Daksha) write-up – for some details.

also during that time on Saturday :

– Daksha /Dipek took us to meet Champa/Harkhu in Northampton . Champa had worked for TESCO for 21 years until her injuries – when she retired. She has 3 girls – all grown up . One – Kalpa – is married ( to a local guy – they have two kids – a boy and a girl – both toddlers) The two others ( Bina & Rina) are not married and live nearby -and together.

– and in subsequently in the afternoon we went to Leicester – a sort of pilgrimage – to go to Shree Jalaram Temple for worship. Nice temple – with an idol of Shree Jalaram with an idol of Shree Ram behind. After the worship at Shree Jalaram Temple – we went to the Jain Temple ( which is known to be the oldest in the Western world). After worship – we waited till 7.00 pm for aarti – met Rajni Mehta & his wife ( who seem to be one of the leaders at the Temple).

The Aarti started at 7.00 pm – and we were encouraged to take & lead the Aarti – which we did. There were 3 Aarti ( one for Digambar, one for Swetamber and last for Rajchandraji. After Aarti — there was sing song ( stavan) led by a good singer.

We left the JainTemple at about 9.00 pm and then went for dinner at Indigo Restaurant serving Indian cuisine. Arrived back to Northampton at about mid-night . Over tea, had a long good “shooting the breeze type” conversation with Dipak past midnight.

On Sunday , we all went to John Lewis Center- Milton Keynes . At the mall, Daksha concentrated to find any Chinese Shop – for she knew I was looking for Chinese Dried Plums ( believed to be good for digestion – for constipation relief – as recommended by Atul & already tried by me at the start of the journey to UK). Well, we found it – not exactly at the John Lewis mall but at the adjoining Food Mall . We managed to buy few packets of these Dried Plums. Note : By the way – over the coming week Daksha tried these Dried Plums and she did report a good result – for her constipation problem.

After the mall visit – on the way back to Northampton – we took a detour to a Buddhist Pagoda (Peace Pagoda) & Temple in the vicinity – at Willen Lake Milton Keynes. We had to climb steps to go over to the Peace Pagoda – and walked over the top of the hill towards the Temple but wind and adverse weather made it difficult to go over to the Temple – had my hat had blown over and had to be retrieved with some concern. However, we did get to the Tree where worshipper place their written prayers . At that place there was a stone cairn with write-up and a fixed on the cairn was a small golden Ganesha statue. I am surprised to see a Ganesha image at a Buddhist shrine.

Note: Ganesha also appears in Buddhism, not only in the form of the Buddhist god VinÄyaka, but also portrayed as a Hindu deity form also called VinÄyaka. His image may be found on Buddhist sculptures of the late Gupta period.

See Link: https://www.buddhagroove.com/what-is-significance-of-ganesha-in-buddhism/

After the visit to the Peace Pagoda , we rushed back to Northampton as Jigna/Richard and their toddlers ( Ishan & Rishi) were visiting Daksha’s family for an hour or so. They arrived about the same time we reached Daksha’s home. Had a great time playing with Rishi – a very adorable ~ 1 1/2 yr old boy. All had dinner refreshment together – and after Jigna family left – we kind of relaxed a bit before leaving Northampton for London.

We were to spend night at Suryakant/Jasu place . Dipak drove – all six of us again in their van. On the way to Suryakant’s home – Daxa made a diversion to go to Nimish’s home ( this was an opportunity to introduce Daksha Jr to Nimish family and to Kumudbhabhi ) .

When we arrived at Suryakant’s home ( about 9.30 pm) – surprise! Darshi and Nilesh ( Nilesh is Darshi’s Mama -mom’s brother) were there visiting. Darshi is granddaughter of my AmuMama ( Ela’s daughter) -who has recently arrived to UK to visit ( in fact she was to attend a conference but that got cancelled last minute) . Darshi is a Pharmacist by profession. My AmuMama passed away recently in Kenya ( just before we travelled to UK) and thus meeting Darshi was a God-sent opportunity. An opportunity to grieve within family.

g) Stayed one night with Suryakant/Jasu on Sunday 10 September 2017 and then

h) on Monday 11 September 2017 went to Sushi/Rajni home for a night . Met their son Deep ( who is physically challenged, gone through hardship while growing up but managed himself , did get an education and works with Tax Department since last many years. He did work with Hasu (my cousin) when Hasu was with the Tax Department. Hasu is now retired after 41 years of service. Deep lives independently in his own apartment – which he shares with a roomie ( a local person).

Note: Sushi/Rajni came over in the morning to pick us up from Suryakant’s home

On Tuesday 12 September 2017 – in the morning – before lunch , Sushi/Rajni took us over to the neighbourhood park for a walk . All the amenities for children playground BUT also a an adult physio corner were there. Nice weather and walk.

Manu Haria & his wife Shobhna came over to visit. Shobhna brought an Indian dress (maroon) for Sitara and a bag of Sooji flour ( for making shiro) . We declined the Sooji flour on account of being heavy to carry.

Sushi/Rajni (along with Deep) took us to visit Harshit/Alpa & Laljibhai . This is the second time we visited Laljibhai – who grew up with Jackie in the same household .

i) Stayed two (2) nights at Mayur/Bhavni home from Tuesday 12 September to Thursday 14 September 2017 . They had come over to Sushi/Rajni home to pick us up late in the afternoon.

Tuesday night , Anisha dropped by at her parents’ home before her parents dropped her to her in-laws home. Arjun was also home – with whom we had good conversation.

Note: In the morning of Wednesday, when I was resting a bit in the living room (at Mayur’s place) -as usual I was looking for something to read, Lo Behold ! what I found ? On the side of the sofa – I found a collection of books – amongst these there was one book which attracted my attention. The book is top Jain Book -translated into English . Title : Tattvartha Sutra – That Which is. This book is so excellent about Jainism and principles, We have a copy at home in Canada. I was mesmerized . This is moment which will transform me from my recent interest in Mystery/Detective books to philosophy/theology serious books – especially books about Jainism as I had done study previously when we were in Toronto Area – before 1986.

On Wednesday 13 September 2017 – at about noon Bhavni dropped us at Sanjiv/Pallavi’s home .

Pallavi & Manubhabhi wanted to take us for lunch and spend better part of day with them. On the way, we picked up Manjubhabhi from her sister’s home before we proceeded to go to the Swaminarayan Temple (Mandir) at Neasden, London . There we spent time in the Temple premises but we were at a wrong time when the actual Temple Sacred Sanctum was closed and thus after admiring the temple from outside -we left. It was decided on the run that we can go to Maru’s Bhajia House ( at Wembley) for lunch. So we ended up there.

What a lunch! Just took us back to our old days in Nairobi when there Maru’s Bhajia were very popular . Great time . Next to Maru’s Bhajia House was the Sanatan Temple . We went to worship there .

Note: The Sanatan Temple in Wembley was opened in the Summer of 2010, took 14 years to build, and is made entirely of imported Indian limestone.

After a worship at the Sanatan Temple – it transpired (during conversations in the car) that Dhanubhai Chandaria ( from Kenya) has recently arrived in London. So it was decided to go and visit him at his sister’s home – where he was staying. Dhanubhai has a great esteem for us and vice versa – so this was a pleasant surprise – him being in London. We had a great visit and at the end , Pallavi invited him/wife to join us at dinner at Pallavi/Sanjiv home that evening . So dinner went well – all having good time.

After dinner, Sanjiv dropped us at Mayur/Bhavni’s home to spend the night there. It was close to mid-night – but we had a good conversation with Mayur and Arjun prior to going to sleep.

j) Stayed at Ranjan/Mahendra home from Thursday 14 September to Sunday 17 September 2017.

Mayur dropped us at Mahendra/Ranjan place – going via Suryakant’s home ( to pick up a suitcase we had left there – Jasu was home ).

Dinesh came to visit at about 3.00 pm on Thursday at Mahendra’s home. Also surprise – Ranjan Malde ( our LaxmiMasi’s daughter) also came over to visit – day before she was travelling to Norway to be with her son ( her son works in Norway ).

All in all it turned out to be pleasant afternoon.

In the evening – there was dinner at Tikoo (Nimish) /Prasita home ( Kumudbhabhi) — Aashay, Savir are Nimish/Prasita’s sons. Savir is Sachin’s age (about 8 years) and Aashay is about 11 years old. Also Kanti, Suryakant/Jasu were there. Kumudbhabhi made puranpuri – which she remembered as my favorite .

After dinner, Suryakant dropped us at Mahendra’s place.

On Friday , Rishi – Mahendra/Ranjan’s grandson was dropped off by Richard in the morning while Ishan had gone to school.

Today is a special day at Oshwal Center for Snatra Puja – which Mahendra like to participate.

Note: This is a common Puja widely performed by most of the Deravasi Jain worshipers. It is also a starting Puja before any other main Puja.

So we all went (along with Rishi) to the Jain Temple at the Oshwal Center. Met Manikaki . Participated in the Snatra Puja. Also did Shanti Jal puja, Chaityavandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & Aarti at the Jain Temple.

Note: Shanti Jal puja – Water symbolizes life”™s ocean of birth, death and misery. This Jain puja reminds that one should live one’s life with honesty, truthfulness, love and compassion towards all living beings. This way one will be able to cross life”™s ocean and attain liberation (Moksha).

LINK: http://www.jaincentreleicester.com/resources/puja/

Lunch was provided in the hall . Ate many ladoos ( 3 1/2 ladoos) . Nice curry with sweet peas, tindora & fulka.

After that returned back to Mahendra/Ranjan Home . Mahendra went to pick up Ishan from school .

Dinesh came to visit about 3.00 pm and stayed until 5.00 pm .

Both kids (Ishan & Rishi) had a sleep over at their nana/nani ( Mahendra/Ranjan) place .

On Saturday, I went for a walk ( in the morning ) around the area by myself first and then with Mahendra taking a walk (after lunch) with Rishi in the stroller. This time we walked a longer route – stopping at Shammir’s place and saying Hi to Kanti as well as Shammor/Rina.

Bini/Anuj had come over to play with the kids (Ishan & Rishi) . Also Rehma joined them .

Shammir then came over at 3.00 pm to pick us up – as we were having dinner at his place.

While at Shammir – Tikoo(Nimish)/Prasita and Savir had come for a short to visit . Also RamnikMama/TaraMami came for a visit. This was excellent that I finally met them -otherwise our contact would only remain on the phone – while we were in London.

Nimish/Prasita and Savir left after spending less than an hour with the group.

Then unexpected happened. Daksha/Dipak came from Northampton to visit along with Ajul, Daxa Jr and her parents (from India). They announced that Ajul and Daksha Jr were now engaged (sort of unofficially) and Daksha (Ajul’s mom) distributed Dehradun sweets to celebrate the occasion. The guests – parents of Daksha Jr – (Raj Isar & his wife) are from Dehradun, India.

Rina had gone & picked her mom – who then joined us.

Suryakant/Jasu and Kumudbhabhi also came over and joined in the celebration. After sometime, RamnikMama/TaraMami left. Then Krupesh turned up to join in the celebration .

All stayed till about 9.00 pm and then Daxa and the group left for dinner somewhere in a restaurant and the rest remained behind to have dinner at Shammir/Rina home. Ruan & Syan (kids ) had their dinner earlier but Ruan came downstairs & took some of our group photos. On the dinner table we were – myself, Jackie, Kanti, Kumudbhabhi , Rina’s mom, Suryajkant, Jasu , Shammir and Rina . Late at night Suryakant dropped us off at Mahendra/Ranjan place.

Kanti was to travel to Kenya catching his plane (from Heathrow Airport) on Sunday morning.

Suryakant/Jasu to travel to Spain with Purvi & her husband for 2 weeks holiday (on Monday 18 September 2017)

And we were travelling on Tuesday 19 September 2017 – to return to Canada.

k) Stayed with Hasu/Dhanak from Sunday 17 September to Tuesday 19 September 2017

Note: Tuesday 19 September 2017 – being our last day in U.K .

Shaina (Manubhabhi’s daughter) came over (from Kent -where lives) just at about noon on Sunday 17 September – picked us up from Mahendra/Ranjan home – along with all our luggage. We dropped the luggage at Hasu’s place prior to proceeding to go pick up Manubhabhi . After that we went for lunch at a South Indian restaurant called Saravanna Bhavan (for dosa meal) in Wembley. I ate Kara Dosa & others selected Roya Masala dosa. Shaina’s treat. Thanks Shaina.

After lunch we proceeded to Pravin/Champu home for a visit. Met Sheelan’s ( Pravin/Champu’s son) wife – Murrey – and her two boys -about 5 or 6 years old . From there we went across the road to visit KankuKaki and Meghjikaka.

After that we were dropped off at Hasu’s place to stay ( note: there till our departure for Ottawa on Tuesday 19 September 2017).

Visited Radiatben (Dhanak’s mom) in the evening of Sunday at her Senior Apartment building . Very majestic lady.

On Monday , we Visited Amar/Vikita at their home. The kids (Aarav & Kiaan ) were home . Amar had taken time off from work. After that we went to visit Jitesh/Parul & Ashni (daughter) at their home.

Monday night Atul came over to visit . Also ShantiMama/LekhaMami came to visit and we all had good conversation.

note: Visited Laljibhai 2 times during our visit to London.

Event 9 – Departure ( adios) – Michhami Dukkadam to all

Well it is departure time for Ottawa, Canada after a beautiful and heavenly visit to intermingle and meet with our family members and friends – in the U.K but also those who came from Kenya. In fact Anjali (Sobhas/Hansa’s daughter) came from the USA. Note : most came to attend Anisha’s wedding.

On Tuesday 19 September 2017 at about noon – Hasu dropped us off at the Heathrow Airport Dhanak had already gone to work . Plane (AC889) departed at 3.45 pm local time and we arrived in Canada (Ottawa Airport) at 6.15 pm local time – Nina was there to pick us up .On the way we stopped at T & T Super Market (a Chinese Grocery Store) – picked up some groceries and some Chinese Dried Plum packets.

Adieus —- London. Many thanks specially to Hasu & Dhanak for welcoming us on arrival and then at the end taking us to the Airport for smooth departure . You have made it possible for our visit to England to become very enjoyable and comfortable.

There was so much fun and so much opening up & jogging of memories and making new memories and enjoying the late nights , restaurants, visit to family members & friends (specially from Royal College ), visit to temples and moreover attending and being part of pleasant social events – like wedding and engagement -well informal though.

Besides there was evidence of how many have moved on and aging – by coming across grandchildren who are coddled and looked after by many of the grandparents (all amongst our family and friends). We enjoy our grandchildren back in Canada who make our lives joyous and alive every day. Thus seeing many of family and friends are also having same experience was very cathartic.

Well to end – we are really very thankful to all, to each and every one of you who gave us cheer and laughs during our stay in U.K.

It is time for me to say Michhami Dukkadam to you all and genuinely if I have offended you in any way during our visit – I can assure it would have been unintentional and I seek forgiveness for any of my actions – if such was the case.

Please note Jackie (my wife) expresses similar sentiments.

And it was the Jain Paryushana festival time during our visit.

About pravinshah

The Jain Temple

The Jain Temple is a “Shikhar Bandhi” Jain Temple and is popular with artistic carving. The inner sacred sanctum houses idols of 3 Tirthankaras (spiritual teachers of the dharma – righteous path) . Mul nayak is Mahavir Swami; on his left is Parshvanath and on his right is Adishvara.

There is a ” Hand with Ahimsa Chkara ” on the ground along one side of the Temple. It is called the Ahimsa Hand (Jain Hand) and symbolizes non-violence. It is a right hand shown facing upwards (fingers up), with the thumb slightly pointed out.

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Each tree is planted on its own separated from each other by a fair few feet and each tree is surrounded by a concrete round platform ( ” Otlo “- a Gujarati term ) depicting the name of a village and donors who have contributed funds towards planting that particular tree & platform.

This Temple is gaining reputation for an excellent place for pilgrimage (by Jain visitors to London) and also by tourists interested in knowing/understanding other culture/religion/tradition of the world.

The carved artistic temple along with well laid out and spacious garden provides the peaceful and solemn ambience for those seeking spiritual experience.

Samvatsari Lunch

The Samvatsari lunch was held at the main building – utilizing all the halls (and a marquee)- as to accommodate many participants who had come to share this joyous but somber day in the Jain calendar.

After lunch, we came out to the grounds – from exit side – and there we had some time to mill around meeting more of our family members and some old acquaintances.

My admiration and many thanks ( and ” Koti koti vandan ” ) to all the volunteers who made the day very comfortable.

Friday 15 September 2017 ) was a special day at Oshwal Center for Snatra Puja – which my sister Ranjan and brother-in-law Mahendra would like to participate. So we joined them. What an experience!

I had not done Snatra Puja for a long time – so this was an opportunity to remind me about our Tirthankar Bhagwan achieving liberation from life and death cycle (attains Moksha) and provides an inspiration as to what can be achieved.

Also did ShantiKalash Jal puja, Chaitya Vandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & performing Aarti .

Also did ShantiKalash Jal puja, Chaitya Vandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & performing Aarti .

LINK: http://www.jaincentreleicester.com/resources/puja/

It so happened that we were in London during Jain Paryushana festival and thus we were fortunate to partake in this year’s Samvatsari Lunch organized by the Oshwal Association of the U.K. on Sunday 03 September 2017 at the Oshwal Center, Potters Bar, Hertfordshire.

This afforded us the opportunity not only to partake in the Lunch – but also to visit the famous Oshwal Center of London and also the Jain Temple located there. Besides we were to get to meet many of our relatives and friends whom we would not have time otherwise to visit individually.

At that time we were guests and staying with my sister Ranjan and her husband Mahendra in Edgware. So we went with them – driven by Mahendra – to Oshwal Center arriving there by 11.00 am. Also their daughter Bini was with us.

As we had time before lunch – we went over to the Temple – made our prayers and then went on the grounds to enjoy the garden and many different well carved ” stambhs – pillars “.

The Jain Temple

The Jain Temple is a “Shikhar Bandhi” Jain Temple and is popular with artistic carving. The inner sacred sanctum houses idols of 3 Tirthankaras (spiritual teachers of the dharma – righteous path) . Mul nayak is Mahavir Swami; on his left is Parshvanath and on his right is Adishvara.

There is a ” Hand with Ahimsa Chkara ” on the ground along one side of the Temple. It is called the Ahimsa Hand (Jain Hand) and symbolizes non-violence. It is a right hand shown facing upwards (fingers up), with the thumb slightly pointed out.

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Each tree is planted on its own separated from each other by a few feet and each tree is surrounded by a concrete round platform ( ” Otlo “- a Gujarati term ) depicting the name of a village and donors who have contributed funds towards planting that particular tree & platform.

This Temple is gaining reputation for an excellent place for pilgrimage (by Jain visitors to London) and also by tourists interested in knowing/understanding other culture/religion/tradition of the world.

The carved artistic temple along with well laid out and spacious garden provides the peaceful and solemn ambience for those seeking spiritual experience.

Samvatsari Lunch

The Samvatsari lunch was held at the main building – utilizing all the halls (and a marquee)- as to accommodate many participants who had come to share this joyous but somber day in the Jain calendar.

We spent some time at the Main Building halls – where the ” physically challenged ” were served lunch . The love and care shown by the volunteer servers to each and every guest was exceptionally heart-warming.

So we ended our visit to the Oshwal Center by 3.30 pm and returning back we decided to visit Jackie’s cousin brother Laljibhai ( who lives with his son Harshit & Alpa ). Laljibhai has medical problems and need constant care.

My admiration and many thanks to all the volunteers who made the day very comfortable.

Event 5

On Sunday 03 September 2017 (the day we went for Samvantari Lunch) – after visiting Laljibhai (Jackie’s cousin brother) at his son’s home – we came to Ranjan/Mahendra home and had dinner and some rest.

This meeting has a set time – so we arrived within the allotted time and once the line move on – it takes only about 1/2 hour to complete the process.

This meeting allows opportunity to meet others -who would have come to condole – either before joining the line or after the process is complete.

After that we went over to Anuj’s parents home ( Anuj is Bini’s husband). Also Anuj was home – as he had returned back from his visit to Belgium.

Event 6

This visit to London was to achieve few objectives . One of these was to spend time with my eldest brother, Kanti (turning 80 and visiting from Kenya for a few days) – as much as is feasible during our visit.

The party turned out to be exciting – having some cool moments to reminisce our family fraternity and getting fun looking at each other and sharing happy moments. At the end of the party around mid-night, my brother Suryakant dropped us at Hasu’s place where we were staying.

Event 7

Ajul decides to propose to his girlfriend (Daksha). This event was kind of a surprise (especially during our visit to England ) – not thought of even in our dreams.

Ajul is my sister Daksha (Dipak)’s eldest son – whom we had met earlier at my brother Kanti’s 80th birthday party. Fine young man.

So we had gone over to Northampton to spend a weekend with Daksha and Dipak.

We went to Northampton to Daksha/Dipak home on Friday 08 September 2017 with Mahendra/Ranjan and my brother Kanti. Mahenda drove us all in his car.

Harkhu is my old time friend from Kenya. Mansukh is my school and college friend. Laxmikant is Jackie’s relation and friend.

Rina – trying to be vegan – knew about Soya Yogurt , Soya Ice Cream . Also had tea which was Caffeine free – a product of South Africa ( known as Tick-Tock tea)

Note: Tick Tock”˜s deep colour and full taste make a delicious cup of tea, and it”™s well known for its health properties too. Gentle, soothing, naturally caffeine free and low in tannin, Tick Tock Rooibos Tea can be enjoyed at any time, even at bed time.

We left the JainTemple at about 9.00 pm and then went for dinner at Indigo Restaurant serving Indian cuisine. Arrived back to Northampton at about mid-night . Over tea, had a long good “shooting the breeze type” conversation with Dipak past midnight.

Note: Ganesha also appears in Buddhism, not only in the form of the Buddhist god VinÄyaka, but also portrayed as a Hindu deity form also called VinÄyaka. His image may be found on Buddhist sculptures of the late Gupta period.

After dinner, Suryakant dropped us at Mahendra’s place.

On Friday , Rishi – Mahendra/Ranjan’s grandson was dropped off by Richard in the morning while Ishan had gone to school.

Today is a special day at Oshwal Center for Snatra Puja – which Mahendra like to participate.

Note: This is a common Puja widely performed by most of the Deravasi Jain worshipers. It is also a starting Puja before any other main Puja.

So we all went (along with Rishi) to the Jain Temple at the Oshwal Center. Met Manikaki . Participated in the Snatra Puja. Also did Shanti Jal puja, Chaityavandan (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & Aarti at the Jain Temple.

LINK: http://www.jaincentreleicester.com/resources/puja/

Lunch was provided in the hall . Ate many ladoos ( 3 1/2 ladoos) . Nice curry with sweet peas, tindora & fulka.

After that returned back to Mahendra/Ranjan Home . Mahendra went to pick up Ishan from school .

Dinesh came to visit about 3.00 pm and stayed until 5.00 pm .

Both kids (Ishan & Rishi) had a sleep over at their nana/nani ( Mahendra/Ranjan) place .

On Saturday, I went for a walk ( in the morning ) around the area by myself first and then with Mahendra taking a walk (after lunch) with Rishi in the stroller. This time we walked a longer route – stopping at Shammir’s place and saying Hi to Kanti as well as Shammor/Rina.

Bini/Anuj had come over to play with the kids (Ishan & Rishi) . Also Rehma joined them .

Shammir then came over at 3.00 pm to pick us up – as we were having dinner at his place.

While at Shammir – Tikoo(Nimish)/Prasita and Savir had come for a short to visit . Also RamnikMama/TaraMami came for a visit. This was excellent that I finally met them -otherwise our contact would only remain on the phone – while we were in London.

Nimish/Prasita and Savir left after spending less than an hour with the group.

Rina had gone & picked her mom – who then joined us.

Suryakant/Jasu and Kumudbhabhi also came over and joined in the celebration. After sometime, RamnikMama/TaraMami left. Then Krupesh turned up to join in the celebration .

Kanti was to travel to Kenya catching his plane (from Heathrow Airport) on Sunday morning.

Suryakant/Jasu to travel to Spain with Purvi & her husband for 2 weeks holiday (on Monday 18 September 2017)

k) Stayed with Hasu/Dhanak from Sunday 17 September to Tuesday 19 September 2017

After lunch we proceeded to Pravin/Champu home for a visit. Met Sheelan’s ( Pravin/Champu’s son) wife – Murrey – and her two boys -about 5 or 6 years old . From there we went across the road to visit KankuKaki and Meghjikaka.

After that we were dropped off at Hasu’s place to stay ( note: there till our departure for Ottawa on Tuesday 19 September 2017).

Visited Radiatben (Dhanak’s mom) in the evening of Sunday at her Senior Apartment building . Very majestic lady.

On Monday , we Visited Amar/Vikita at their home. The kids (Aarav & Kiaan ) were home . Amar had taken time off from work. After that we went to visit Jitesh/Parul & Ashni (daughter) at their home.

Monday night Atul came over to visit . Also ShantiMama/LekhaMami came to visit and we all had good conversation.

note: Visited Laljibhai 2 times during our visit to London.

Adieus —- London. Many thanks specially to Hasu & Dhanak for welcoming us on arrival and then at the end taking us to the Airport for smooth departure . You have made it possible for our visit to England to become very enjoyable and comfortable.

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

**As we had time before lunch – we went over to the Temple – made our prayers and then went on the grounds to enjoy the garden and many different well carved ” stambhs – pillars “.**

Some believe it to be the Saá¹ƒsÄra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Note: Ganesha also appears in Buddhism, not only in the form of the Buddhist god VinÄyaka, but also portrayed as a Hindu deity form also called VinÄyaka. His image may be found on Buddhist sculptures of the late Gupta period.