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Our BIO – Revised ( Sept 2019 )

This is revised version of our earlier BIO posted – though revisions are kept minimum at this   stage.   I expect more revisions will come in future   – when more reviews are done.

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updated  05 September 2019

Pravinchandra Juthalal Shah   & Jashoda Shah
The family (September 2019) :

Details   :

1)   Parents :-   Pravinchandra Shah   married to Jashoda Haria.   Married on 27 May 1967 in Nairobi, Kenya , Currently live in Deep River, Ontario   ( since 1986 )

Pravin   born on   8th April 1940 in Ruiru, Kenya

Jashoda born on 15 November 1938 in Nairobi , Kenya

Two Children :   Nina ( daughter )   & Sunir (son)

Emigrated   To   Toronto, Canada from   Nairobi , Kenya   on 03 March   1974 .   Arrived at   Toronto Airport   and met by Jayant Shah   ( who was a  childhood friend from Mombasa) .

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2)   Daughter —  Nina married to Sunjay Mistry .

Married on 28 August 2004 in Pembroke/ Deep River, Ontario, Canada .   Nina & family currently live  in Mackey , Ontario.      Mackey  is in the vicinity of Deep River , Ontario.

Nina born on   14 December 1974   in Niagara Falls , Ontario, Canada

Sunjay Mistry   born  on   12 November 1971 , Rugby , U.K.

They have two Children : Sitara ( daughter ) & Sachin (son)

Sitara born on 05 August 2007 in Mackey / Deep River, Ontario ( Ottawa Hospital)

Sachin born on   20 July 2009 in Mackey / Deep River, Ontario ( Ottawa Hospital)

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Note:   Sunjay has   one   sister (Bhadrika) – who resides in U.K.

Sunjay’s father :   Kunverjibhai Lalabhai .

Sunjay’s   mother :   Hasmukhben   – who resides in Rugby, U.K.

3)   Son —   Sunir married to Shannon Knights .  Married on 11 October 2008 in Toronto, Ontario, Canada . Sunir & family currently live in Toronto, Ontario.

Sunir born on 01 June 1979   in Niagara Falls , Ontario, Canada

Shannon Knights born on 23 May 1976  in Toronto, Ontario, Canada

They   have   three Children :   Maya ( daughter ) ,   Kieran ( son ) &   Priya (daughter )

Maya born on 07 August 2011 in Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Kieran born on 12 March 2014 in Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Priya born on   22 December 2016   in Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Note:   Shannon has two sisters .   Heather resides in Toronto, Canada and Erica   currently in France .

Shannon’s   father :  Douglas Knights

Shannon’s mother : Kathy Maglandry

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Family   Lineage :

1)     Family Lineage for   Pravinchandra Shah – from our records:

“Shah” is an adopted family surname . Original heritage family surname is ” bidd ”

Note: Lineage is described for sons born in family – as daughters when married largely adopt husband’s family name.   (at least in old days !)

Kieran Shah ( son of Sunir & Shannon Knights  )

Sunir Shah ( son of Pravin & Jashoda) —  Note:   Kanti, Arwind, Suryakant (Pravin’s brothers)

Pravin Shah ( son of Juthalal & Kasturben  ) — Rashik ( Juthalal’s brother)

Juthalal Shah ( son of Dharamshi & Deviben)

Dharamshi Shah (son of Naya) — Kana, Devshi, Lala, Sangan, Rama ( Naya’s   brothers)

Naya Shah (son of Depar)

Depar Shah (son of Ladha)

Ladha Shah (son of Ranmal)

Note:   Pravin’s  ancestral   home – all started from the village of Navagam in Saurashtra (Gujarat State in India).

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Further details of interest:

Note: Another branch of Depar Shah   is shown below for information only.

Kana Depar Shah ( brother of Naya Depar Shah) – note : Naya is Pravin’s great grandfather.

Deva Kana Shah

Kachra Deva Shah

Nemchand Kachra Shah

Nitin Nemchand Shah

Nemchand was the one at (occupying) our ancestral home (hut) in Navagam when we visited India in 1980s.

Note:     We got a metal plate (like a dish   for dinner / lunch) and brought it over to Canada as an ancestral heirloom.

2)   Family Lineage for   Jashoda’s Side – details obtained from ManiKaki (Jashoda’s Auntie ) when us visiting London, U.K. during August/September 2017.

“Haria” is the surname for Jashoda’s dad.

Jashoda d/o Khimji & Paniben Haria

Khimji   (son of Bhimji & Verra)

Bhimji (son of Punja & Vali )

Punja (son of Jeshang)

Jeshang (son of Deva)

Deva   (son of Dedhar)

Dedhar (son of Sangan)

Note: Khimji Bhimji ( Jashoda’s dad) was   a teacher at Jamnagar Boarding in 1938 – prior to emigrating to Kenya)

Note:   Jashoda’s  ( i.e. her father’s ) ancestral   home – all started from the village of Rashangpur  ,   Saurashtra  (Gujarat State in India).

Further details of interest:

1) Velji Bhimji Haria   (Velji is  brother of Khimji Bhimji Haria) . Velji Haria married to Ganga.

They have two sons – Manu & Pravin .   They also have   one daughter Sushi.

Manu  married to Sobhna.   Their son Sheetal married to Nishita . Also they have another son – Akhil.

Pravin married to Champa.   They have one son ( Shillon) & one daughter (Shailly) .

Sushi married to Rajni.   They have one son ( Dipp ) and one daughter (Nishi).

2)   Vershi Bhimji Haria ( second brother of Khimji Bhimji Haria – Jashoda’s dad)   – married to Radiat’

They have three daughters :

i) Banjun married to Anil – currently resides in Mombasa, Kenya   and have 2 sons and a daughter.

ii) Jainita married to Ashwin – currently resides in Luton, U.K. – have 2 daughters

iii) Nina married to Punil – currently resides in Australia   – have one daughter.

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General Background

Pravin is an individual who has stumbled on a life trajectory of personal growth, which allowed him to participate in social/cultural activities within Oshwal community and also other societies while pursuing his professional Civil Engineering career. Pravin is a Professional Civil Engineer, graduating in 1962 and subsequently becoming Charter Engineer with Institution of Civil Engineers and also with the Institute of Water Engineers and Environment of United Kingdom. He became licensed Professional Engineer in Ontario soon after his emigration to Canada from Kenya in 1974.

Note:   Pravin is (was) also the Registered Hydraulic Engineer in Kenya  ”“ the first Oshwal & Indian Engineer to do so.

On 27 May 1967, Pravin and Jashoda got married in Nairobi. J ashoda remains a pillar behind Pravin for his social and public service.

She is a stalwart in whatever comes her way. Jashoda is a B.A. graduate. She was a secondary School teacher in Kenya. Since coming to Canada, she devoted early years in raising two kids; both of them are now well established in life. She also ran a business  first in Hamilton and then in Petawawa   — with great alacrity till she retired in 1999. Both Pravin and Jashoda have been involved in many different social and public life, in Kenya as well as in Canada. Since Pravin and family have moved around a bit, their record of service is somewhat scattered and is specific to each location where they   (& family) have lived. Pravin”™s interest in social activities can be attributed to his parents and grandparents whose motto in life was “to help others” even when it impacted adversely to their own & family”™s well being. While in Canada, the work took the family to various locations (from Niagara Falls to Montreal & Mississauga & Hamilton and finally to Deep River, Ontario). They established their residence in Deep River in 1986, where both the kids (Nina & Sunir) completed their elementary and high school education. Both Pravin and Jashoda are now retired and live in Deep River, Ontario Canada. . Jashoda wound up her businesses in Petawawa in 1999 while Pravin retired from his career from Atomic Energy of Canada Ltd in Deep River during April 2007.

His professional career spanned some 45 years – starting in Kenya and till retirement in Canada.

Drivers in Life and Career

Believe in positive leadership & commitment

Teamwork for successful achievement in goals.

  • Be practical and prompt in execution of approved goals
  • Unbiased attitude with an open mind for listening others”™ opinions
  • Holistic approach to life with vision for good of the community
  • Social interaction and acceptance of cultural diversity
  • Honesty and integrity
  • Community service with local community organizations.

Life Timeline & Social/Cultural Activities

1940 -1956

Pravin was born in Ruiru on 8th April 1940 to Kasturben (his mother) and Juthalal Dharamshi Naya Shah (his father). Their family surname (“gotra”)   is “Bidd”.   His grandfather Dharamshi Naya Shah was from Navagam (in Halar, Saurastra in India) who came to Kenya during 1910. He was followed by his wife (Deviben), son (Juthalal) and his father (Naya Depar Bidd) ”“ all came together in 1921.   My great-grandfather (Naya Depar Shah) stayed only for a few years in Kenya and went back to India, around 1930, for personal reasons.

His father, Juthalal Dharamshi Bidd (Shah) , started a business in Ruiru in the 1930s. His was one of the first businesses which were established when Ruiru became a trading center to service the European agricultural settlements in the area.

The family moved from Ruiru, Kenya to coastal town Mombasa  around 1944 .
Pravin along with his two elder brothers moved to Mombasa   with the family.

The family moved to Mombasa to facilitate education of the young ones. Pravin completed his elementary schooling (at   Kikowani Primary School) and secondary schooling (at Technical High School) in Mombasa. His Senior Cambridge Certificate was obtained in 1956 at the age of 16.

When growing up in Mombasa, Pravin used to attend community meetings held at the Visa Oshwal Community hall for development of the community or for elections. This has instilled in Pravin the value of service but also of teamwork and need for consultation in any development work.   During his formative years, Pravin became a regular member of the Bhartiya Swayamsavak Sangh (BSS) in Mombasa and through his devotion, commitment and hard work rose in the leadership rank.   Here he learnt the Hindi language and also the ancient and modern history of India as well as about the independence movement of India.
Jashoda was born in Nairobi on 15 November 1939 to Paniben (her mother) and Khimji Bhimji Haria (her father). She completed her elementary and secondary education at the Duchess of Gloucester School in Nairobi. His Senior Cambridge Certificate was obtained in 1957.
When growing up in Nairobi, Jashoda participated in the activities of Nairobi Sevadal.

1957-1964

Pravin enrolled at the Royal College, Nairobi in 1957 and completed his studies successfully in Civil Engineering profession during June 1962.
When at the Royal College in Nairobi, Pravin devoted his time to his studies for professional civil engineering but made a point of attending various community meetings at the Visa Oshwal Community in Nairobi.  This gave him the know-how of the mechanics of conducting meetings and also the need for developing abilities to articulate and debate ideas.
Jashoda completed her B.A . from Bombay University, Mumbai India during 1964. In India, Jashoda devoted her time in studies but also found time to enroll in the Indian National Cadet Corp for military and civic training. She also dabbled in music and choreographed Gujarati Ras & Garba for Women”™s Hostel to enter into competition.

 

1963- 1973

Immediately after the graduation Pravin spent time to establish his professional career in Kenya. His service in Ministry of Works resulted in design and implementation of various road bridges and culverts across the country. Also worked   on   building structural designs and multiple water supplies.

Pravin also worked in the Ministry of Agriculture. There he worked closely with an international team led by a Canadian firm (Acres Consulting Ltd) for investigating the potential of the Tana River Basin (northern Kenya) for agricultural development.
During 1965, Pravin went to Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada on a Fellowship of the Food Agricultural Organization of the United Nations. There he worked at the offices of Acres Consulting Ltd. for a year gaining valuable practical experience in the design and implementation of the irrigation and hydroelectric structures and facilities.
While in Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada during 1965 / 1966 for a year, Pravin participated in the activities of the United Nations Association of Canada, Niagara Falls Branch and provided presentations to local Service Clubs on Kenya.

Upon return to Kenya in July 1966, he devoted his time to his professional development though maintaining interest in the Oshwal community activities.
Pravin was stationed with the Water Development Department of the Kenya Government. There he worked to develop water supplies in the country. He was also instrumental in planning for the development of the Training Institute for the Water Technicians in Nairobi with the help of Norwegian aid agency. While at the Water Development Department, he worked at Nairobi office and at Mombasa office at different times.
After their marriage during May 1967, Pravin got transferred to Mombasa to work on the development of coastal water supplies until their return back to Nairobi in April 1969.

He designed and built waters supplies to the coastal beaches, Kilifi and Malindi.
After graduation, Jashoda began her career in teaching at the Visa Oshwal Girls Secondary School, Nairobi and continued teaching in Mombasa upon Pravin”™s transfer there when working with Water Development Department.
While in Nairobi, Pravin continued his interest in the community and got elected as General Secretary of the Visa Oshwal Community (~ 8000 members of Nairobi) in 1970 and remained as secretary till mid- 1973. The President at the time was Shree Kantilal Narshi Shah who provided an excellent leadership.
Pravin also devoted time and effort to serve on the School Subcommittee of Oshwal Education & Relief Board in Nairobi.

These were transformational years for the community.

There was the impact of the new independence of Kenya, issue with the British Government about so-called “D” passport and the need for vouchers to enable migration to England.
New breed of educated Oshwals were coming back from their graduate studies and taking their rightful place in the tremendous development that Kenya was experiencing at the time. Many Oshwal community members were investing a lot of resources for industrial, commercial, real estate and financial development of the country.

Again there was a segment of the community, which was feeling a bit insecure and wanted to move away from Kenya for safety to other countries, mostly to Britain at the time.
The community was a pillar and a constant to all members to cope with all the changes that were coming to the society at the time.   Pravin found this time challenging and exciting when real help and changes could be offered and experienced.
During this time, also the societal attitude was becoming critical of the old habits of social interaction, which was becoming evident at the time. The members of the Visa Oshwal Community Executive Committee supported the move away from lunches and meals by “squatting on the floor” and introduced the “Table & Chair” mode of partaking our social lunches and meals.  This first change and modernization was a milestone and stepping stone to many others to come in subsequent years.
For being the General Secretary of Visa Oshwal Community for a period of two years, Pravin received a Gold Medal from the Community for the service.


While Pravin was busy with Oshwal Community committee and the School Subcommittee of Oshwal Education & Relief Board in Nairobi, his wife Jashoda Shah devoted her time for the betterment of young Oshwal women and their social interaction.She became a focal point and an inspiration for establishing the “Women”™s Wing” in the year 1972. The “Women”™s Wing” joined their organization with the Oshwal Youth League. The “Women”™s Wing” has again been transformational for the community. It influenced change in “mind-set” of older generation to young daughters and daughter-in-laws in the Community. The “Women”™s Wing” remains active till this day.

 

1974 -Today

During March 1974 Pravin and Jashoda emigrated to Canada. Landed at Toronto Airport on 03 March 1974.
In Canada, Pravin & Jashoda started their life in Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada. Niagara Falls is one of the most beautiful cities of Ontario and is at the border between U.S.A and Canada. The “horse-shoe” waterfalls on the Canadian side are one of the world”™s wonders.   Niagara Falls is a tourist destination for millions in the world. Every year more than 20 million people visit Niagara Falls.
Their both kids were born in Niagara Falls. Their daughter, Nina, was born in December 1974 and son, Sunir, was born in June 1979.

Note:
While in Canada, Pravin worked initially on the designs of hydroelectric structures and power stations. Since last 30 years, Pravin has been working in the nuclear field and designed and built civil engineering structures for many Nuclear Power Plants in Canada and overseas.   The professional work took Pravin on many short trips to various countries such as to Shree Lanka, British Guyana, Romania and Austria.
Pravin/Jashoda have lived an active social/public life and participated in many activities of varied nature in different fields in the public service after their arrival in Canada.
Apart from formal positions and activities, Pravin also writes poems on many topics and is not shy to write “Letters to Editor” on topical subjects. He also writes to clarify issues if he sees wrong perceptions of Indians or India in the media.
Jashoda spent her time raising the two kids but in 1985 ran a business in Hamilton for a year, which was sold as Pravin moved to Deep River for his career. In the Deep River area, Jashoda pursued her career running two businesses in the nearby town called Petawawa (this is one of the main Canadian Army towns) from 1991 to 1999.
Nina completed her Pharmacy degree and is pursuing her career as a Pharmacist and Sunir completed his Masters in Information Technology and is pursuing his career in that field.
Social/Public work in Canada

Niagara Falls area

  • Member and President of the United Nations Association of Canada, Niagara Falls Chapter (1974- 1981)
  • Establishment of Shree Jalaram Hindu temple (October 1974 to March 1975) at their residence Niagara Falls

While in Niagara Falls, Pravin actively participated in the activities of the United Nations Association of Canada, Niagara Falls Chapter from 1974 to 1981. He was elected and served the Chapter as the President for two (2) years (1979/1980) during which time Pravin devoted his energy for diseminating the principles of the United Nations including the rational behind the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
1970s were the time when Canada relaxed immigration from non-white countries to help alleviate the shortage of manpower in the country. Thus many new immigrants from non-white countries started to arrive. This was a new phenomenon on a scale never seen before and some of the local white population was not yet ready to accept these new immigrants socially and culturally.
In the year 1980, the United Nations Association of Canada supported a programme of student exchange from foreign countries and placed these visiting students with local host families for a short period. This allowed close bonding and cultural understanding between the foreign students and the host families on one-on-one basis. Coinciding with the student exchange, the Chapter also celebrated the United Nations Day on 24 October 1980 with a dinner gala (under Pravin as the Chair) where the Chapter members and public interacted with the visiting students and host families. Also federal and provincial politicians participated in the dinner gala. This initiative was to help remove barriers between peoples.
In the early 80s, under Pravin”™s suggestion, the Chapter proposed a resolution that      “ Canada & other western countries to appoint a non-white as an ambassador to South Africa” to be taken to the national United Nations Association of Canada convention for discussion and acceptance. This was the time when apartheid regime in South Africa was much entrenched and such an appointment would take a bite from superiority of white race when the regime would be forced to deal with non-white ambassadors from major western countries. It was heartening to know that similar thinking was prevalent in U.S.   The Reagan administration preferred a policy called “constructive engagement” vis-à-vis apartheid ruled South Africa. In 1986, the Reagan administration made a surprising move. Secretary of State George Schultz appointed career diplomat Edward Perkins, a black American, as the American Ambassador to South Africa.

Along with participation in the United Nations Association of Canada, Jashoda and Pravin established (October 1974) a Shree Jalaram Hindu Temple (along with the Jain element) in their residence at Niagara Falls. A regular monthly prayer service was held with appropriate reading and presentation on spiritual matter. This was found useful for interested locals to know and understand the Indian/Hindu culture and our non-violence traditions and way of life. Unfortunately, the temple service was discontinued (March 1975) upon Pravin”™s transfer to Montreal on a work assignment. Even with a short existence, the temple had become quite popular with the locals and was quoted by local politicians for the excellent qualities that foreigners bring to the country.

When in Niagara Falls, both Jashoda and Pravin had become very active in supporting and initiating Jain religious activities. During this time, H.H. Munishree Sushilkumarji was welcomed and hosted many times when visiting Ontario.
Jashoda supported the East Indian Group of the area to organize and present Gujarati Ras (Dandia) & Garba programs during annual Canadian Multicultural week. The Canadian Government normally organizes this annual event to develop camaraderie and understanding between different cultural groups in the country.

Mississauga/Toronto area

  • Participated as a Member of the Social Development Committee of the Social Planning Council of Peel   (1982)
  • Initiated and helped to establish a Jain Study Group (in Toronto to Niagara Falls area) 1983
  • President of the Jain Society of Toronto in 1985 (1 year)

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Note:   In the   year 2014, the Jain Society celebrated 40th Anniversary of its inception (along with Jain Diwali program ) on Sunday 19 October, 2014 – at the Lawrence Convention Center ( on Southdown Road , Mississauga , Ontario) . At that event , the Jain Society honoured all its past presidents . Pravin was invited along with wife (Jashoda)   and awarded a commomeration plaque   for his distinguished service to the Society.

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The family moved to Mississauga in late 1981 after Pravin changed employment from ACRES Consulting Ltd in Niagara Falls to Atomic Energy of Canada, Sheridan Park, Mississauga, adjoining to Toronto.
Pravin did not waste time and started to take part in the public service. He joined as a Member of the Social Development Committee of the Social Planning Council of Peel   (1982). This Committee used to carry out “need analysis”™ of the community in the social sector and recommend actions to help weaker sectors to organize life with dignity.
Pravin and Jashoda also took initiative to help and establish a Jain Study Group for the interested Jains in Toronto to Niagara Falls area. The Group”™s first meeting was held in the summer of 1983 at Pravin/Jashoda residence in Mississauga. It is of interest to note that some visiting Kenya Oshwals ( Pravin”™s relatives from Thika ”“ Gulab Meghji Kanji & his wife Maniben and also Somchand Meghji Kanji and his wife Kanta) happen to come to visit Pravin and family on the day of the meeting and thus able to participate in the deliberation and study.   They were enthused to note of such a group studying Jainism in far away land.
The objective of the Jain Study Group was to study Jain books and scriptures in a systematic manner so as to understand and assimilate the teaching of our religion rationally. This study would also help those participating to become more conversant with Jain religion and also to impart Jain Knowledge to their next generation in a modern way.
When deliberating in meetings of the Group, Pravin also developed some Jain songs/hymns in English and a scrabble game (from Jain words) to help the young ones to participate and learn about Jainism.

It is a tribute that this Group is still alive in Toronto/Niagara Falls area though Pravin & the family have moved away.
Pravin was elected to lead as the President of Jain Society of Toronto in 1985. He remained the President for a year as his career took him away to Deep River, Ontario.

During his presidency of the Jain Society two (2) important events took place.
The Jain Society organized a seminar (as a forum) on 17 February 1985 on the subject of “Jain Philosophy In Modern Times”. The event was held at the Jain temple premises in Toronto. In a forward to the Seminar publication the following sentiments were expressed.
“ We have to, individually and collectively, take affirmative actions in crystallizing our Jain and Indian traditions in the context of this continent (i.e North America) and modern times. We have to define the direction and activities required for enriching our and our children”™s spiritual and social values. We also have to take positive steps to convey parts of our great heritage to the larger community for peace and bliss all around.”
The Seminar had presentations on the Jain subjects by some eminent scholars – the prominent being                 1) Vividus   (Mr. Ramnik Shah) ”“ whose book on Jainism is well known 2) Dr. John Mayer ”“ a professor at Brock University in St. Catherines, Ontario, and    3) Prof Debrata Sinha ”“a well known scholar and professor at Brock University.   The seminar ended with songs (both traditional and in English) by the newly minted Jain Choir Group directed by Jashoda Shah at the time.
The second event that occurred was an incident which has left a painful   memory on many. This is the Air India bombing by terrorists seeking revenge for Punjab/Khalistan movement in India.   Air India Flight 182 was an Air India operating on the Montreal-London-New Delhi route. On June 23, 1985 the Boeing 747 operating on the route was bombed over Irish airspace, killing all onboard. The plane named Emperor Kanishka exploded at an altitude of 31,000 feet, crashing into the Atlantic Ocean killing all 329 people on board, of whom 280 were Canadian citizens and 22 were Indian nationals.

These were sad and tough days. We lost our friends and aquintances. One of my colleagues (Arup Das) lost his family who were travelling to India for a visit. The Canadian Government was shocked but in their shock they thought it was an India issue and sent condolences to Indian Government leaders for the loss of Indians in the flight. The Canadian Govenment lost objectivity that the Indians on the flight were Canadians.

This added more pain to those who lost their loved ones.   A grief public meeting was called at the Nathan Philip Square, Toronto for the loss of lives from this senseless terrorist act. Pravin represented the Jain Society as the President of the Society. In his passioned speech Pravin identified this gaffe by the Canadian Government and reminded the Government and the people of Canada that those who died were Canadians, albeit of Indian ethnic origin. It was really not acceptable that the Canadian Government cannot identify their own citizens. This speech was well taken by the media and was run on the local radio stations for two or more days. This, I assume (only my perception), helped to change the Canadian public and Government mind -set and instill understanding/attitude of real multi-cultural milieu of Canada and take responsibilty of those who lost their lives and concerns of the immediate affected families.


The Canadian Government of the day and subsequent Governments continually remain embarrassed for such a gaffe.

Deep River/Pembroke area

  • Served on the Deep River Police Service Board (1994 to 2000)
  • Trustee of the Deep River & District Hospital Board
  • Executive Member of the Algonquin Chapter of the Professional Engineers, Ontario from 1999 (as shown by our memory ) till to-day ”“ Chair for the Chapter for two years (2005 & 2006) and then again for three (3) more years from 2010 to 2012.     ( 2012/2013)
  • 2013/2014   – became past Chair for the Executive Committee   of the Algonquin Chapter of the Professional Engineers, Ontario . Lawrence Lupton took over the duties of the Chair.
  • 2014/2015 -retired from past Chair post and from the Algonquin Chapter Executive Committee – to evote more time with family.

Note: However officially this is what is stated in an e-mail fromMike Pinet   P. Eng. who was Hon. Secretary of               Algonquin Chapter PEO duirng 2010   .
The October 2001 newsletter first acknowledges your assistance in preparing the newsletter, and the               December 13, 2001 minutes of meeting first lists you as as a member at large, however you were           not available   for that meeting. In 2002 you were listed as a member at large of the Chapter Executive.

During March 2013 at the Chapter’s Annual General Meeting in Deep River Pravin was awarded a Fellow of Engineers Canada Certificate and a 10-Year Volunteer Pin by PEO in recognition of his volunteer service to the PEO and its Algonquin Chapter.

June 2013   :
I was nominated for this Award by PEO for 10 years service at the Algonquin Chapter . The Trillium Pin was awarded at the Petawawa Civic Centre, Petawawa on Wednesday 5 Jun 2013 by Mr. Luc Vincent (who is in the photo) , Manager , Ontario Honours and Awards on behalf of The Honourable Michael Coteau, The Minister of Citizenship and Immigration.

The following two (2) Certificates were also presented ( oh well ! – to be picked by the individual at the front Reception Desk at the end of the Award Ceremony )

1 – Volunteer Service Awrd Certificate signed by a) The Honourable Michael Coteau, The Minister of Citizenship and Immigration & 2) by The Honourable Kathleen Wynne, Premier of Ontario

2 – Certificate of Recognition -2013 Volunteer Service Award signed by Hon. John Yakabuski , MPP – Renfrew-Nipissing-Pembroke.

  • Nominated & Participated In Deep River Community Liaison Group for Port Hope Waste Disposal”“ 2 times (1990 & 1992)
  • Participated in the activities of the East Indian Group of Deep River- Pembroke area (1986 till today).
  • Participated in Deep River Economic Development Committee (1987-1989).
  • Member of the “Unity in Diversity” Group of Deep River (1990 till present)

The Provincial Government initially nominated Pravin on the Deep River Police Board in 1994.   The Municipality of Deep River nominated Pravin  for the last couple of years  on the Board.The Board is responsible for the provision of professional police services to the Town of Deep River.   Pravin was elected and served as the Chair of the Board for the years 1998/2000. This public service is an important work and needs a constant oversight of police work with proper development of policies for governance.

Pravin was presented  with a plaque cloak from the Deep River Police Service Board for appreciation of the service.
In the early years of coming to Deep River, Pravin stood for election to become the trustee of the Board of the Deep River & District Hospital. He first joined the Board in 1993 and served for a year.   It was a learning experience to know and understand the working of the socialized nature of health delivery, which is a universal health care, a government-sponsored system that ensured open and equal access to medical services for all Canadians.   His contribution was mainly to be sure that delivery of health service at the Deep River & District Hospital remains professional and equal to all irrespective of race, color or station in life.
The second time Pravin came back to the Hospital Board was in April 2007 ”“ after he retired from active employment. He remained on the Hospital Board for two years and retired from the position in 2009 to spend more time with his grandchildren.
This is what he said when offering his service to the DRDH Board
“I believe I can provide time and effort for participation in this important institution (Deep River & District Hospital) of the Deep River Community; sustained by ethics of service and commitment with honesty and integrity”
He got elected for a two-year term ”“ most get elected to three-year term but he filled the position left vacant by a departing Board Trustee. He is also nominated by the Board Executive to be the Chair of the Public Relation Committee and endorsed by the full Board for the first year.  This is an exciting public service work and takes enormous personal time. Most members spent close to 200”“500 hours a year on the Hospital governance policies and fund raising activities.

Pravin is glad to be able to continue this public duty.

Pravin got elected to the Executive Committee of the local Algonquin Chapter of the Professional Engineers, Ontario in 1999 to serve the interests of the Professional Engineers and support local programs to expand knowledge of engineers on various new developments and technical challenges. The Local Chapter also is vehicle for interfacing with the public and local politicians about the Engineers”™ activities and contribution to the public well-being. Pravin was elected and served as the Chair of the Executive Committee in 2005 and 2006. Currently he is the Vice-Chair since 2007.    Pravin became the Chair of the local Chapter again in 2009 and continued for the year 2010.
Pravin got nominated to serve on on a  Community Liaison Group -2 times (1990 & 1992) – constituted by the Canadian Federal Government to find a solution to the age old radioactive wastes at the Town of Port Hope, Ontario.
Port Hope is a Municipality of 17,500 people on the shore of Lake Ontario, less than an hour’s drive east of Toronto.

Eldorado began processing uranium ore in Port Hope’s Harbour in 1932 to remove the minute amounts of radium it contained. Several thousand tons of uranium ore would be required to get a single gram of radium. The uranium ore was being mined at Port Radium in the North West Territories.

Historic wastes are low-level radioactive wastes which are managed in a manner no longer considered acceptable, but for which the original producer cannot reasonably be held responsible. Often these producers no longer exist, so the problem falls to government.

A growing body of evidence suggested that extensive public involvement could play a constructive role in the cooperative resolution of waste-facility siting decisions.

The Community Liaison Groups were established by the Government to seek out a volunteer community which can accept such low level radioactive wastes for storage and/or disposal of such wastes ”“ the proviso being that such volunteer community will not be left worse off and agreed adequate financial compensation will be put in place.

The final agreement has to be placed for a referendum for the community to accept. Deep River is the only community in Canada that had voluntarily agreed to offer a site for a radioactive waste disposal facility, albeit low-level waste.

These were challenging times when all technical studies (from health related and type of structures commensurate with the area geology) needed to be assessed and decisions made to provide guidelines to the Deep River Municipal Government for negotiation with the Federal Government.

The Port Hope wastes were ultimately not moved to Deep River area and are currently managed at Port Hope.


Pravin & family have spent most of their years after emigrating to Canada in Deep River and without disruption to their lives; arriving in Deep River (1986) to work at the Chalk River Nuclear Laboratories of Atomic Energy of Canada Ltd.

Deep River is located some 2 hours (by car) from the Canadian capital city of Ottawa.
Pravin & Jashoda got involved in the local social and cultural activities.
The immediate involvement was in the religious activities and Diwali programs of the East Indian community living in the Deep River/ Pembroke area. Every month, one family (residing in the area at the time) would hold a Hindu Prayer meeting with a dinner after that. Also the group would hold every year a Diwali program.
These meetings allowed our kids to understand and take part in the prayers and discussions after that on Hindu/Jain/Sikh religions. Also at the social hours kids intermingled with each other and develop friendship, which remain for the lifetime. These prayer meetings helped in our kids to bond and develop friendship with other community kids; that helped them not to remain isolated in the larger community and away from the bullying or racial attack in the schools and grounds.
Pravin wrote a play based on Ramayana for a Diwali program for the year 1987. The play was directed and choreographed by Jashoda. In this play all the kids of the community got a part along with some adults. The play went well and successful in its objective to tell the story of Ramayana as full as can be possible but also to have all the kids of the community to come together for such an exciting undertaking.
Pravin also led the community to celebrate the 50th Anniversary of India”™s independence in August 1997. A big program was organized at the Deep River Town hall with Indian & United Nations flags raised at the Town hall. The mayor and other dignitaries were present and Scottish bagpipe music serenaded all in the background.
Indian and Canadian National Anthems were sung.   An Indian student group (from India) visiting Canada at the time provided quite a collection of dances and plays for the occasion. All in all, it was much enjoyed by the community and the town folks.
The Deep River Economic Development Committee was constituted during the years 1987-1989 by the Town of Deep River to assess the possibility of diversifying the economy of the Town.   Pravin volunteered to work on the committee.
Deep River is “one-employer” town. Most people are employed by the Chalk River Laboratories. In the late 1980s, the prospect for the development of new Nuclear Power plants was diminished due to concern about safety, waste management of radioactive wastes and also for security. This led to reduction in the staffing at the Plant and thus a concern as to the survival of Deep River.
Public opinion surveys and investigations were carried out for alternative source of economic activities. Tourism was flagged as one area, which can be explored. Another was development of senior citizen community. However it was evident that the town folks were not ready to see too many tourists, which might disturb their well laid out community. The concern, it seems, was mostly for the new immigrants arriving from Montreal and Toronto area as tourists to experience Canadian rural culture & way of living.
This assessment did not bring any solution to the economic decline at the time.
But it did show a need for a change in the   “mind-set” of the community re: immigrants and their good qualities. However, this is a slow process and would come about as immigrants continually prove themselves in professions, industry, commerce and social services.
To celebrate the “Unity in Diversity” is an instrument, which helps a settled community like Deep River to recognize the existence and good work done by all diverse groups of the community. This helps change the “mind-set” and acceptance of immigrants to this fine country of Canada.
An energetic and committed couple, originally from Iran, leads the Group.
The first meeting to establish such a group was held at Pravin/Jashoda residence in Deep River during the year 1990.
The Canadian couple (originally from Iran) has been instrumental in organizing every year since 1992 a week of programs to celebrate the diversity in the community. The week usually culminates in a very popular potluck dinner. Many people of all cultures (from Scottish to Vietnamese) come with their national dishes and also some provide cultural programs (like singing, dancing or playing a musical instrument).

Miscellaneous :

1) Growth of the Family:

Nina (daughter) was born in Niagara Falls, Ontario  on 14 December, 1974 .

Sunir (son) was born in Niagara Falls, Ontario  on 01 June 1979.

Nina graduated as a pharmacist from the University of Toronto, Toronto, Onatrio during 1999.
Nina got married to Sunjay Mistry on Saturday 28 August 2004 . Both were living in Toronto at the time but the wedding was held/celebrated in Deep River with actual main ceremony and lunch held at the Hugli Farm in Pembroke.

Sunir got married to Shannon Knights on Saturday 11 October 2008 . Both were living in Toronto at the time and the wedding was/celebrated in Toronto with actual ceremony and lunch held at the Toronto Cricket Skating & Curling Club.

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Note: Sunir was placed first in Ontario in Canadian National Mathematics League contest for Grade 6 (in 1990) and also tied for the first place in all of Canada.

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Our first Grandchild – Sitara – was born on Sunday 5 August 2007 . The proud parents are our daughter Nina (mom) and Sunjay (dad).   A granddaughter – pretty and so loving .

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Our second Grandchild   – Sachin – was born on Monday 20 July 2009. The proud parents are our daughter Nina (mom) and Sunjay (dad).   A Grandson – cute and cheerful

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Our third Grandchild – Maya – was born on Sunday 7 August 2011 . The proud parents are our son Sunir (dad) and Shannon (mom) . A Granddaughter – pretty and so loving.

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Our fourth   Grandchild – Kieran – was born on Wednesday 12 March 2014.  The proud parents are our son Sunir (dad) and Shannon (mom) .  A Grandson – cute and cheerful

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Our fifth Grandchild – Priya – was born on Thursday 22 December 2016 . The proud parents are our son Sunir (dad) and Shannon (mom) .  A Granddaughter – a superstar   born.

August 2012 – Health

Pravin lost hearing in his right ear during August 2012 – as a result of neuro-sensory impact in the inner ear.

June 01 2016- Health

Bypass Sugery on June 01   2016 at the Heart Institute in Ottawa

18 April 2016

Pravin got elected as a Director of the ” Deep River and District Community Foundation” at the Annual General Meeting at the Deep River Library.   Current President (last year and again continuing for 2016/2017 ) is Mary MacCafferty.

Sept – 2019

Last day for my remaining Director was in mid-April 2019 – 3 years of service.   At that time The Chair was Michael Stevens . Pravin did not continue for another term – due is lack of hearing in   his right ear plus reduced   hearing in the left ear – which gave trouble in hearing during Board meetings and other gatherings.

Pravin served   3 years as the Chair of Finance Committee of the Board.

 

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ADDENDUM TO   BIO data

 

Shree Jalaram Bapu

Shree Jalaram Bapu came into Pravin’s life when he was a budding teenager – about 14 year old – living on Station Road in Mombasa , Kenya .   Our neighbours were a family (Ranchod Tanna & His wife Induben family) who were Hindus but more devoted to Shree Jalaram Bapu as their main deity.

Their devotion had rubbed onto Pravin psyche.

Pravin was in high school at the time but completely unsure of himself – as he was not much of a sport person and a bit clumsy too.

About that time financial situation of the family was going down and down until at age 16 when Pravin graduated in his Senior Cambridge examination – the family had zilch left .   There was “dark” days   -especially earlier one of the brothers (Arwind) had fallen sick which took a better part of a year plus for him to recover. All of us were emotionally drained -as we had so much sibling and family love to give.

It was hopeless for the young man (Pravin) and of course all brothers and sisters .

However, with devotion to Shree Jalaram – doors started opening into Pravin’s life . Small at a time but whatever Pravin desired and asked from Shree Jalaram – he was like there always present to give a boost to Pravin’s prayers.   Got successful in Senior Cambridge Examination , finally having tried here and there got an admission to Royal College in Nairobi for an Engineering Course – coupled with a Kenya Government   bursary and also supplemented by help and living support by our most wonderful uncles ( My mother’s brothers   mostly two of them directly (AmuMama & GunvantMama) but all .

In all this development in my life happenings , I do not remember any assistance , guidance or help by anyone else except my complete faith in Shree Jalaram – who will inspire me my next step or who will get my head cleared up for right things to do.

He also was instrumental for me to get through the College – get my Engineering Diploma and UK qualifications   – with not much help or confidence giving support from anyone . Of course my mamas (uncles) were there always – to stand by me.

My prayers to Shree Jalaram remained a constant all my life – He has remained a rock solid provider and fulfilling my desires.

These things are difficult to describe – unless one has experienced it one does not know the power of divine help and really very much in a friendly, brotherly, parental love – and at critical times in life, There are so many incidents I can describe – right from when I was clumsy teenager (within a loving family structure but devoid of   money or way forward) till now . When I retired at the age of 67 , I was not sure of how we will manage financially but Shree Jalaram always had given guidance and right things got done along the path of life journey -and we are not rich but we are very comfortable.   We got two children (one daughter and one son) -when we were almost giving up on building a family but Shree Jalaram made a way – we migrated to Canada and Nina was born exactly 9 months after   and of all places in the most sought after city of Niagara Falls, Ontario. Sunir also came after again born in Niagara Falls.   Sunjay came into our & Nina’s lives – so did Shannon come into to our and Sunir’s lives –   as prayed to Shree Jalaram   . Now we have wonderful grandchildren – Sitara, Sachin, Maya and Kieran and this May 2016 we are looking forward for another by Christmas 2016 or 2017 New Year.

The first thing we did when we arrived in Canada – got a job with Acres Consulting in Niagara Falls – then settled down with the news that a baby is to be born (Nina) – we commissioned a young artist in St. Catherine’s (near Niagara Falls) – to do an oil painting of Shree Jalaram Bapu .   Oh! the love and study and details   the young man poured into making this painting was just miraculous and gave us so much happiness and comfort.

Shree Jalaram has been with us all these years and He remains   my trusted and most loved “big shoulder” for assistance and opening closed doors at any situation.

Thank you Shree Jalaram Bapu – I hope your painting will become   a very valued   ” heirloom ”   to   either Nina or Sunir and the family after.

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Notes ( Sept 2019) – 1) Jashoda was awarded a Gold Medal for coming top in the History and Political Science subject for BA at her university in Bombay in 1964   (for her results in examination)  However, unfortunately she could   not get it in her hand as she had already returned to Nairobi, Kenya by that time.

For Women’s Wing inauguration in Nairobi – she was a partner with Viju Shah & Sudha Shah at the time . Three ladies together established the Women’s wing for young lasdies of the Oshwal community.

Pravin had been awarded a Gold Medal for his   services to Oshwal Education Fund.   This medal will be handed over to Sunir for heirloom item.

 

 

 

Our Recent Visit to the U.K. – August/September 2017

Our visit to the U.K. – from   Tuesday 22 August to Tuesday 19 September 2017  

Our recent visit to United Kingdom turned out to be overwhelmingly successful   – in terms of the wide ranging experience and uplift that I (and of course my wife) received – while interacting with many of our family members and friends – visiting from Kenya and those residing within the U.K.

Here is the write-up   – a bit long one but it provides lot of information- for future reference :

Our recent visit to United Kingdom turned out to be overwhelmingly successful   – in terms of the wide ranging experience and uplift that I (and of course my wife) received – while interacting with many of our family members and friends – visiting from Kenya and those residing within the U.K.

In short, I can describe it as heavenly – as it uplifted our emotional vibes from meeting our family members and friends.

Background

The primary reason visiting U.K was to attend Mohanlal’s granddaughter Anisha’s ( daughter of Mayur/Bhavni) wedding in London but arising from that event – my wife and I were to rekindle our memories of family ties with many of my wife’s relations. This view was fortified by the fact that my eldest brother (Kanti) was also visiting from Kenya at the   time to spend time with his two sons (Shammir & Nehul) & their families.   This would again afford further chance to revisit our fond memories  with many of my side of relations. Further, this provided the argument that   (having) my brother visiting U.K. will afford us a lifetime opportunity to pose for a family photo of those   of my siblings & their spouses (currently alive ) and  who are presently in U.K.   Of course we missed my sister Sarla & her husband (Satish) who remain in Kenya.

Note: Last we visited U.K and Kenya was some 10 years ago – to attend the wedding in Kenya of Mohanlal’s granddaughter Aarti (daughter of Anju/Naina in Nairobi). So there was a gap of 10 years -when we remained only sporadically connected with our near and dear ones.

So eventually  with some gentle plodding by our daughter (Nina) and   son-in-law (Sunjay) , we decided to take the trip.   So last minutes tickets were booked and the trip began safely -with Sunjay taking time from his work and drove us to the Ottawa international Airport and  Hasu , my cousin (my maternal uncle’s son ) came over & picked us from the Heathrow Airport on arrival.

Thank you Hasu and Dhanak for a warm welcome to London.  Your warmth, chatter and late night tea along with Atul’s energy and his recommended   Chinese Dried Plums   will be remembered at all times.

There were some specific events and experiences that we went through  when visiting the U.K this time. We avoided any tourist traps and remained focused to spend time   with our family members and friends.

So now I will narrate some of these events :

These are:

Event 1   – Remembering my AmuMama – whom we recently lost

Event 2   – Anisha weds Rikin

Event 3   – Meeting some of my colleagues from the Royal College, Nairobi

Event 4   – SamvatsarÄ«   Lunch at the Oshwal Center

Event 5  – Attending ” Saadadi ” – a condolence meeting at Oshwal Ekta Center

Event 6   – Celebrating 80th Birthday of my eldest brother

Event 7   – Ajul’s dream girl (Daksha) – and announcement of impending engagement

Event 8   – Our itinerary of stay in U.K – as it unfolded

Event 9   – Departure ( adios) – Michhami Dukkadam to all

 

Event 1

We spent the first few days – after our arrival in London for remembering and expressing our sorrow for recent loss of my loving maternal uncle AmuMama   ( who passed away not too long ago in Kenya) with his son (Nilesh & family ) for loss of his father, with  Hasu, his brother Atul , his brother Jitesh and families for loss of their uncle ( AmuKaka  – who is their paternal uncle),  my ShantiMama & family – for loss of a   brother and with my ChampaMami for loss of her brother-in-law.

Subsequently , we mourned my uncle’s death with my RamnikMama & family – for loss of his brother and Darshi ( who had just come over from Nairobi,Kenya) – who is my AmuMama’s granddaughter and was with him till last minute.

My take on my AmuMama –  (note :  for my poem from the heart refer to my blog  – referred below).

Link:   http://pravinshah.org/wp-admin/post.php?post=1025&action=edit&message=1

My AmuMama   passed away on 12 July 2017 in Nairobi, Kenya.   AmuMama was  born in Kenya, lived his whole life in Kenya. AmuMama had been a pillar to me – when I was 16 years old and completed my Senior Cambridge in Mombasa – he helped me with moral and financial support so I could start on my journey to become a professional engineer . I graduated from the Royal College, Nairobi ( second batch of the newly opened college   -with Mahatma Gandhi statue- funds contributed by the Indian Community of East Africa) in 1962 as a Civil Engineer with professional qualification from the Institution of Civil Engineers of London. I stayed with the joint household   of  my AmuMama & GunvantMama on Duke Street in Nairobi – and then walking from there to the Royal College precinct.   During third year, I moved to the Hostel attached to the Royal College. After my graduation   and my work career , my AmuMama remained my best friend and support in  case of any need – like transportation etc. Well he was such a helpful person for anyone who needed his help   – with cheerful smile and witty conversation on his lips.

We – I   will miss you a lot but then you are always in my heart.

The London trip helped me to share my sorrow and thus overcome my grief for my beloved AmuMama and accept the reality of loss.

Event 2

The Anisha wedding was fabulous with so many events to attend. We met with Anisha and all family members prior to actual wedding day – and also the groom (Rikin ) – on Mehndi day.

The three days we spent with various events/gatherings – led us to meet most relatives from Jackie’s side but also others who were friends and/or related to Mohanlal and family.   Most of us celebrated each event with complete attention, fun and serious understanding of what was being done/celebrated.

The food was fabulous. Jackie being on a non-dairy diet- was catered accordingly.

From the young ones of Mohanlal’s family we met:

Niraj/Nili                               (   parents – Anju/Naina )

Neel/Rachna                 (   parents – Jinit/Mina )

Vikesh/Heenal           ( parents – Jinit/Mina )

Arjun                                             ( parents – Mayur/Bhavni)

Of course — Anisha & her to be husband Rikin           ( parents – Mayur/Bhavni)

 

The current Anisha wedding –   was leading us at times on a journey through memory lane – reminding us of the earlier wedding we attended in Nairobi (travelling from Canada to attend the wedding) some 10 years ago for Mohanlal’s other granddaughter   (Arti ) – when Jackie and me had opportunity to reconnect with her relatives in Kenya at that time after a long time away in Canada.

This time all young ones (in Mohanlal’s family) have grown up, most married and all being so polite and welcoming.

Of course at that time (10 years ago) Anoop ( Jackie’s nephew – her brother Jayantilal’s son) was alive.  Anoop is still very much in our thoughts.

During this wedding , Anoop’s sister Minal and her husband Sachin had come along from Kenya with Minal’s mom Manjubhabhi.  We were so taken by Minal’s loving smile and her simple but caring attention to her JackieAuntie.

During this wedding, we were pleased to meet and join in the celebration with Jackie’s other brother   Sobhag and his wife Hansabhabhi -who had travelled from Kenya to attend the wedding. Their daughter Anjali had also flown in from the USA to attend the wedding.

This afforded the opportunity to be around   the near and dear ones (even for a short time) – as we are aging this meeting becomes all the more important for reliving our past.

 

The actual wedding was performed at the Ditton Park Manor – the bridegroom   party to be arriving at 8.30 am in the morning of Monday 28 August 2017.   So to enable us an easy and relaxed experience -we had decided to stay two (2) nights in a nearby hotel (Heathrow/Windsor Marriott Hotel , Langley, Slough) – Sunday night and Monday night.

The wedding bridegroom party arrived at around 9.00 am and thereafter bridegroom having been welcomed ceremoniously by the bride’s mother – the wedding started (   within a professional lawn marquee   ) at about 10.00 am (after breakfast) . The presiding priest was Kamal Pandey –   a young, affable   and bi-lingual priest for the occasion.   The ceremony was kind of Jain themed.   There was pin-dropped silence during the ceremony.

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Ditton Park Manor

Just 20 minutes from London is a truly exclusive location, where time appears to stand still within an atmosphere of enchantment.

Ditton Manor has over a century of charm but with all the modern amenities to host wedding parties from 120 seated in the Great Hall or up to a 1000 guests within a professional lawn marquee.

Ditton Park belonged to the crown in the reign of Queen Elizabeth 1. It then eventually passed to Ralph Montagu , 1st Duke of Montagu, through marriage. The present house which may have been first built around 1500 was badly damaged by fire in 1812.

Nearby, on the Great West Road,   a public house known as the Montague [sic] Arms stands, now owned and operated as a Harvester restaurant. The pub dates back to the early 19th century.  

Link:   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ditton_Park

Note: Jackie and I had dinner on Sunday (27 August 2017) night and breakfast on Tuesday morning at the said  Harvester restaurant.  So friendly and homely – the waitress spent time and found a carton of Soya Milk for Jackie’s non-dairy diet along with other menu items.

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After wedding was over – all were treated to a fabulous vegetarian lunch and then some of us went to their accommodation at the Marriot hotel for rest till 5.00 pm – and then embarked on the bus (special for transporting guests from the Ditton Park Manor to the Hotel and back) and arrived back at the Ditton Park Manor at about 5.30 pm ( start of the Reception   time) . We all gathered on the grounds and had refreshment/drinks and took photos etc.

At one point, looking at the Manor – which looks like a palace (albeit all simple and without much decoration)   – where I saw a balcony and uttered to others as to ” When is the Prince or Queen coming to   wave at us? ”   It was in the spirit of making a lighter conversation in the ambience of sitting under a balcony of a palace .

Well, it happened   – both Rikin and Anisha ( assuming the role of prince & queen for the   moment – as they were the groom & bride ) appeared on the balcony and waved to us – sitting or standing under the balcony. So the statement uttered came to be true – for us.

How times have changed?    It was not long ago when Winston Churchill spewed venom at India (and Indians) – calling Mahatma Gandhi posing as a fakir and   his imperial bent   was supported by many British citizens and leaders.  Now Indians can rent a manor (previously owned by a British Duke) and perform wedding ceremonies with Jain/Hindu slokas with all the freedom and rights.   So Britain has changed – and we have advanced educationally and economically plus politically. That is the effect of democracy in Britain.

After reception dinner   – there was dance on the floor – the first dance led by Rikin and Anisha.   Jackie and I joined in the fun and danced a couple of numbers – before we left for the hotel at about 11.00 pm.

Event 3

The meeting with some of my old college colleagues ( from way back ) had come out of the blue.

Note:   I did my Civil Engineering education at Royal Technical College (RTC) , Nairobi finishing in June 1962.   The RTC was established in 1956.   I was in the second batch(at the new College) starting my college time in September 1957.   Depending on when you attended the college, it may have been called Royal Technical College , Royal College Nairobi, or University College Nairobi. It wasn”™t until 1970 that the college was transformed into the University of Nairobi.

It so transpired that we were warmly welcomed by Bhaskar/Vidula Patel to spend some time with them -while visiting U.K. this time.   Both Bhaskar & Vidula are ex-Royal College students – whom we had met earlier.   We   decided to spend a few days with them immediately after Anisha’s wedding . So Bhaskar & Vidula picked us up at   noon time on Tuesday 29 August 2017 from the Marriot Hotel.   Well, they were working enthusiastically to organize a gathering of a few Royal College ex-students (who are currently residing in London) for a dinner party to welcome Jackie & me in their midst.

The dinner party came about on the same day – that is on Tuesday 29 August 2017. Lo Behold! the gathering was planned to be at the famous and historic Indian Gymkhana Club in London. We were so spell-bound with all the happenings – first meeting with some of the old College colleagues and that at the Indian Gymkhana Club.

Note:   Indian Gymkhana Club is a combined Cricket, Football and Hockey Club and was established in 1916. It is   the largest and longest-standing multiracial Sports Club in the United Kingdom. The club is celebrating 100 years of existence this year. However, the current site was opened on 15-acre site in Osterley, West London in 1922 –   thanks to donations from some of the most illustrious families in India, including the maharajas of Patiala, Kapurthala, Jhalawar and Cooch Behar.

Link:   https://www.theguardian.com/cricket-has-no-boundaries/2017/may/25/its-a-special-place-the-101-year-history-of-the-indian-gymkhana-cricket-club

There were some 6 couples (besides us) who attended the dinner gathering – all very charming and bubbly in welcoming us.

Following colleagues and wives attended the dinner.

1) Bhaskar Patel   &   his wife Vidula – who organized the dinner party & with whom Jackie and I had gone to the dinner party.

2) Mansukh Shah & his wife Lata

3) Pyarali Mannani & Nasim

4) Edgar d’Sa

5) Himat Talsania & Kanta

6) Chhagan Mistry (Architect) & his wife Nalini

 

Note : Mansukh and I were classmates in High School in Mombasa & then at Royal College in Nairobi. The others who came to welcome me were students at Royal College – possibly a couple of years junior to me (and Mansukh) but I had met a couple of them at a RTC gathering   in Toronto   in the year 2001.

My wife and I were floored by the warm time we spent together -remembering and reminiscing about old college days and also remembering others who were not at the table at this time.      Fabulous.

One incident that we remembered & jolted me and my memory was about — a rag day parade in 1961   – during which an accident happened and we lost one of our colleague students (Chhaya) who got caught under the wheel of a parade truck.    Also another incident   -shortly after our graduation , one of our colleagues ( Fonseca) had joined with the Royal Air force in U.K. – and during training had an accident and plane crashed and we lost him.   This memory was a bit of shocker – buried , at least , in my conscience for a long time. Now it has surfaced and the sad memory does hurt – even after so many years.

I was pleased to see Mansukh Shah and his wife, Latta who had come to the gathering to welcome us. They were introduced to Jackie and I am sure they had pleasant conversations.

Mansukh   and I have been together while growing up in Mombasa, Kenya – we were together in the high school (Technical High School) Mombasa — in the same class- and   there after again at the Royal College in Nairobi – again in the same class for Civil Engineering qualification. We completed our education at the same time – graduating as Civil Engineers.   After college, we separated out   to   different career routes – leading him to be in U.K. and I am in Canada.   So meeting him after so many years was a very pleasant happening – though now both are retired as professional Civil Engineers.

I got the opportunity during dinner to have a chat/conversation  with Chhagan Mistry. He is an architect by profession.   Nice chat with Chhagan   – it transpired that he was instrumental in bringing to the notice of Oshwal Shahs Community in London about a huge property at Potters Bar, which was available for purchase. The long and short of that is —  the Oshwal Shahs own that property and now we have Oshwal Center there.  Also he helped in the design & details for the   Jain Temple on the property.

A bit of history for my record from my conversation with Chhagan.

One item that kind of spilled over during the conversation is about the visible success in their career and generally in life of many of the early years graduates from the RTC   – even when they are scattered across many countries (such as East Africa , U.K., Canada, Australia and USA).   The technical acumen and leadership exercised by most   is astounding   and is a tribute to the values instilled and foresight of our fathers and grandfathers during our upbringing under difficult colonial times.

A note about our stay with Bhaskar and Vidula

We feel that we are fortunate to enjoy the warm hospitality that Bhaskar and Vidula bestowed on us during our stay with them and which kind of transitioned us subsequently to a smooth stay in London.

After Bhaskar & Vidula picked us up at noon time on Tuesday 29 August 2017 from the Marriot Hotel , we went to their home in Ruislip.

Both Jackie and I were immediately awed by collection of their various fabulous artifacts in their home.   The most attention grabbing and those inspiring reverence were   two     – i)   a   ” stained glass”   Ganeshji  (crafted by one of their contacts) and   ii)   an intricate photo of ShreeNathji studded with various semi-precious stones. These two ignited in my heart my prayer mode  – a sort of doing a religious pilgrimage visit.

We spent  Wednesday shopping – went with Bhaskar for woolen sweaters (made in UK)  – bought two sweaters – Pringle brand (made in Scotland) and also I needed two special AAAA batteries for my hearing-aid remote. These we could not get from the shops.

Well, Bhaskar/Vidula   were kind & took (drove) us to Rugby on Thursday 31 August 2017 – where we wanted to make a visit to meet with our son-in-law Sunjay’s mom Hasuben .  It was a beautiful day and we had experience of M1 highway and we arrived at Rugby at noon time – we had a good visit and after lunch and socializing for a while we returned back   to Bhaskar/Vidula’s home by the evening.  After dinner we spent time chatting and also looking/savouring at Bhaskar’s album of RTC memories & photos from yonder years.

Vidula is an expert cook and enjoyed her meals . I still remember her home made pickle –   ” Chhundo ” (mango pickle) – exceptional texture and test and accompaniment to any   main dish.   Thanks Vidula.

Event 4

It   was the Paryushana festival  time  when we visited the U.K.  SamvatsarÄ«  (Forgiveness Day) is the last day of Paryushana festival observed by the followers of Jain religion. On this day, Jains ask for the forgiveness for their mistakes committed knowingly or unknowingly from the fellow beings.

It so happened that we were in London during Jain Paryushana festival  and thus we were fortunate to partake in this year’s Samvatsari  Lunch organized by the Oshwal Association of the U.K. on Sunday   03 September 2017 at the Oshwal Center, Potters Bar, Hertfordshire.

This afforded us the opportunity not only to partake in the Lunch – but also to visit the famous Oshwal Center of London and also the Jain Temple located there.  Besides we were to get to meet many of our relatives and friends whom we would not have time otherwise to visit individually.

At that time we were guests and staying with my sister Ranjan and her husband Mahendra in Edgware. So we went with them – driven by Mahendra – to Oshwal Center arriving there by 11.00 am.   Also their daughter Bini was with us.

As we had time before lunch – we went over to the Temple – made our prayers and then went on the grounds to enjoy the garden and many different well carved   ” stambhs – pillars “.

The Jain Temple

The Jain Temple is a “Shikhar Bandhi” Jain Temple and is popular with artistic carving.  The inner sacred sanctum houses idols of 3 Tirthankaras   (spiritual teachers of the dharma – righteous path) .  Mul nayak is Mahavir Swami; on his left is Parshvanath and on his right is Adishvara.

There is a ” Hand with Ahimsa Chkara ” on the ground along one side of the Temple. It is called the Ahimsa Hand (Jain Hand) and symbolizes non-violence. It is a right hand shown facing upwards (fingers up), with the thumb slightly pointed out.

Some believe it to be the Saṃsāra, a “wheel of life” on which there are depictions of birth, life, death, and reincarnation/death, along with the actions and consequence”™s of one”™s past, present, and future (Jain Hand).

Over upper level ground – a magnificent grove of trees is planted – some   52 trees – representing 52 villages of Halar.  Note: Halar is a county/borough in Saurashtra , Gujarat, India – from where originally members of our Visa Oshwal community   migrated – about a century ago – to go overseas mostly to Bombay and then to Kenya & other parts of East Africa .

Each tree is planted on its own separated from each other by a few feet and each tree is surrounded by a concrete round platform   ( ” Otlo “- a Gujarati term )  depicting the name of a village and donors who have contributed funds towards planting that particular tree & platform.

This Temple is gaining reputation for an excellent place for pilgrimage (by Jain visitors to London) and also by tourists   interested in knowing/understanding other culture/religion/tradition of the world.

The carved artistic temple along with well laid out and spacious garden provides the peaceful and solemn ambience for those seeking spiritual experience.

Samvatsari   Lunch

The Samvatsari lunch was held at the main building – utilizing all the halls   (and a marquee)- as to accommodate many participants who had come to share this joyous but somber day in the Jain calendar.

The   organization was superb, the enthusiasm and caring attitude of the volunteers was exemplary and worth to be proud of. The crowd was well behaved and remained in queue where so needed. We   stood in the queue and there we met   Jigna ( Mahendra/Ranjan’s eldest daughter ), her husband Richard and their kids – Ishan & Rishi. We also met Priyal (my nephew   Sunay’s wife) and her two kids – Ayla & her brother Ridai.   Further we met others too while in the queue – I remember meeting my niece Rina also.

As the queue wound down to the lower basement hall, we were greeted with smile and   ” namaskar ” by specially posted volunteers welcoming the participants with humility and wishing all of us a nice lunch. This was very profound in lifting our joyous spirit and at the basement hall – we picked up our lunch (chosen by each of us from a variety of menu items) served by volunteers posted at various tables. After pick up of the lunch  – we proceeded to the marquee which was erected next to the Main Building . There we all sat down and had our lunch – with quiet and relaxed manner.

After lunch, we came out to the grounds – from exit side – and there we had some time to mill around meeting some old acquaintances   (I met a couple of brothers (Ashok & Suryakant) who were   our neighbours in Mombasa -Station Road when I was in primary school). And also meeting some of our relatives ( in fact we met most of Jackie’s cousins & wives ).

We spent some time at the Main Building halls – where the ” physically challenged ” were served lunch . The love and care shown by the volunteer servers to each and every guest was exceptionally heart-warming.

So we ended our visit to the Oshwal Center by 3.30 pm and returning back we decided to visit Jackie’s cousin brother Laljibhai ( who lives with his son Harshit & Alpa ). Laljibhai has medical problems and need constant care.

My admiration and many thanks to all the volunteers who made the day very comfortable.

Event 5

Saadadi – Condolence Meeting . ” Saadadi ” style condolence meeting , I believe , is unique to our Community – having originated in Nairobi, Kenya. ” Saadadi ” is   organized at a Community Hall   within few days immediately after death of an individual     – by the close relatives of the deceased.

On Sunday 03 September 2017 (the day we went for Samvantari Lunch)    – after visiting Laljibhai (Jackie’s cousin brother) at his son’s home – we came to Ranjan/Mahendra home and had dinner and some rest.

After that we went to   a ” Saadadi ” – a condolence meeting held at the Oshwal Ekta Center for Hansaben. We went with Mahendra/Ranjan.  Hansaben had passed away a few days back. She is sister of my JayaKaki ( wife of my RashikUncle or Bachukaka – as we used to call him) plus she is also related to Mahendra from her husband side.

At the Condolence meeting – all (those coming to condole) get into a queue ( can be a long line) which slowly threads towards a line of mourners (from Hansaben’s family members – in this case) – either standing or sitting down – and as we get to the line – each one in line get to offer his or her either silent condolence message or expressing few words to that effect and then move on to the next mourner – until all are touched (metaphorically speaking) and offered condolence message – The purpose being that – in a way to make a gesture that lets the family know you”™re thinking of them and share their sorrow. Your choice of words is important and to avoid any inappropriate word.

This meeting has a set time – so we arrived within the allotted time and once the line move on – it takes only about 1/2 hour to complete the process.

This meeting allows opportunity to meet others -who would have come to condole – either before joining the line or after the process is complete.

As we were recent visitors to London   – many people came over and said Hi and had a bit of a chat – remembering our past. One of the guys I met was Mansukh Kanji -who was my neighbourhood friend when I was in primary/secondary school in Mombasa – living on Station Road -near our Visa Oshwal Community Place –   that is now 60 -65 years ago. That was very nice.     We also met Mansukh and his wife – Indu (Manjubhabhi’s brother & wife) as well as met Mahendra & wife (Virparfuva’s eldest son – the other sons &wives we met at Oshwal Center on Samvatsari lunch day).

After that we went over to Anuj’s parents home ( Anuj is Bini’s husband). Also Anuj was home – as he had returned back from his visit to Belgium.

Oshwal Ekta Center is the Oshwal Community center in Edgware, England – not very far from Ranjan/Mahendra home. Nice hall and they ( the Organizing Committee ) have plans for more renovations in the days to come. Only problem with this location is lack of parking – not like Oshwal Centre at Potters Bar where parking is ample.

Event 6

This visit to London was to achieve few objectives .   One of these was to spend time with my eldest brother, Kanti (turning 80 and visiting from Kenya for a few days) – as much as is feasible during our visit.

It so happened that he turned 80 – the day we landed at Heathrow Airport arriving from Canada – Wednesday 23 August 2017. Though talking with him on the phone after we landed in London – we got opportunity to   meet him only after a few days.   That was the day   when his sons (Shammir & Nehul) had organized a surprise birthday party for him. He did not know about it and his son Shammir and family were overseas (visiting California , USA for holidays) – when we arrived in London. We were approached by Nehul for the party – the invitation and the date   – at 6.00 pm Saturday 26 August 2017 and it to be at Shammir’s   place – as he would be back from USA by then.

Saturday was a busy day for us – as we were to be at Mayur’s place (Northwood) in the afternoon to participate in Anisha’s  Mehndi event. We had to excuse ourselves around 8.30 pm from the festivities and leave Mayur’s place to get to the party.  Note: There was a dance after dinner but we missed all that as we could not remain late and miss my brother’s birthday party.

It was important to be at the birthday party on two counts   1) It was my brother’s 80th birthday party and thus I would not want to miss it and 2) this is the only chance we will get to meet the whole side of my family together –   which would then allow a photo shoot of our siblings and their spouses – who are in U.K.   So we arrived at Shammir’s place at about 9.00 pm – a bit late for the party but we were in time for the cake cutting and subsequent photo of all my brothers, sisters and their spouses   together. I must mention here that we could not have in the photo —   my brother Arwind, my Kanchanbhabhi   (Kanti’s wife) – as both of them have passed away some years ago. Also my sister Sarla and her husband Satish could not be in the photo shoot – as they were in Nairobi, Kenya.

It was terrific that we managed to get to the party- however late and missing some items at Mayur’s place – as besides my siblings /spouses   we also met almost all of our nephews and nieces and spouses   and most of the grandkids.   Note: My sister Daksha and her husband had come all the way from Northampton and their three sons ( Ajul, Krupesh and Dinit) have also joined in – them being in London.

The party turned out to be exciting – having some cool moments to reminisce our family fraternity and getting fun looking at each other and sharing happy moments. At the end of the party around mid-night, my brother Suryakant dropped us at Hasu’s place where we were staying.

Event 7

Ajul decides to propose to his girlfriend (Daksha). This event was kind of a surprise  (especially during our visit to England ) – not thought of even in our dreams.

Ajul is my sister Daksha (Dipak)’s eldest son – whom we had met earlier at my brother Kanti’s 80th birthday party.   Fine young man.

So we had gone over to Northampton to spend a weekend with Daksha and Dipak.

We went to Northampton to Daksha/Dipak home on Friday 08 September 2017 with  Mahendra/Ranjan   and my brother Kanti.  Mahenda drove us all in his car.

That evening, Ajul had also come over (by train from London) along with his girlfriend (also named Daksha) to be with his parents in Northampton and also spend some time with us too – besides they arranged it in such a way so his girlfriend Daksha was introduced to all us on Friday   – as Ranjan (his Masi), Mahendra (his   Masa) and Kanti (his Mama) and myself & Jackie (his Mama/Mami) were all there. A sort of breaking a story /news of impending engagement.

However, Mahendra, Ranjan and Kanti returned to London on Friday night leaving Northampton at about mid-night – and Jackie and I remaining to spend the weekend there.

After spending the day together – going to John Lewis Mall at Milton Keynes and to a Buddhist Pagoda around that area – we returned back to London on Sunday 10 September 2017   in the evening – driven by Dipak in their minivan . We were to stay with Suryakant/Jasu in London that night but we had   a detour to my nephew Nimish’s home .  So Ajul introduced his girlfriend Daksha to his KumudMami and to Nimish and Prasita . After that Dipak drove us to Suryakant/Jasu home and there again introductions were made and after that late at night they left.

So it happened fast after that – Daksha’s parents flew over from Dehradun (India) on Friday                                                            (15 September 2017) next and spent their Saturday in Northampton and ” the die was cast “. So unofficially Ajul and Daksha were engaged – a formal ceremonial proposal was made by Ajul to Daksha later.

So on Saturday (15 September 2017) evening   –   Daksha/Dipek , Ajul and his girl friend Daksha & her parents come over to London at Shammir’s home – where we had gathered for dinner and introductions were made   and relations were established.  Also Krupesh (Ajul’s brother) came over after a while to join in the   bonhomie.

To top it up – sweets from Dehradun (India) were distributed for celebrating the occasion.   After a short time together – Daksha/Dipek , Ajul and his girl friend Daksha & her parents and Krupesh left – and thereafter we  went to the dining table for our dinner.   At the dining table – we were – Jackie, myself, Kanti, Suryakant & Jasu, Kumudbhabhi , Rina’s mom , Shammir & Rina – 9 in total.   Both grandkids (Ruan & Syan) had their dinner earlier.

Event 8   –     Our itinerary of stay in U.K – as it unfolded

a) Departing from Ottawa on Tuesday 22 August 2017 at 10.40 pm   local time & arriving   at Heathrow Airport , London on Wednesday 23 August 2017    –   Welcomed by Hasu ( my cousin – maternal)

Stayed with Hasu and his wife Dhank – from Wednesday 23 August to Sunday 27 August 2017

See above Event 1 (remembering my AmuMama) write-up – for some details.

Also see above Event 6 write-up – for some details on my brother Kanti’s 80th birthday at his son Shammir’s home

b) Stayed at Heathrow/Windsor Marriott Hotel , Langley, Slough – from Sunday 27 August to Tuesday 29 August 2017 –   for attending Anisha’s wedding.

See above Event 2 ( Anisha weds Rikin ) write-up – for some details.

c) Stayed with our Royal College colleague & friend Bhaskar Patel & His wife Vidula   – from Tuesday 29 August to Friday 01 September 2017.

See above Event 3  ( dinner with Royal College colleagues) write-up – for some details

also we had a day visit   with Hasuben ( Sunjay’s mom) in Rugby on Thursday 31 August 2017 – driven there by Bhaskar / Vidula .

d) Stayed with Ranjan/Mahendra (my sister & her husband)   – from Friday 01 September to   Tuesday 05 September 2017

See above Event 4 ( Samvatsari Lunch) & Event 5 (Saddaadi) write-ups – for some details

During our stay   – we had dinner at my ShantiMama/LekhaMami   home on Monday 04 September 2017. My brother Kanti was also invited.

e) Stayed with Suryakant/Jasu (my brother & his wife) from Tuesday 05 September to   Friday   08 September 2017

also during that time   :

– had dinner at Blue Ginger Restaurant with Harkhu/Nimu, Mansukh/Lekha & Laxmikant/Mukta on Wednesday 06 September 2017.   –  A   good time spent with friends .

Harkhu is my old time friend from Kenya. Mansukh is my school and college friend. Laxmikant is Jackie’s relation and friend.

– had lunch at Mansukh /Sobhna (Jackie’s cousin brother & wife ) home   on Thursday 07 September 2017 – there were also (also Sheetal and his wife were at the lunch) , ManuBhabhi, ManjuBhabhi, Pravin/Champu, Manjubhabhi’s brother Mansukhbhai and his wife Indu were also invited. Also Sushi/ Rajni were there too. Pravin/Champu’s daughter (Shaily)   also came over.

– Went over for a visit to Rina/Minesh home on Thursday 07 September 2017  evening . Met Minesh’s parents ( Vijayaben and Venichandbhai (Vinubhai . Also met their daughter   Ruhi . Their other daughter, Kria,  had gone to sleep at that time.

 Rina – trying to be vegan – knew about Soya Yogurt , Soya Ice Cream . Also had tea which was Caffeine free – a product of South Africa ( known as Tick-Tock tea)

Note:   Tick Tock”˜s deep colour and full taste make a delicious cup of tea, and it”™s well known for its health properties too. Gentle, soothing, naturally caffeine free and low in tannin, Tick Tock Rooibos Tea can be enjoyed at any time, even at bed time.

Tick Tock Rooibos tea is still  harvested by hand and cured in the traditional way The process takes place in the crisp  air of the Cedarberg Mountains of South Africa’s Cape. It  requires great skill to know when the cure is at its peak;  one sign is that it begins to give off a delicious sweet aroma that attracts wild bees.

f)   Stayed with  Daksha/ Dipak (my sister and her husband) in Northampton between Friday 08 September to Sunday 10 September 2017 . Driven there  by Mahendra/Ranjan .  My brother Kanti also joined us.

See above Event 7  ( Ajul’s dream girl -Daksha) write-up – for some details.

also during that time on Saturday :

– Daksha /Dipek took us to meet Champa/Harkhu in Northampton . Champa had worked for TESCO for 21 years until her injuries – when she retired.   She has 3 girls – all grown up . One – Kalpa – is married ( to a local guy – they have two kids – a boy and a girl – both toddlers) The two others ( Bina & Rina) are not married and live nearby -and together.

– and in subsequently in the afternoon we   went to Leicester – a sort of pilgrimage – to go to Shree Jalaram Temple for worship. Nice temple – with an idol of Shree Jalaram with an idol of Shree Ram behind.   After the worship at Shree Jalaram Temple   – we went to the Jain Temple ( which is known to be the oldest in the Western world). After worship – we waited till 7.00 pm for aarti – met Rajni Mehta & his wife ( who seem to be one of the leaders at the Temple).

The Aarti started at 7.00 pm – and we were encouraged to take & lead the Aarti – which we did.   There were 3 Aarti ( one for Digambar, one for Swetamber and last for Rajchandraji.   After Aarti — there was sing song ( stavan) led by a good singer.

We left the JainTemple at about 9.00 pm and then went for dinner at Indigo Restaurant serving Indian cuisine.   Arrived back to Northampton at about mid-night . Over tea, had a long good “shooting the breeze type” conversation with Dipak past midnight.

On Sunday , we all went   to John Lewis Center- Milton Keynes .   At the mall, Daksha concentrated to find any Chinese Shop – for she knew I was looking for Chinese Dried Plums                   ( believed to be good for digestion – for constipation relief – as recommended by Atul & already tried by me at the start of the journey to UK).   Well, we found it – not exactly at the John Lewis mall but at the adjoining Food Mall . We managed to buy few packets of these Dried Plums. Note : By the way – over the coming week Daksha tried these Dried Plums and she did report a good result – for her constipation problem.

After the mall visit – on the way back to Northampton   – we took a detour to a Buddhist Pagoda (Peace Pagoda) & Temple in the vicinity – at Willen Lake Milton Keynes.   We had to climb steps to go over to the Peace Pagoda – and walked over the top of the hill towards the Temple but wind and adverse weather made it difficult to go over to the Temple – had my hat had blown over and had to be retrieved with some concern. However, we did get to the Tree where worshipper place their written prayers . At that place there was a stone cairn with write-up and a fixed on the cairn was a small   golden Ganesha statue.   I am surprised to see a Ganesha image at a Buddhist shrine.

Note: Ganesha also appears in Buddhism, not only in the form of the Buddhist god Vināyaka, but also portrayed as a Hindu deity form also called Vināyaka. His image may be found on Buddhist sculptures of the late Gupta period.

See Link: https://www.buddhagroove.com/what-is-significance-of-ganesha-in-buddhism/

After the visit to the Peace Pagoda , we rushed back to Northampton as Jigna/Richard and their toddlers ( Ishan & Rishi) were visiting Daksha’s family for an hour or so. They arrived about the same time we reached Daksha’s home. Had a great time playing with Rishi – a very adorable   ~ 1   1/2 yr old boy. All had dinner refreshment   together – and after Jigna family left –   we kind of relaxed a bit before leaving Northampton for London.

We were to spend night at Suryakant/Jasu place .   Dipak  drove – all six of us again in their van.   On the way to Suryakant’s home – Daxa made   a diversion to go to Nimish’s   home   ( this was an opportunity to introduce Daksha Jr  to Nimish family and to Kumudbhabhi ) .

 

 

 

When we arrived at Suryakant’s home ( about 9.30 pm) – surprise!   Darshi and Nilesh ( Nilesh is Darshi’s Mama -mom’s brother) were there visiting.  Darshi is granddaughter of my AmuMama ( Ela’s daughter) -who has recently arrived to UK to visit ( in fact she was to attend a conference but that   got cancelled last minute) . Darshi is a Pharmacist by profession.   My AmuMama passed away recently in Kenya ( just before we travelled to UK) and thus meeting Darshi was a God-sent opportunity.   An opportunity to grieve within family.

g) Stayed one night with Suryakant/Jasu on Sunday 10 September   2017 and then

h) on   Monday 11 September 2017 went to Sushi/Rajni home for a night .   Met their son Deep ( who is physically challenged, gone through hardship while growing up but   managed himself , did get an education and works with Tax Department   since last many years. He did work with Hasu   (my cousin) when Hasu was with the Tax Department. Hasu is now retired after 41 years of service. Deep lives independently in his own apartment – which he   shares with a roomie ( a local person).

Note: Sushi/Rajni came over in the morning to pick us up from Suryakant’s home

On Tuesday   12 September 2017 – in the morning – before lunch , Sushi/Rajni took us over to the neighbourhood park for a walk . All the amenities for children playground BUT also a an adult physio corner were there. Nice weather and walk.

Manu Haria & his wife Shobhna came over to visit.   Shobhna brought an Indian dress (maroon) for Sitara   and a bag of Sooji flour ( for making shiro) . We declined the Sooji flour on account of being heavy to carry.

Sushi/Rajni (along with Deep) took us to visit Harshit/Alpa & Laljibhai .   This is the second time we visited Laljibhai – who grew up with Jackie in the same household .

i)  Stayed two (2) nights at Mayur/Bhavni home   from Tuesday 12 September to   Thursday 14 September 2017 . They had come over to Sushi/Rajni home to pick us up late in the afternoon.

Tuesday night , Anisha dropped by at her parents’ home before her parents dropped her to her in-laws home. Arjun was also home – with whom we had good conversation.

Note: In the morning of Wednesday,   when I was resting a bit in the living room (at Mayur’s place) -as usual I was looking for something to read, Lo Behold ! what I found ?   On the side of the sofa – I found a collection of books – amongst these there was one book which attracted my attention. The book is top Jain Book -translated into English . Title : Tattvartha Sutra – That Which is.   This book is so excellent about Jainism and principles, We have a copy at home in Canada. I was mesmerized . This is moment which will transform me from my recent interest in Mystery/Detective books to philosophy/theology serious books – especially books about Jainism as I had done study previously when we were in Toronto   Area – before 1986.

On   Wednesday 13 September 2017 – at about noon Bhavni dropped us at Sanjiv/Pallavi’s home .

Pallavi & Manubhabhi wanted to take us for lunch and spend better   part of day with them.   On the way, we picked up Manjubhabhi from her sister’s home   before we proceeded to go to the Swaminarayan Temple (Mandir) at Neasden, London . There we spent time in the Temple premises but we were at a   wrong time when the actual Temple Sacred Sanctum was closed and thus after admiring the temple from outside -we left. It was decided on the run that we can go to Maru’s Bhajia House ( at Wembley) for lunch.   So we ended up there.

What a lunch!   Just took us back to our old days in Nairobi when there Maru’s Bhajia were very popular . Great time .   Next to Maru’s Bhajia House was the Sanatan Temple . We went to worship there .

Note: The Sanatan Temple in Wembley   was opened in the Summer of 2010, took 14 years to build, and is made entirely of imported Indian limestone.

After a worship at the Sanatan Temple – it transpired (during conversations in the car) that Dhanubhai Chandaria ( from Kenya) has recently arrived in London. So it was decided to go and visit him at his sister’s home – where he was staying.   Dhanubhai has a great esteem for us and vice versa – so this was   a pleasant surprise – him being in London.   We had a great visit and at the end , Pallavi invited him/wife to join us at dinner at Pallavi/Sanjiv home that evening .   So dinner went well – all having good time.

After dinner, Sanjiv dropped us at Mayur/Bhavni’s home to spend the night there. It was close to mid-night – but we had a good conversation with Mayur and Arjun prior to going to sleep.

j)  Stayed at Ranjan/Mahendra home from Thursday 14 September to Sunday 17 September 2017.

Mayur dropped us at Mahendra/Ranjan place – going via Suryakant’s home ( to pick up a suitcase we had left there – Jasu was home ).

Dinesh came to visit at about 3.00 pm on   Thursday at Mahendra’s home.   Also surprise – Ranjan Malde   ( our LaxmiMasi’s daughter) also came over to visit – day before she was travelling to Norway to be with her   son ( her son works in Norway ).

All in all it turned out to be pleasant afternoon.

In the evening – there was dinner at Tikoo (Nimish) /Prasita home ( Kumudbhabhi) — Aashay, Savir are Nimish/Prasita’s sons.   Savir is Sachin’s age (about 8 years)   and Aashay is about 11 years old.   Also Kanti, Suryakant/Jasu were there.   Kumudbhabhi made puranpuri   – which she remembered as my favorite .

After dinner, Suryakant dropped us at Mahendra’s place.

On Friday , Rishi   – Mahendra/Ranjan’s grandson was dropped off by Richard in the morning while Ishan had gone to school.

Today is a special day at Oshwal Center for Snatra Puja   – which Mahendra like to participate.

Note:   This is a common Puja widely performed by most of the Deravasi Jain worshipers. It is also a starting Puja before any other main Puja.

So we all went (along with Rishi) to the Jain Temple at the Oshwal Center.   Met Manikaki . Participated in the Snatra Puja. Also   did Shanti Jal puja, Chaityavandan   (praying to the Tirthankars at the temple ), & Aarti at the Jain Temple.

Note:   Shanti Jal puja   –   Water symbolizes life”™s ocean of birth, death and misery. This Jain puja reminds that one should live one’s life with honesty, truthfulness, love and compassion towards all living beings. This way one will be able to cross life”™s ocean and attain liberation (Moksha).

LINK: http://www.jaincentreleicester.com/resources/puja/

Lunch was provided in the hall . Ate many ladoos ( 3 1/2 ladoos) . Nice curry with sweet peas, tindora & fulka.

After that returned back to Mahendra/Ranjan Home . Mahendra went to pick up Ishan from school .

Dinesh came to visit about 3.00 pm and stayed until 5.00 pm .

Both kids   (Ishan & Rishi) had a sleep over at their nana/nani ( Mahendra/Ranjan) place .

On Saturday, I went for a walk ( in the morning ) around the area by myself first   and then with Mahendra taking a walk (after lunch) with Rishi in the stroller. This time we   walked a longer route – stopping at Shammir’s place and saying Hi to Kanti as well as Shammor/Rina.

Bini/Anuj had come over to play with the kids (Ishan & Rishi) . Also Rehma joined them .

Shammir then came over at 3.00 pm to pick us up – as we were having dinner at his place.

While at Shammir – Tikoo(Nimish)/Prasita and Savir had come for a short to visit .   Also RamnikMama/TaraMami came for a visit. This was excellent that I finally met them -otherwise our contact would only remain on the phone – while we were in London.

Nimish/Prasita and Savir left after spending less than an hour with the group.

Then unexpected happened.   Daksha/Dipak came from Northampton to visit along with Ajul, Daxa Jr and her parents (from India).   They announced that Ajul and Daksha Jr were now engaged (sort of unofficially) and   Daksha (Ajul’s mom) distributed Dehradun sweets to celebrate the occasion. The guests – parents of Daksha Jr –   (Raj Isar & his wife) are from Dehradun, India.

Rina had gone & picked her mom – who then joined us.

Suryakant/Jasu and Kumudbhabhi also came over and joined in the celebration. After sometime, RamnikMama/TaraMami left. Then Krupesh turned up to join in the celebration .

All stayed till about 9.00 pm and then Daxa and the group left for dinner somewhere in   a restaurant and the rest remained behind to have dinner at Shammir/Rina home.   Ruan & Syan (kids ) had their dinner earlier but Ruan came downstairs & took some of our group photos. On the dinner table we were – myself, Jackie, Kanti, Kumudbhabhi , Rina’s mom, Suryajkant, Jasu , Shammir and Rina . Late at night Suryakant dropped us off at Mahendra/Ranjan place.

Kanti was to travel to Kenya catching his plane (from Heathrow Airport) on Sunday morning.

Suryakant/Jasu to travel to Spain with Purvi & her husband for 2 weeks holiday (on Monday 18 September 2017)

And we were travelling on Tuesday 19 September 2017 – to return to Canada.

k) Stayed with Hasu/Dhanak from Sunday 17 September to Tuesday 19 September 2017

Note: Tuesday 19 September 2017 – being our last day in U.K .

Shaina (Manubhabhi’s daughter) came over (from Kent -where lives) just at about noon on Sunday 17 September – picked us up from Mahendra/Ranjan home – along with all our luggage.   We dropped the luggage at Hasu’s place prior to proceeding to go pick up Manubhabhi .   After that we went for lunch at a South Indian restaurant called Saravanna Bhavan  (for dosa meal) in Wembley. I ate Kara Dosa & others selected   Roya Masala dosa.   Shaina’s treat. Thanks Shaina.

After lunch we proceeded to Pravin/Champu home for a visit. Met   Sheelan’s ( Pravin/Champu’s son) wife – Murrey – and her two boys -about 5 or 6 years old .   From there we went across the road to visit KankuKaki and   Meghjikaka.

After that we were dropped off at Hasu’s place to stay   (   note: there till our departure for Ottawa on Tuesday 19 September 2017).

Visited Radiatben (Dhanak’s mom) in the evening of Sunday at her Senior Apartment building . Very majestic lady.

On Monday , we   Visited Amar/Vikita at their home. The kids (Aarav & Kiaan ) were home .   Amar had taken time off from work.   After that we   went to   visit Jitesh/Parul & Ashni (daughter) at their home.

Monday night Atul came over to visit . Also ShantiMama/LekhaMami came to visit and we all had good conversation.

note: Visited Laljibhai 2 times during our visit to London.

Event 9   – Departure ( adios) – Michhami Dukkadam to all

Well   it is departure time for Ottawa, Canada  after a beautiful  and heavenly visit to intermingle and meet with our family members and friends – in the U.K   but also those who came from Kenya. In fact Anjali (Sobhas/Hansa’s daughter) came from the USA. Note : most came to attend Anisha’s wedding.

On Tuesday 19 September 2017 at about noon – Hasu dropped us off at the Heathrow Airport Dhanak had already gone to work .    Plane (AC889) departed at 3.45 pm local time and we arrived in Canada (Ottawa Airport) at 6.15 pm local time   – Nina was there to pick us up .On the way we   stopped at T & T Super Market (a Chinese Grocery Store) – picked up some groceries and some Chinese Dried Plum packets.

Adieus —- London.    Many thanks specially to Hasu & Dhanak for welcoming us on arrival and then at the end taking us to the Airport for smooth departure . You have made it possible for  our visit to England to become very enjoyable and comfortable.

There was so much fun and so much opening up & jogging of memories and making new memories and enjoying the late nights , restaurants, visit to family members & friends (specially from Royal College ), visit to temples and moreover attending and being part of pleasant social events – like wedding and engagement -well informal though.

Besides there was evidence of how many have moved on and aging – by coming across   grandchildren   who are coddled and looked after by many of the grandparents (all amongst our family and friends). We enjoy our grandchildren back in Canada who make our lives joyous and alive every day. Thus seeing many of family and friends are also having same   experience was very cathartic.

Well to end – we are really very thankful to all, to each and every one of you who gave us cheer and laughs during our stay in U.K.

It is time for me to say Michhami Dukkadam to you all and genuinely if I have offended you in any way during our visit – I can assure it would have been unintentional and I seek forgiveness for any of my actions   – if such was the case.  

Please note Jackie (my wife) expresses similar sentiments.

And it was the Jain Paryushana festival   time  during our visit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Being Grandparents!

On Sunday 5th August 2007, my wife and I  became grandparents. This is our first grandchild. The joy of becoming grandparents  is so exhilarating that the arrival of Sitara, a beautiful daughter born to our daughter Nina  and her husband, Sunjay Mistry  (our loving son-in-law) is just pure ecstasy to us. This is  even beyond the joy of arrival of our own children many years ago.

Many become grandparents at younger age but for us this event has happened at an advanced age (67 years ) and interestingly enough after only a few months   after my retirement from work.   The grand daughter will have a special place in our hearts and will help us pass  our retirement gainfully.

 

Sitara came to this world at 9.05 am on Sunday 5th August 2007 at the Ottawa General Hospital. Both Nina and daughter are doing fine. Sitara has cuddled with her daddy, met her maternal grandparents (my wife and myself) and met  & played with  her uncle Sunir (Nina’s brother — our son)   and his girlfriend, Shannon.

 

Sitara has embedded herself into our souls minaret.

I am sure that she will give us many years of fun and pleasure as well as she will make us proud in all things that she will   accomplish in this world.

 

Welcome dear grandchild – you will be our star and focus for everything for sometime to come.

 

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Addition to the text: (Friday 10 August, 2007) -on her sixth day of birth, Sitara’s “Chhathi” (ceremony on sixth day of her birth) was held at Mackey (at her home). It is an Indian (Hindu) tradition to worship & thank God for such a gift to the family and also seek blessing from Goddesss Sarawati ( Goddess of Learning and Intelligence) to chart  future for the new born baby. Also at this time the baby is named in front of the Gods (and also a diya -lighted candle) . The ceremony was a private one with Sitara’s parents, and grandparents (maternal)  present. Sitara’s uncle, Sunir, was also present along with his girlfriend, Shannon.

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Addition to the text: ( Monday 13 August, 2007).   Sitara, our lovely granddaughter, along with her proud parents (Sunjay & Nina) visited our residence (in Deep River)in the afternoon at the age of only 9 days. Her first visit to her garndparents!!! She was ever so enthralling  and captivating.  

She was presented to Shree Jalaram ( the main oil painting in the Family Room) and I am sure was blessed by Him.

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Addition to the text: (Friday 24 August, 2007).  

This  was a very happy day for me ( maternal grandpa). You know why?. I had the opportunty to feed Sitara this evening ( at 5.45 pm) at her parents home in Mackay.   Sitara has reverted to a formula feeding after a couple of weeks of mothers milk. This provided a opening for the grandpa to cajole her and feed her the bottle. Oh! she was very well behaved and took to her feeding royally and finished her 4 oz. in a very gracious manner.   As during all feeds of a very tender baby, one must allow her breaks during her feed to  let her burp and clear any gas. Sitara did a royal burp and  also a release of gas half way during her feed. She was just a happy girl. Grandpa was very satisfied with  Sitara for letting him to feed her.   She then was in playful mood but we left for Deep River so that her parents (Nina & Sunjay) can be with her.

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Addition to the Text ( 5th September 2007)-  

Today Sitara becomes 1 month of age. She has developed according to waht is required . She now looks and hears at us. She gave me   a fabulous smile yesterday when we were visiting her.   Her Garndma (paternal side) arrived from England yesterday to hug and pamper Sitara. She (Sitara) just took to her immediately. I guess blood relation.

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Addition to the Text (6th September 2007)-  

I have noted (since some time – roughly when she was 2 1/2 weeks old) that Sitara responds and becomes quite attentive (even if she was crying – she will stop crying) when I sing to her the song ” Rammeya vasta vya Rammeya vasta vya” – from Indian movie Shree 420. It may be babys respond to male voice at this age. I am not a good singer but I  can modulate the song in my way for Sitara. This response by Sitara is noted by all in the family and really makes me very happy.  

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Addition to the Text (12th September 2007)-  

Tomorrow Sitara goes to Toronto – a first long journey for her – to attend a wedding from her dad’s side.  This will be an experience for Sitara but for her parents (and also her paternal Grandma) too   – how to attend a social function with baby in tow.  It must be    noted that Sitara did have her first outside visit to Storyland ( on Hwy 17 near Renfrew) last week on Saturday (8th Sepptember 2007). She was taken there by her parents and paternal Grandma (who is visiting her from U.K.)

 

Note: Sitara returned back at Mackay on Sunday after attending the wedding in Toronto. She enjoyed that visit as she met lot of her relatives. She was well behaved and kept her cool most of the time.

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Addition to the Text (20 September 2007)-  

Yesterday, she came to Deep River for her bi-weekly visit to the Doctor. She did do well with normal weight increase. She is now 6 weeks old and have started responding with smiles and sounds. This day she also has other plans. She wanted to train her Grandpa for taking her out in her stroller for   neighborhood walk. Grandpa went with Sitara and her mom for a walk at about 5.00 pm. Grandpa enjoyed taking Sitara out and he pushed the stroller well. She met the next door baby (Jordan) who is   few months older than Sitara. Sitara also met Pharmacy staff and other townfolks.

She also met her dad outside his work place.   After some shopping at the Pharmacy, she returned home (at about 6.05 p.m) exhibiting  great satisfaction on her face.   A great outing and learning for Grandpa.

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Addition to the text: (22 September, 2007)

An open House was held at Mackey (at Sitara’s residence) for introducing Sitara to family members and  friends in the area. The Open House was held between 1.00 pm and 4.00 pm. There were some 50 people attended to welcome Sitara on this good earth.  Sitara was looking splendid in her embroidered dress and she was an epitome of contented and well behaved child.  She played at the start of the afternoon and first time showed activities which included trying to grab floating toys above her head. After that  she slept thru most of the afternoon even though there was much chattering going on from her well wishers  .

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Addition to the Text: (Saturday, 29 September 2007)

Sitara attended her first party (Baby Shower) outside of home held by Nina’s workplace colleagues  . The party was in the evening from 6.00 pm. Sitara came to our home, for a short while, after  the party at about 9.30 pm.

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Addition to the Text : (Monday, 1 October 2007)

This is the day Sitara accompanied her paternal Grandma (currently visiting from England) and her parents to visit North Bay to show her Grandma the touristy things around.

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Addition to the Text: (Wednesday  03 October  2007)

Today was the day for vaccination. Nina took Sitara to Doctor’s office  for her first vaccination in life. In order to ease the pain  just before the vaccination, she was fed a little sugary water.

The vaccination was for 1) Diphtheria 2) Tetanus 3) Pertussies 4) Polio-IPV 5) Hib 6) Pneomo Conjugate.

Nina brought Sitara to our home after the vaccination. She is fast asleep in the car seat at this time ( 1.30pm)

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Addition to the Text: (Friday  05 October  2007)

Today Sitara became 2 months old   (having born on 5 August 2007). She spent the day travelling to Ottawa to accompany her paternal Grandma (Hasmukhben) to the airport as her Grandma was returning back to U.K. after spending 1 month here in Canada to cuddle and play with Sitara.  Sitara went with  her mom & Grandparents (maternal) to the airport to say farewell and Bon Voyage to  the Grandma from U.K.

Sitara was all attentive , smiled a lot, played with her Grandma at the Ottawa Airport prior to Granma taking leave and entering the inner area of the Airport to get on the Air Canada plane.

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 Addition to the Text: (Sunday 21 October 2007)

Sitara & her mother have spent a night in Deep River at Grandparents home. This visit was facilitated as her daddy has gone to U.K. (for afew days) on office business since Monday 15 October 2007. Sitara have become accustomed to Granddad’s unique way of singing and making lyrics which go well with her. Sitara seems to enjoy this new phase of interaction with her maternal Grandpa (nana -in Gujarati Language). One of the rhythemic chants goes like 1-nana, 2-nana, 3-nana,4-nana,5-nana & 6-nana. At her current age (10 weeks or so) , the chant does not go beyond 6 numerals. The obvious variation to chant is 1-daddy, 2-daddy etc or 1-mummy,2-mummy etc, 1-nani, 2-nani etc (nani is maternal Grandma in Gujarati language) orfinally 1-nunu, 2-nunu etc. The “nunu” is the word we gave to the soother that Sitara sometimes have in her mouth. This “nunu” word was created by her Grandparents when Sitara’s mum was a baby (in the late 1970s).

Note: The day before (on Saturday 20 October 2007), Sitara’s maternal uncle (Sunir) got engaged to Shannon. Sitara was informed and just gave a charming smile -though I do not think she understood what was said. I think she responded to her Grandpa’s happiness & subtle smile on his face.

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Addition to the text: (20 November, 2007)

This week Sitara had more adventure. First she had a ride to North Bay with her mom and us (Grandparents) on Wednesday 14 November, 2007 . She got her first encounter with the Santa Clause at NorthGate mall and her first photo with  the Santa Clause  .

Then she has gone to Torntoto attend her second wedding since she was born  . The wedding is for Priyanka , a daughter of one of our friends in Deep River. Priyanka is also a friend of Sitara’s mom. They have stayed back in Toronto as they will attend an Engagement party for  one of her dad’s cousins duirng coming weekend.

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Addition to the text: (06 December  2007)

 Yesterday Wednesday  05 December 2007   was the day for her second round of vaccination.   The first shots were given on Wednesday 03 October  2007. Nina took Sitara to Doctor’s office  for her  second vaccination in life.   Her dad also accompanied her for this vaccination.

After vaccination Sitara came to our house with her mom. She was asleep and took the vaccination in her   stride. Once   she woke    up, she remained very fresh   and smiling and playful.

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Addition to the text: (Wednesday –    12 December  2007)

The preparation for Christmas Holidays are going   at a frantic step. Grandma has put up the tree and decorated it. There is  a new enthusiasm this year as Sitara is amidst us.   Every year since the kids  (Nina & Sunir) left home for studies and then for workforce, the Christmas decorations were getting slimmer and slimmer.But now that our granddaughter (Sitara) is amongst us, it is providing a lot of excitement.   I wrote a Letter to Editor  for the local newspaper (North Renfrew Times)  and it was published on Wednesday 12 December, 2007.

The letter is reproduced here.

Joy of Christmas


The whole world has metamorphosed to a wonderful world for the coming Christmas holidays   ”“ that is how I feel.   This is the first year; I am not working for my family”™s upkeep. This has kept me away from the hustle and bustle as well as merry-go-round cacophony of the office emergencies. The emergencies have a way of sprouting during important holidays.
 
The recent news ( in the papers and on radio) about disruption to the supply of medical radioisotopes is a case in point. This does make me to sit up but not in the context of any workplace effort required but from concern for our fellow citizens who may need diagnosis using the radioisotopes.  
 
We have been celebrating Christmas since we migrated to Canada from Kenya”“ way back in 1974. Our first-born (daughter) arrived that year and Christmas celebration was institutionalized in the household. Even though the celebration is a bit alien to our faith and culture; it resonated well as Christmas celebrates the birth of Jesus.   The joy to the world was deeply felt.
 
After that the tradition continued and further strengthened on the arrival of our son. Well, as every parent knows, then those days arrived when both the daughter and the son grew up and one by one went away to their chosen university and then to workplace. The household was full of emptiness. However, every year Christmas tradition was kept alive with the hope that the kids will come home on Christmas.   Every year there was that unknown lingering on (till about a week or so before the arrival of the actual Christmas holidays) about who would actually come home? Sometimes the tree decoration was well done with great care and details and other times the decorations were left till last minute.
 
The whole world has metamorphosed to a wonderful world this year. We have become grandparents ”“ a new child is born this year. We are blessed with a lovely granddaughter who keeps us smiling all days. The full Christmas tree is back in the living room and Christmas music is on the DVD.   She is only four months and already has taken two vaccinations in her stride. Her smiles are infectious and joyful.
The joy of Christmas is profound when celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ.
 I wish all a happy holidays and Merry Christmas.
 
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Addition to the text: (Tuesday –    25 December  2007) The celebration of Christmas this year was split in two parts . One on 25th at our daughter’s place (that is at our granddaughter’s place) and second on 27th at our  residence  in Deep River. Sunir (our son) was home on 23rd. Shennon -his fiancés arrived in the evening of Thursday 27th December. Sitara  had a great time with all the gifts and hugs and plays with Sunir,  Shennon, her parents and  grandparents. The parents were all glow and happy.   This was very fulfilling Christmas for all of us.RESP (Registered Education Saving Plan) for Sitara for 2007 was also commenced . Good ending for 2007 as grandparents. ————————————————- Addition to the text: (Thursday  – 10 January 2008)Last two days Sitara and  her parents have  come to stay with us. With electrical power off in their area in Mackay and also both aparents suffering from  cold , it was thought better to spend time in Deep River. Grandma is delighted and having a great time with Sitara. Sitara is a very charming and loving girl. Always responds to plays and all her toys. She has no cry. She is very discipline girl.   Goes to sleep according to her set rhythm and takes her feeds regulary. Grandpa gets cheered up from her laughs, giggles and various plays. Today, she joined Grandpa in his prayers to Shree  Jalaram  . She  was with her Grandma. —————————————————Addition to the text: (Thursday  –  26 January 2008)Today, Sitara went with  her parents to Pembroke for a portrait. The Grandparents also went to cheer her. She was all very charming and accommodating when various portraits were taken. She won hearts of the photographer  girls and others who had come for their own family portraits. Sitara also got her photos done for passport. She was not supposed to smile and wear darker dress.Sitara can pose so well that our hearts jump with joy.After the portraits we all went for shopping. This time for Grandpa’s new winter coat. After shopping we ended up at the Asian Restaurant in Pembroke for Chinese/Thai dinner. It was a  good ending of the day on the India’s 59th Republic day.——————————————

Addition to the text: (Thursday  –  27 January 2008)

 Today Sitara went for swimming class at the local Deep River swimmimg pool with her mom. Her dad was already gone there earlier for his swimming.

Oh! she is now growing up and taking necessary steps in life.

She is a delight.     Sitara has started to be comfortable with her Granddad since   last few days and always want to be with him and talk with him and play with him. Wow.

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Addition to the text: (Friday  –  9 February 2008)

Today, Sitara and her mom came home after her FEN class. Yesterday also they came after Sitara’s session at her FEN class.I understand that Sitara used the potty first time on Wednesday, 7 February, 2008. She is slowly getting trained for using potty but it will take some time.  She is only 6 months old  and just recently started on solid food ( a little bit at this time).   Good show, Sitara.

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Addition to the text: (Friday  –  10 February 2008)  Today being Sunday, it is swimming class for Sitara at the Mckenzie High School pool in Deep River.   Grandparents decided to go to the pool to cheer and also to enjoy watching Sitara playing in the pool. She was just enjoying herself. It was such a delight to watch her splashing her feet and chasing her small yellow ducky.   Her mom was holding her and leading her all over in a circle in the pool  . There were a total of 10 toddlers in the pool -each with her/his mother or father. Sitara’s dad was outside the pool busy taking her video.A side  note: Sitara got her Canadian passport yesterday. The Government Department proved to be very efficient as the application for passport was done only  on 26 January, 2008.——————————————————Addition to the text: (Thursday    –  21 February 2008)Today, Sitara, my loving grandaughter, came to Pambroke General Hospital to wish her grandpa early recovery from his day surgery on that day. The surgery was for his bilateral inguinal hernia. My surgery was at 9.15 am and i had to present myself at the hospital at 7.15 am. To arrive safely and in time to hospital, we (grandma and myself) stayed Wednesday night in Pembroke  at our friend Mehta’s house.

The bilateral surgery was over by 11.30 am and I was brought to my recovery(resting) area. Sitara came with her mother to   see me and wish good and speedy recovery.     What she did was so   loving and something out of an angel’sbook. She stroked my face a few times ( i think at least four times) and smiled lovingly  as if saying grandpa I love you and you will be okay.   Her moves brought warmth in my heart . We came home (by car – a   distance of about 45 kms) to deep River by 4.00 p.m.

Sitara and her mom stayed with us that day for few hours till I was settled well. Her dad also came after his work and all wished me well again.

On Friday, Sitara and her mom came to visit. The whole family (Sitara, her dad and mum)  stayed with us for a night . Sitara played with me with her making sound from a distance (trying to formulate some kind of words)   and I think helped me in my recovery. I am doing fine on the fifth day of my surgery and hoping to remove dressings tomorrow (Wednesday 27 February, 2008).

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Addition to the text: (Saturday  –  08 March  2008)

 Sitara has now ccmpleted her first round of swimming class at Mckenzie High School pool located in Deep River. She has also had her third vaccination sometomein last few days.

She is now ready for new adventure. She rolls and tries to crawl. She has started taking solid food. She tries to formulate words and is very talkative with her mom and when she visits grandparents home in Deep River, she just lights up. Always mischievious, she gives all kinds  of  positve responses and  entertain grandpa with cheers and cooing. She always enjoy playing with garndma. She trusts her without any rancour.

On Saturday, March 08, 2008 she also particpated in the East Indian Community winter gathering at the Christian Educational Centre located in Deep River.     Oh! she joined in teh game of Musical Chair (of course perched on her dad’s hands) Shw was looking so cute as she showed that she was enjoying the game immensely. She did not win but went as far as she can go (as guided and led by her dad).

This day Deep River (in fact whole of Ottawa Valley) got lots of snow and visibility was very low. Sitara went home to Mackay in car with her parents. Luckily they left a bit early (due to wrning of impending storm) and arrived home safely   (about 11.00 pm).     Sitara was snuggly in her cot when storm was pounding outside.

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 Addition to the text: (Tuesday  –  11 March  2008) Sitara went to Ottawa with her parents. Her dad’s car needed servicing. During this time, Sitara also visited the Bayshore Shopping mall. She got a surprise. She got her ears pierced and got a gift of two nice diamond studs.   My little child is slowly growing up. She looks so cute with studs in her ears.  _________________________________Addition to the text: (Saturday  –  22 March  2008)This weekend is the Easter Weekend – early this year in March.

Sitara came to our house in Deep River with her parents as we had decided to spend time together for the hoildays..

Sitara was as  usual playful and rolling over the blanket on the floor and chasing her toys. She was cooing and also making definitive sound.   To-day she was more concentrating on Ba sound   . I am told that yesterday she was    repeating na na sound.  

Well, she got our traditional 4 inch high hollow -milk chocolate- Easter egg   as gift. This is our household tradition since Nina (her mother was born).   Her mom and dad did not get their Eggs this year as they are keeping  away from sweets.

Sitara really enjoyed the gift- playing with the box and ruffling of plastic wrapping and colorful designs on the box. Of course she cannot eat the chocolet as she is just a  baby of 7 months. But we all ate the chocolet while playing cards.   During that time Sitara was entertainging us by playing with her toys and rolling and and cooing   and giving smiles and waving at her mom.

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 Addition to the text: (Sunday  –  23 March  2008)

 Today- Sitara was participating in a normal East Indian Group social activity. She was all ready with nice clothes and her charming smile to attend a “baby Shower” . Her first.   The baby shower was celebrated for her Priyanka Auntie ( her P.  Masi)  who is expecting a baby in few months.

I did not go as the party was for  the ladies of the Group and few gents (who are very close to Priyanka and her parents).

I am told that Sitara  had a great time as she was cajoled and loved by many of her aunties and girls who were present at the party.

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 Addition to the text: (Thursday  –  27 March  2008)Today, Sitara’s mom and grandma had to go to Chalk River to buy some clothing material as Sitara’s mom is sewing a  sleeping bag for Sitara.

So they left Sitara with me to baby-sit. I was supposed to entertain her, feed her bottle of milk (nicely tucked away in  the thermal bag) and genrally to be a good grandpa. Well, she entertained me with her smiles, plays and generally being a good girl of about 7 1/2 months.

When she was playing with her toys – sitting upright – she made some heavy forcing noises (aghms). I was wondering what  does  that sound means .   The aroma of smell emanating from her made me realise that she had done her No. 2. Now the problem arose as    to how am I going to change her – not done before and a bit uneducated in this department. Also I was a bit uncomfortable to strain myself due to my recent surgery (about a     month back)

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Addition to the text: (Sunday  –  06 April 2008)

Sitara went  to Toronto on Saturday March 29th     with her parents . They went initially  to Brampton for a baby shower (Sumeeta’s) and stayed   with her maternal uncle (Sunir)  on Saturday night and also met   with Shannon.   Then she stayed  at the Courtyard Marriot on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday nights   with her parents .    After that she went to  Misissasuga at her dad’s uncle (Mamma’s) house from April 3rd to 6th.

 They were back at Mackay on 6th at about 8.30 pm.

  Quite an adventurous   journey for a little baby . I am sure she enjoyed it and absorbed a lot by seeing new things and meeting her relatives and friends of her parents.

Pravin Shah

 

 

   

     

       

           

         

   

       

   

     

   

Grand Child

Well, the joyous news of impending   arrival of a grand child was spread to friends locally yesterday and to family in England and Kenya to-day.

The sentiments  are  definitely tingling . A bit of nervousness is there till all goes well. The arrival of the grand child is charted for 2007 August. Nina & Sunjay are fine .

As grandparents to be , we do have to keep our composure  and a balance in excitement. I am definitely very excited and looking forward to use my retirement time ( starting from 2007 April 17) with the grand child (of either gender) – a quality time if that is feasible.

I do express my heartfelt “many thanks’ to Shree Jalaram for such  good news and looking forward to enjoy this beautiful gift.

Pravin Shah

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Grandfather   – irrationality

It   is one of those things in life – when one comes to a reality – that one has already arrived at a time in life when one is devoid   of any ambition to achieve any more goals in life.

I have begun to understand as to where I have got to and what I have done and achieved in my life .

When compared to all that has been achieved   (and for that matter not achieved) – in career or finances or relationship – nothing   beats   the wonderful   bequest/arrival   of Grandchildren who epitomise as what one leaves behind as a legacy.

My four (4) grandchildren – two (2) of them near and two (2) a bit further away in Toronto – do monopolise all the fields that amuse me and those which make me happy.

I see and enjoy their   growth and achievements everyday and their journey in this life .   They are still tiny but in their short life they are picking up skills which I never dreamt of when I was that age or even after that.

I go ga ga when I observe at age 4  or at age 6   – a grandchild   is hurtling down Mount Martin Ski Hill in Deep River or Mount Pakenham hill at a speed   which   would thrill anyone   .

Shri Jalaram – Devine Life of Shri Jalaram

Blessings of Sanyasi

Their is a village Virpur near Rajkot in Gujrat State about 200 years ago, Shri Jalaram born on November 4, 1799 the seventh day of Kartika, Vikram Era 1856 in the family of Lohana couple Pradhan Thakkar & Rajbai (were) living at Virpur. Jalaram met a sanyasi from Mount Girnar when he was only 5 years old. After meeting with sanyasi the boy Jalaram showed a remarkable change in his behavior. Now he was all the time muttering God’s name. Jalaram was more inclined towards Sadhus & Sanyasis.       Seeing that, Jalaram’s father feared that he would himself be an sanyasi, so he thought to bind him with worldly ties. He explained to Jalaram the blessedness of dutiful households. Jalaram was convinced with the argument of feeding other. At the age of sixteen Jalaram was married to Virbai, the daughter of Pragaji Thakkar at Atkot.

      Virpur was in the way between Dwarka & Junagadh. So Sadhus Sanyasis use to halt there for rest. Jalaram was delighted when he saw them. He would invite them for meals or offer food grains & other things from the shop. Jalaram has no love for business activities. He went out for a pilgrimage when he was only seventeen. Journey was hard in those days. After about two years he returned from the pilgrimage.

      Fatepur is a small village near Amreli in Saurashtra. God-Man name Bhoja Bhagat lived there. He was an illiterate farmer, but one who has realized God needs no schooling. Soon after returning form the pilgrimage Jalaram went to see Bhoja Bhagat. Bhagat accepted Jalaram as his disciple & gave him Ram Mantra to mutter.

 link : www.jalarambhavan.com                   or

http://www.jalarambapa.com/main/history.htm