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Diwali Play I wrote & directed Jashoda Shah – 1987

The following play   I wrote for Diwali Program of   Deep River / Pembroke Area East Indian Community   – Saturday 24 October 1987.   The Play was called   ” Ram Recital ”

The Play   was created /written such that almost  all   kids (of the community )  can participate in the play.

The play had music , dances, drama and dialogues   as well as historical Ramayana Theme.

I recently found my hand written script   – and now I have type – written it for posterity .         Please note I have a video of the actual play – somewhere around the house.     Both my kids (Nina & Sunir)   participated in the play   along with other kids of the Esat Indian Community.

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The play

 

Deep River/ Pembroke Area – Diwali Program –   Saturday 24 October 1987

A   Play – playwright / written by Pravin Shah   &   conducted by Jackie Shah

Play title   :   RAM   RECITAL

Actors :   All children from the East Indian Community

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PROLOGUE

Stage : All actors on the stage .    See Sketch 1 for positions.

Curtain :  Opens

Narrator :       To celebrate victory of   ” good over evil ” .

The story of Rama and his victory   over forces of Ravana is depicted

in the drama played by our young people ,The drama is called

” Ram Recital ”

Ram   (echo ) Ram   Ram Ram

Distinguished brothers of Ancient times

Trail Blazers ! Path Finders !

Ram   Laxman   Bharat and Shatrughna

Raghuvanch   family of Ayodhhya

Holy Vibrant land of India

Ancient Rishies and Prayers

Ram   (echo ) Ram   Ram Ram

Banished Ram at shores of Ganges

Lovely Sita and Laxman at side

Brilliance of Yonder years

Forbearance of Vishnu and Brahma

Ram   Sita   and   Laxman   in forests

For   obedience   to father’s wishes

Bharat   anointed   King of   Ayodhhya

With   schemes of   mother   Kaiykai

Pioneering   Bharat   with   brotherly   love

Ultimately   to   rule for brotherly Ram

Lanka   the   pearl of   Indian   ocean

Lustful   powerful   King   Ravana

Sita   Royal   loyal   wife   of   Ram

Beautiful   Arya   Sita   abducted   by Ravana

Ram   Laxman   battle   against   wrong

Ravana   and   cronies slained

Rishies   Hanuman   and   all   peoples

Rejoice   honour   justice   and   peace

World   a   stage   full   of   right   and   wrong

Players   we   are !   with   Ram’s   teachings !

Ram  our  hero   saviour  of  honour

Instill  in  us  love   for   family and   justice

Curtain :    Closes

Act I

STAGE :     All actors move to New Positions   or out of stage

These remain on the stage :

Dasrath       <-     Body gurad

Qeens                         ( Kaiykai, Kausalya, & Sumitra)

Princes                     ( All   princes except   Bharat )

Bharat   goes to Kaiykai       ( off the stage)

Sita

Narrator :

King   Dasrath and Ayodhya kingdom   were   happy since the return of     Ram and Laxman   from their   service to Visvamitra  in his fight     against Demons       and     Rakhshsha.  Ram   was  married to Sita.

One day Dasrath thought he was growing old and he decided to hand   over the throne   to Rama and go to forest for prayers in the Hindu   tradition.

Act 1   is the scene of court when   Dasrath announces this decision.   At   this time Bharat  was away   from Kingdom to visit his mother’s   relatives in Kekaya.

 

CURTAIN :           Opens

Act 1 (contd)

 

Dasrath   :         I am pleased to be with my family.

My sons , my eyes are filled with   joy   to   see   you.

Bharat   is   away   but he is in my thoughts .

Sita is like my daughter.

Ram,   you are a good prince.   You are   helping   me   in the   Royal   duties very ably.

(   Ram   comes   forward   and   gives   his   greetings   by   bowing   )

Ram :           I am your son, a   Prince   of   Raghuvansh.

I am proud to be able to   carry   out   your   commands.   My   brothers   help   me always.

Dasrath :           That is good .   I   am   getting   old   and   I   want   to   spend   time   in   prayers.

And   so,   therefore   I   am announcing   and   it is   my wishes   and   command that   Ram takes over the Kingdom and   pronounced   as   the   King of Ayodhya.

The coronation will be tomorrow.

(   Ram   again comes   forward   and   bows   )

Ram :                       I am   duty bound   to   do   as you command . My brothers are with me.

(   Laxman   comes   forward   and   bows   )

Laxman   :           We   all   brothers   are   very   happy   and we   will   be   with   Ram   at   all   times .

CURTAIN :       Closes.

Act II

Stage :       All actors off   the   stage.

– Ras /   Garba / Dance   Group   come on   stage

Narrator:

With   the  announcement of   Rama’s   coronation , there   was   joy   and

dancing   in   the   street of   Ayodhya.

CURTAIN:               Opens

Ras   /   Graba / Dance

CURTAIN :               Closes   at   the   end   of       Ras   /   Graba / Dance

Act III

Stage:       All   dancers   etc.   off   the   stage

Kaiykai   in   disheveled   attire       lying   on   the   floor with her ornaments   on   the floor

Dasarath   enters   as curtain   opens

Narrator :

When   the   news   of   the   coronation   of   Rama   was   announced ,

Manthra – Kaiykai’s   personal   maid –  was agitated.   She  influenced   Kaiykai  badly and prompted  her to seek kingdom for her son Bharat   instead   of   Ram.

Kaiykai had  won  two  boons  from  King  Dasarath     earlier before by saving his life during a war with  Rakshasas.   Now   Kaiykai  asks  for fulfillment of  those   two boons.

Act III

CURTAIN :              Opens

Dasarath     enters

He   sees Kaiykai   – lying   on   the   floor   and   all   her   ornaments   on     the floor.

Dasarath :       What’s   the   matter       O,   my   Queen

Tell   me   who   has offended   you

Kaiykai   wails   and   beat   breasts   and   rolls

Dasarath :       My Queen,     please   tell   me.   I   swear   in the   name   of   my     beloved Rama,   I   will   do   anything   to restore   your   peace   of   mind.

Kaiykai :           Do   you   remember   two   boons   you   promised   me.

I   want to   ask   them   now.

Dasarath :           How   can   I   forget ?   You have my word.

You   may ask   for   them

Kaiykai :               Oh!   Indra, Oh!   Varuna.     He   has said   I   can   have   my   boons .

I  ask                                        

                                       One :    My  son  Bharat  shall  be  crowned  as  King

Two :      Ram   is   asked to  go  to Dandaka  Forest   for   14 years.

Dasarath     looked   thunderstruck ,   speechless   and   falls   on   ground .

Dasarath :       Oh! God, Oh! Visnu,       is this punishment   for what I did to Shravan   and to his parents when I was young  ?

I can live  without Kingdom , without  comfort   but   I   cannot   live     without Ram.   Oh !   my Ram.

Shravan , what   happened   when   I   was   young   was   an   accident,   a   mistake .

CURTAIN :                 Closes

Act IV

Stage :   Shravan   lies   near   river   with   arrow   in   his   heart

King   Dasarath (at   younger   age )

Shravan’s   blind parrents

Narrator:

When   Dasarath   was   a   young   prince   he   had   gone   out hunting   in     the   forest.   Dasarath   was   a   very   good   marksman.   From   far   he     heard   a   sound   that   of   an   elephant   drawing   water   through   his   trunk.   He ( Dasarath) shot an arrow assuming it was an elephant.

He   heard a human cry.   ‘ O Dear God ‘   and   found   Shravan   at   the   river bank – hit by his arrow

The   young   boy   was   on a pilgrimage   taking   his   blind   parents   to     various   places   that   they wanted   to   go . Shravan   was   respectful   to   his parents and carried them around .   At this time he had left his parents   to   a   secure   place   and  came to  the  river to  get water for them.

CURTAIN   :                     Opens.

Shravan :           Oh!   Dear   God .

Who   has   shot   this   arrow?

I   have   no   enemy !

Dasarath   heard   the   cry   and   trembled   with   an   unknown   fear

He   comes   to the river   and   looked   at   Shravan

He   became   speechless

Shravan   looks   at   Dasrath   and says:

O,   Why did   you   commit   this   sin?

Who   will   look   after   my   parents?

Dasarath :         I   am   very   sorry .   It   was   a   mistake.     Honest.

Shravan :             Go   to   my   parents .   Give   them   water.

Dasarath :       I   will .     I   am   so   sorry

Shravan :       And   beg   their   forgiveness .

Dasarath   takes water and goes to the blind parents

When the old couple heard the footsteps ,

Old Man :   Dear son , why   did   you take   long     ?

Old woman :   Were   you playing   in   the   water ?

Dasarath :       Holy   father,   Mother

Forgive me . I am not your son

But Dasarath

My arrow accidently hit your

son     and   killed   him

Old man, old woman   :       O, Shravan         O, Shravan

Dasarath :       He   asked   me   to   bring   this   water   to you

Please   forgive   me .   I am   at   your mercy.

Old man :       Your   sin   is   very   grave   indeed.

Old woman :   But   it   was   committed   unknowingly

Old man :       One   thing   is   certain   that   you   too  will   suffer     pangs   of   separation

from   your   beloved   son.

Old woman :     Our   curse   is   that   you   will   also die as we will die with   our son

CURTAIN :           Closes.

Act   V

Stage :                 Ravana   and   Army

Hanuman   and   Army

Sita

Ram   and   Laxman

Narrator   :

Ram went away to forests to keep his father’s word. Laxman and Sita joined him.

King  Dasarath  died  with the pain of separation from his   Ram.

Bharat comes back from Kekaya to find Ram, Laxman and Sita   gone to forest. He tries to get Ram   back but Ram fulfils his father’s   promise and stay in forest , Bharat runs kingdom on behalf of Ram.

Meanwhile in the  forest, Ravana , the King of Lanka kidnapped Sita     and asked her to marry him. Sita  refuges .   Ram went to defend   honour  and bring  Sita  back.

Hanuman  and his   army joins Ram in war against demon Ravana and   finally victory comes.

Act   V (Contd)

CURTAIN :               Opens

( Sita is   sitting   under   a tree guarded by Ravana’s army   )

Hanuman :        O, Ram we   are   with   you.

You   are   protector   of   all   good .

Ram :                    We   have   to defend   our   family, .

Our   nation and   honour .

We   will destroy the   Raksasa   and   evil force.

Your help is timely.

Ravana :             I   have   magic

I   have   heavenly   help.

I   am   invincible

Hanuman :       You   cannot   fight   with   Lord   of   the good .

War   starts

Rama   gives     a   blow   to   Ravana   and   he   dies

There   was   joy and happiness.

CURTAIN :             Closes.

Act   VI

Stage:                     All   actors   on   the stage

See   Sketch   2   for   positions

CURTAIN :             Opens

Narrator:

Ram   returns   to Ayodhya     after 14 years in   forests and   winning war   over   evil .

He   assumes   the   throne   from   Bharat

He   rules   his   kingdom   with   love,   justice   and care   for   common   people.

A   ” Ram Rajya ” followed   and everywhere   there   was   peace,

non-violence   and   respect for   each   other

CURTAN :   Opens

FINALE               —                   with   the   following   songs

1)         Violence   Violence   Go  away

2)               Raghupati   Raghav   Raja   Ram

(Audience   join   in   singing)

3)               Jana Mana   Adhi Nayak   – India’s national song.

(Audience   join   in   singing)

ALL     ACTORS   STAND     AND   CURTSY

play   finishes.

Building Bridges ( in the Indian Sub-continent)

I wrote this article as a response to one of the comments on our chat room ” namaskar” online   -where I posted it

26 December 2019

Building Bridges  

It is always nice to be positive .

With all   the discussions on the subject of   Citizen Amendment Bill in India   – a lot has been said and finally we are encouraged to   ”   In this SEASON OF GOODWILL, all our efforts need to be directed at UNITING and NOT DIVIDING   people.   Let us build bridges to unite peoples rather than barriers to divide them.”   by Mervyn Maciel in his post on “Namaskar”.

This is an exceptional thought .

However , being a Professional Civil Engineer and also having designed and built a few bridges , I can vouch that to build a good and safe bridge one needs good foundations at   each side and a bridge which is correctly designed and built . That need a lot of effort and   also various techniques / technology .

In my outlook,  for those of us who are of   Indian ancestry   , there are two main bridges which need to be built .

1) Between   Pakistan and India   and

2) between   the majority community (the Hindus) and minorities (mainly Muslims) in   India.

Note :   You will all agree that the issue of relation between a majority community and a minority is an   burning issue in all countries of the sub-continent but only in India -this is discussed freely as it is an open society and mature democracy   and   politics plays a part leading to  everyone getting on the bandwagon tooting his or her opinion with a clarion call.   No other country in the sub-continent   (including Pakistan) allows unbridled free expression .

Building bridges  

For the subcontinent the two shores   1) Pakistan and 2) India   are   ” seemingly ”   fractious and weak in their perception of reality – depending on from which side the problem is looked at.    So to build solid foundations  at each shore   — one requires  special preparations and  different approach . That requires special knowledge and experience of previously  built bridges elsewhere.

All other countries of the sub-continent   are small and remain aloof in helping to build the most important bridge  – that is the  friendship between these two big countries.

We need the Indian sub-continent   to move towards peace and prosperity .

 

 

 

 

  • There is a lot of history in the partition of India , before, during and after.   I cannot cover all – as it is the my   article (given below)   is long and thus I have not touched on nuclear weapons , Chinese assistance to Pakistan   for its nuclear and missile capabilities , and betrayal of Vajpayee   after his visit to Pakistan for peace ( remember the Kargil   invasion by Pakistan)   etc.     In India,   many riots resulting in many deaths .

We only hope that peace will happen and bridges will be built by overlooking the past and thinking of the future and progress of all the South Asian countries.   Some adjustments are needed and some patience is needed and  elimination of terrorism is   a must – willingly rather than by use of force.   Extremism in religious dogmas   in 21st Century is a pain in the rear end.

Now let us look at the ground reality – as I see it  .

Unfortunately , I am not an expert nor an academician to properly or correctly assess or talk about this reality.  What I have learnt is from many years of following events    and issues of the sub-continent .   Again   my understanding may be coloured or prejudiced   from my being a Jain/Hindu and a descendent of an Indian Kenyan – whose roots were removed from India almost a century ago.   Remember , In Kenya   – all Indians ( pre-partition) remained friendly and supportive of each other   without wearing their faith/religion   or caste on their sleeves.   Same is true for   those who migrated (away from East Africa)   subsequently to other countries   especially to western countries.

Right now , it appears that a possibility for building  a bridge between these two countries  is remote though not impossible .  They have gone a long way opposite from mutual trust and confidence in each other .

The India partition is the British Empire’s Child .

 

In my opinion , India should thank United Kingdom for its imperialistic move towards partition of its Indian domain.  At the time of independence , this was   not visible or perceived as most Indians ( mostly Hindus) were dreaming of   ” Akhand Bharat ” – their ancient country many millennium ago.  Akhand Bharat (or Akhand Hindustan) is an irredentist term meaning “Undivided India” .

 

However, after over   now more than 70 years of Independence , it is realized that if India had   remained undivided   territorially at independence , the whole country would have exploded     and splintered into many parts -as Muslim population would have numbered more than   35% of the total and they would have created a very chaotic mayhem –   aided by their Muslim brothers in Middle East and elsewhere .   Besides imperialistic   Britain would have dipped its fingers into the chaos and found a renewed footing in the sub-continent .    Complicating the situation , there would have been disputes galore between many   small   kingdoms ( headed by a   “raja ” or a “sheikh” )   and linguistically   different states   -all   pulling for their own selfish bonanza.

 

 

So in short , India should remain forever thankful  to Pakistan   for its creation – it took away the fundamentalist and arrogant Muslims away from India   and concentrated in a confined space which can   somehow be managed – at least that is the outcome most desired.   There were a sizeable Muslim population which remained in India at independence – which is believed   to  unfortunately   have not harmoniously assimilated in the Indian   ethos or nationalistic fervor and viewpoint.

With Pakistan moving towards radicalization from the very onset of partition   ( immediately after the death of Mr. Jinnah – their   independence leader )   and   its coveting desire for   annexing     Kashmir prematurely led to   wars with India.    Pakistan was under belief that Hindus are weak   – one Muslim is stronger than 12 Hindus – that was the idiom they had   proliferated .

 

Most in Pakistan were (and are even now) so radicalized that they did (do) not want to associate at all with India and looked to Arabs as their ancestors and dumped their Indian heritage – even though most of these have been converted from Hindus by coercion and by inflicting major torturous atrocities on Hindus by various Muslim invaders and their ilk .   Many Pakistanis have propagated   themselves   as descendent of these cruel   invaders .

That’s the rub – How can a bridge be built?

In Pakistan , History books were changed   since many years   to reflect this false narrative for young Pakistanis to   be completely removed from their association from India .

Further, Pakistanis were   also mesmerized by the call for Pakistanis to retake India from the weak Hindus The ambition was  to reestablish Muslim rule in India – similar to what was before during  Mughal  time.

India should thank Pakistan for this unfortunate/unusual   call   – as this probably  resulted in Sardar Vallbhabhai’s success in persuading almost every princely state to accede to India. Sardar Patel was  the first Deputy Prime Minister of India.    He led the task of forging a united India, successfully integrating into the newly independent nation those British colonial provinces that had been “allocated” to India. Besides those provinces that had been under direct British rule, approximately 565 self-governing princely states had been released from British suzerainty by the Indian Independence Act of 1947.

The state of Jammu and Kashmir, which had a predominantly Muslim population but a Hindu leader, shared borders with both India and West Pakistan. The argument over which nation would incorporate the state led to the first incursion by Pakistan forces into Kashmir which led to India-Pakistan War in 1947”“48.

Now most of the Indian forces were diverted   to Kashmir sphere –  with the backdrop of  India’s   foreign policy of non-alignment   along with effort to   develop friendship with China   and   the coinage of  “Hindi-Chini bhai bhai ” dictum.    However, China betrayed that dictum and attacked India in 1962 over border dispute and defeating India badly .

 

This encouraged Pakistan to start a war with India in 1965. The conflict began following Pakistan’s Operation Gibraltar, which was designed to infiltrate forces into Jammu and Kashmir to precipitate an insurgency against Indian rule.   No one won this war   but   with Line of   Control established dividing Kashmir into two parts.

All that pushed Nehru’s doctrine of peaceful   friendly relations with nations of the world out of the window.     So with Gandiji’s pacifist doctrine and Nehru naiveté –India was not prepared for wars and its army was ill-equipped. This all was finally dumped and India moved to   procure sophisticated   armaments and equipment including   air force planes.   Of Course America was NOT happy to help India and that led to India – Soviet Union   coming together on military supplies.   It must be realized that Gandhiji’s   constant  refrain in favour of Pakistan after the partition led eventually to his untimely and unfortunate   assassination by a Hindu zealot   in 1948.

Gandhiji ‘s motto always was to Hindu Muslim amity and he had integrated Alla in his prayers along with Jesus and Ram.     in !915 he started the India’s struggle for India’s independence with many twists and turns but always keeping  human dignity and love for all as  the pillar of his struggle,     Unfortunately, most Muslims of India ( and that include those in present day Pakistan & BanglaDesh ) never quite reciprocated his call for amity.  They used his humanity as   a joke   and played to have a separate   homeland and ridicule Hindus for their so-called weakness.     Gandhiji was  a non-violent & peace loving person   and not like Mao of China   or Stalin of Russia who knew who were their enemies and eliminated them . Gandhiji would go to any length to placate the Muslims so a united India can be had.   These people fooled him and also Nehru too.   So the partition .

After partition , the   Pakistan’s   political situation   was shaky and military government took over   . Pakistan has spent several decades under military rule (1958 ”“ 1971, 1977 ”“ 1988, 1999 ”“ 2008).

Gen. Ayub Khan     —     1958 – 1971

General Zia-ul-Haq —- 1977-1988

Gen. Pervez Musharraf   —- 1999-2008

During   Gen Ayub Khan’s time –     the Pakistani military junta based in West Pakistan launched Operation Searchlight against the people of East Pakistan on the night of 25 March 1971. It pursued the systematic elimination of nationalist Bengali civilians, students, intelligentsia, religious minorities and armed personnel.   A genocidal   attack on their own people !     Indian military intervened and   aided the Pakistani Bengalis   to fight the barbaric   attack on civilians.  The war ended on   16 December 1971 with some 91000 Pakistani soldiers s surrendering to the Indian military.  This was despite American siding with the genocidal regime in Pakistan .

East Pakistan separated from Pakistan and became a new nation – Bangladesh

This   resulted in   the destruction of   the notion perpetrated by Pakistan (and some Muslims in India)   that 1 (one) Muslim is stronger than 12 Hindus.   What a come down !     This humiliation of defeat and surrender of Pakistani   military personnel to the Indian military – is still a strong resenting issue within Pakistan.   India  should thank Pakistan for  this opportunity  to remove the myth in their collective narrative.

During General Zia-ul-Haq time –  the Russians took over Afghanistan (in 1979) and American wanted to remove them   – for this the radicalized Pakistan got an opportunity   to join the Americans .   The   Indians had proclaimed itself to be non-aligned at early years of independence   and Americans   took it wrongly and bracketed India with Russians.

For Americans   Pakistan was   a friendlier   country and an ally. This led to Pakistan   becoming stronger with infusion of latest American weapons and also training of Mujahideen fighters for Afghanistan.

Once the Russians   quit Afghanistan in 1989 , the Americans   left Pakistan in the lurch – with   thousands of Mujahideen fighters   left loose.   There was fundamentalist development   and Pakistan had many these Mujahideen fighters and Pakistan   took the opportunity to divert them to Kashmir and sent them as terrorists   to disrupt Indian rule in their part of Kashmir.    However, the Mujahideen fighters also   created havoc in Pakistan   with thousands killed within Pakistan – more than what they could inflict on India .       This situation In Pakistan was God sent to India   because it showed to the Indian Muslims   as to the real nature of Pakistanis and it was not worth siding with Pakistan – as the Muslims of India would not be spared from   abuse.   Already Pakistan under   General Zia-ul-Haq had declared Ahmadis as not Muslims and Mohajirs (Muslims from Indian   Bihar) settled in Pakistan Sindh province  were   being harassed and also the shias   in Pakistan were   killed many times by Mujahideen terrorists.

For some years after India’s independence, the Indian Muslims  acted like a 5th Column in India for Pakistan . They would cheer loudly Pakistan cricket teams against India , help in many terrorist activities that Pakistan perpetrated in India   and bullied Hindus whenever they desire . They   talk   with ” in your face ” attitude.   They carried on their shoulders – the glow of Mughal rule in India and look down on The Hindus.   They   missed the part that Hindus are the majority community in India and they are their neighbours   and for them to live peacefully it is in their interest to be friendly   with the neighbours – especially those who are in power   . In fact they went opposite for many years – deliberately rioting,   creating mayhem and killings of Hindus -all copy of what Pakistanis were encouraging.   However, slowly but definitely Hindus   started retaliating , and with Pakistan   itself in dire state it did not or could not provide any meaningful support to Indian Muslims .    So thanks to Pakistan for their inhuman behaviour   -which discouraged Indian Muslims to relay on these monsters.

If Muslims of India consider themselves as Indians than what is stopping them to be Indians. India is   free society. There are many political parties in India (including Congress) who are acquiescing to Muslims’   demand   for hajj Support, jobs , money for education,   Allowances for Imams etc. -all for getting their   democratic Votes      But what Muslims need is to be fair and go for equal demands for others apart for Muslims only and also fight for the Hindus   need.

They cannot be parochial and expect all to   look after Muslim interests   only . Why can a Muslim not stand up openly and say freely Jai Hind.   Why Can   a Muslim not stand up openly and say freely   that Kashmir belong to India . Why can an Indian Muslim not stand up openly and say that they are annoyed that Hindus from Kashmir have been thrown out by radical Muslims   (and terrorists from Pakistan) .   Why can a Indian Muslim   not stand up and recognize their largest neighbours  and their   traditions and culture — when living in India.   Why an Indian Muslim cannot be an Indian and a proud Indian   rather than looking at Pakistan   and   so called Umma?

The Muslins who got space in India should openly accept if not apologize for Muslim atrocities toward Hindus and Sikhs over millennia and  hope that the Hindus have already put   that behind them .

Muslims should note of the modern day revival of the Hindu culture and traditions with integrating with modern education and technology and be   proud of that development –   like they would be proud for the revival of their own   culture and traditions within the bound of Indian   diversity.

Hindus should follow their age old dictum of   ” tolerance” and acceptance of other cultures , of diversity and mosaic of India.   Inclusivity is the stepping   stone for  development   and   living in modern 21st Century.

Then  you will see   a bridge being established between the Hindus and Muslims .

And that would,  possibly ,   lead to a bridge being built between India and Pakistan .

And hopefully peace can shower on the Indian Sub-continent.

Our Canadian Diversity – Diwali celebration

This article was published in our local Newspaper North Renfrew Times (   a bit edited   to shorten it ) on Wednesady 13 November 2019

3 November 2019

Our Canadian Diversity   – Diwali celebration

The Lions Hall in Chalk River   was buzzing with excitement as more than 200 people, in festive mood,  gathered there   on the evening of   Saturday   2nd November 2019   to celebrate the annual Diwali festival.

The event was organized by the East Indian Community of the Renfrew   County . Many participants came in wonderful  traditional dresses which added color to the event.   It was very heartening that many friends (belonging to different cultures ) also joined in the celebration.   India is a land of diversity   – which is  complementary   to our Canadian society with multi-cultural ethos.

The evening reverberated with cultural entertainment program   lasting for just a little less than two hours.   There were stage dances ,   songs and instrument playing adding to the festivities.     The Indian classical ” Bharat Natyam   ” dance amongst others  was   cheered   and applauded by all .  Young as well as high school kids along with adults (both male and female)   performed   variety   of    musical and dance performances .   The talent of   budding performers was very visible.   That cheered the participants –   and the time just flew by.

After the entertainment program   all   settled down to enjoy the delicious and tasteful   catered Indian food  –   with a number of   traditional choices .    It must be noted that at an Indian / Hindu festival /event – food is always   vegetarian as many in India do not consume meat and when it is devoted to any deity the non-vegetarian food is a no no   – because many Indians do consider all living beings as sacred .

Once coffee/tea and dessert was consumed ,  the participants relaxed, intermingled   and chatted with each other.   In fact they did the intermingling and chatting even before the entertainment program started .    They wished each other Happy Diwali .

This year Diwali,  in fact,  was on Sunday October 27

The finale of the evening started after the meal /dinner , that was when the floor was open for anyone who wants to dance to the rhythmic beats streamed out by the DJ.     Some of recent  Bollywood   as well as Bhangra   tunes   were offered . The floor was thronged by young and old -all freely dancing with so much fun and tempo.   The program started closing down slowly but definitely at about 10.00 pm.  and one by one families started   to return to quiet of their homes

I am sure all celebrated the evening’s Diwali festival with gusto and reverence in heart.

Coming back to Diwali festival – this is celebrated in India since many millennia .

Diwali, the “festival of lights” is the most important festival for Hindus around the globe.

At the present time , it is said that the Diwali is a Hindu festival. However for millennia there was no religion called Hindu religion in India . It was an open society in ancient India   and people were free to debate and decide as to how to further their spiritual beliefs. The free debate and discussions were encouraged,

This then have generated into an amalgam of religious beliefs   – what is in present day known as       Hinduism . Hinduism is unique in that it”™s not a single religion but a compilation of many traditions and philosophies.

The word Hindu or Indu was used by Greeks to denote the country and people living beyond the Indus river. By the 13th century, the word Hindustan began to be used as a popular alternative name for India, meaning the “land of Hindus“.   Eventually, any person of Indian origin who did not practice Abrahamic religions came to be known as a Hindu, thereby encompassing a wide   range of religious beliefs and practices.

The most prominent legend attached to Diwali is that of Lord Rama.  Based on the holy epic Ramayana, the first Diwali was celebrated by the people of Ayodhya to welcome their beloved prince back to his kingdom.

The Ramayana is an ancient Indian epic, composed sometime in the 5th century BCE, about the exile and then return of Rama, prince of Ayodhya;

Lord Rama was a great warrior King who was exiled by his father Dashratha, the King of Ayodhya, along with his wife Sita and his younger brother Lakshman. Lord Rama returned to his Kingdom Ayodhya after 14 years of exile, in which he put an end to the demon Ravana of Lanka.

After this victory of Good over Evil, Rama returned to Ayodhya. In Ayodhya, the people welcomed them by lighting rows of clay lamps  ( ” diyas “)   – when the oil is burnt by the wick .

Over the millennia , the deeper meaning and lessons from Diwali celebration is inferred by the religious leaders   and the public.  Diwali is celebrated for the victory of Good over Evil .

It shows and guides all of us that   good deeds are important and necessary for progress and peace in life.   It is better to be productive and contributory towards progress and   well being of the family, friends and society in general . It is sort of bad and bordering on evil to be disruptive   and vindictive.

This is similar to Christmas. We celebrate the birth of Lord Jesus when celebrating Christmas but the underlying deeper meaning that we celebrate is that God Almighty cares for us and He even would send his only son to earth for our salvation. Christmas teaches us to be sharing and caring.

The   lighting of the ” diyas ” when celebrating Diwali signifies that one needs to get rid of the selfish and materialistic thoughts which frees one from all forms of sadness   and grief.

Diyas” symbolize goodness and purity, and lighting them denotes dispelling darkness and going into light.

Hindus believe that placing a   ‘”diya ” generates positive energy into the environment. The energy generated gives a positive effect on all the living organism. It leads to a spiritual path and provides serenity of mind and soul.

I believe , lighting a candle in a church provides similar serenity of mind and soul. The candle symbolizes light in the darkness of life especially individual life,    Candle light often evokes the warmth of home and family.

As I understand , Hinduism is the world”™s oldest religion, according to many scholars, with roots and customs dating back more than 4,000 years. Today, with about 900 million followers, Hinduism is the third-largest religion behind Christianity and Islam.   Roughly 95 percent of the world”™s Hindus live in India. Because the religion has no specific founder, it”™s difficult to trace its origins and history. Hinduism is unique in that it”™s not a single religion but a compilation of many traditions and philosophies.

So I wish all a Happy Diwali and wish/pray for   spirit of brotherhood and peace.

Diwali 2018 – Renfrew County

The following is the little note   i wrote and circulated to all members of the Renfrew County Indian Community via deepem@googlegroups.com .

Dear friends ,

Diwali 2018 – Renfrew County

The auspicious Diwali party time arrived with a bang on Saturday 03 November 2018.

The Lions Hall in Chalk River was abuzz with laughter, hugs and shakes of hands between friends and also with strangers (most of who have recently arrived and settled down in Renfrew County).

The old mix of professionals have now transformed into mix of professionals and business community members. What a change we have seen in recent years !  We have now seen rejuvenation of the community with young families and many kids amongst us.   This brings excitement and energetic participation in the entertainment programs .

I was also pleasantly surprised to see many non-Indian friends of our community members joining us in this festival of Lights – celebrating  victory of good over evil.  We enjoy freedom, openness and dignity which behooves us to care for our friends and neighbors  and respect for others’ culture and traditions.  It is the premise on which our community survives.  In this country (where we have settled ) there is much camaraderie and equality and it is important that we respect these virtues .   Let us  welcome participation of many of our friends from the larger Canadian Society.

I being a senior and inching towards the ultimate goal , I found the cheers and just playfulness of many of our youngsters – from babies to teenagers to young adults in our Indian garbs at the Diwali party – to be  very enervating . The dances (individual and group) were varied from young kids to adults.  The dances really brought to the fore our cultural diversity with harmonious interplay. This enjoyment of our heritage  brings delight to my old soul and it definitely identified the colorful garden that is the Canadian society of which we have become one type of flowers amongst many others.  May we spread a scent so pleasing to all and sundry in our society.

What is heart pleasing is the selfless effort by many of our volunteers who devoted time and effort to make this party to become a successful and memorable event. Without these volunteers, the function could not have occurred . So I would like to congratulate all the volunteers for their devotion.   I am rather leaving out names as there are many of you who volunteered cheerfully.

However I would be remiss not to mention and thank my dear friend Ken Philipose and his wife Leela – who have taken initiative not only this year but also previous years to provide impetus and leadership to keep this cultural activity alive amongst our community in Renfrew County. This adds a flavour to ” Unity In Diversity”   in the society.  I am sure , hopefully others are stepping in the responsibility.

Happy Diwali to all and my wife Jackie Shah and I wish you all a very successful New Year . We  pray for the immense growth and progress of our community as part of the larger Canadian Community.

Pravin Shah

Sikh Issues – my perspective

I wrote this article – completing on 16 March 2018 . This is in response to recent trip to India by our Canadian Prime Minister Trudeau and family – which resulted in discussion of Sikh issues in India and Canada.

I presume that the article is self-explanatory.

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16 March 2018

Sikh Issues – my perspective

I   believe if we think coolly and   a bit carefully   about the Sikh issues I guess we   can discern the development of a community – over decades – the Sikhs   were spoilt by all Indians  with overarching admiration and attention.

If we go and sit back and recall in our own   life   experiences ( when we interfaced with many of our Sikh friends and colleagues )   each one of us had   a great admiration for these Sikh colleagues for their wit, humour and sacrifice for their friends and community around   – and this admiration was expressed volubly by many to their face.   This attitude by many of us spoilt some of these Sikhs – and then politically minded section used that to demand our attention/admiration/ along with   various bounties as an entitlement . One of my Sikh friends told me once that in India – many of these Sikhs when travelling on Indian trains would obtain a seat   (as you know in India for a long time travelling by train in India was a   challenge for seats and other amenities) forcefully by bullying especially the Hindus .   This is a small example as to how the Sikhs had stranglehold on Indian   polity and social life   which was prevalent in India – with the background of genuine admiration for the Sikh community as a whole.

Then came Jarnail Singh Bhindranwale in the 80s . In 1982 – he started a   movement   with an excuse for a larger share of irrigation water and the return of Chandigarh to Punjab – a very legitimate demand but such demand was pushed by use of arms and force.   A genuine demand turned into – my way or   I will take it by force. He and his armed men occupied the Golden Temple – for blackmail and threat to Indian Government’s responsibility. The rest is history .   It was clear that he was not supported by most of the Sikh population   – specially for his use of force.

Prime Minister Indira   Gandhi was assassinated by her two body   guards . This goes against the very Sikh (and Indian) values .  A person   (specially a guard) does not use violence against one’s own employer who puts  his/her faith in that person to safeguard him/her.   Besides a valourous  person (specially Sikhs) will never use sneaky violence against a woman. These Sikh bodyguards discarded their honour/principle which was maintained/nurtured   for   centuries fighting Moguls and Muslims.

The morals lost   forever within the Sikh Community .

The effect of this   departure from this principled norm can be seen and experienced many times since this incident. One hear about some Sikhs using violence within the Gurudwaras, against their wives and even against their own mothers. You just have to keep your eyes/ears open and listen to news for incidents like this.   The Sikh culture has been somewhat compromised and anything goes is becoming a new norm   for some of these Sikhs.

Fortunately most Sikhs are upright people and they are not contaminated by such behaviour

Prime Minister Indira Gandhi was a very respected/revered prime minister of India   for taking Pakistan head-on and helping East Pakistan to separate and become an independent nation ( BanglaDesh )   She also stood up against the mayhem created by   Bhindranwale in Punjab.   Her  assassination resulted in a spontaneous backlash   (as claimed by some in India). Throngs of masses ran rampage killing many Sikhs in New Delhi  – even their neighbors   and colleagues.  This also spread in some other parts of India .   It seems some people found an excuse and took advantage for personal gains or revenge.   This spontaneity is not   recognized/acknowledged  by many disgruntled Sikhs and specially those who lost   their loved ones .

Also lack of   speedy corrective action (     or perceived slow action ) by the authorities led to charge (by some Sikhs and Human Rights activists) of    deliberate vengeance style killing of many innocent Sikhs . This is the root of continuing simmering feeling of gross injustice to the Sikhs.   It is terrible and hurting if one feels betrayed by their own   Government   and friends and neighbors .  Even after so many years (some 30 years plus ) no   acceptable action to bring the perpetrators ( or their perceived leaders) to justice by   Authorities  is noted.

So the aftermath of this mass killing   (and resulting frustration in Sikh Community) was felt in Canada when an Air India Flight 182 was sabotaged (with a bomb ).   The Flight ( Emperor Kanishka ) operating on the Toronto-Montreal-London-Delhi was destroyed by a bomb at an altitude of 31,000 feet (9,400  m)   on 23 June 1985,. It crashed into the Atlantic Ocean while in Irish airspace. A total of 329 people were killed, including 268 Canadian citizens, 27 British citizens and 24 Indian citizens.   Most Canadian citizens were of Indian origin   – who were initially referred to as Indian citizens by the then Canadian Government .

One of my friends lost his whole family – very talented family . I was shocked -so were many others . We were also   shocked that the Canadian Government has missed identifying these as Canadian Citizens . Fortunately I was the President of Jain Society (in Toronto   at that time) and I got an opportunity (along with others) to be interviewed by the CBC radio.   I brought this anomaly in identifying the lost persons as Indian Citizens (instead of them being Canadian Citizens) by the then Canadian Prime Minister and my speech remained/repeated   on CBC radio   for at least a couple of days.   This anomaly was finally corrected by the Canadian Government . I am glad for my small contribution to the conversation at that time.

What bugs me most that the RCMP and other Canadian Government Authorities seem to have botched the investigations, trial and punishment of the Sikh terrorists   who planned blowing up a plane.   It seems that there was some cover-up  and softness towards the perpetrators.     At that time, most western Governments were not in favour of India (as it was   wrongly considered pro-Russia – India just being non-aligned ) and Pakistan’s star was high above.   Any mischief to India was sort of acceptable – specially by Britain and USA and thus it includes Canada.

In the mean time the Sikh Community has built itself in Canada numerically, economically and in recent years politically.   Some of these Sikhs (the pro-Khalistan activists) have   remained aloof from normal Indian socials and advancement . They celebrate their Diwali at the Canadian Parliament Building as a separate event . They join by in mass numbers the main political parties of Canada and thus influence the election of political leaders . They also   contribute money liberally for campaigning elections .   In British Columbia and Brampton (Toronto, Ontario) , they have numbers for putting forward political candidates besides supporting other Canadian candidates.

Some of these people are committed and dedicated to developing their own history separate from India history . It is fortunate that most Sikhs in India (as well as in Diaspora)   do not subscribe to this fallacy. All these parades and glorifying known terrorists and killers in Canada is having   a mixed reaction. Only now after recent trip by Prime Minster Trudeau visit to India , the local Canadians and the political class is   recognizing   the danger in supporting such parades and dialogues.   It also   works against Canada’s interest now that India is becoming economically sound and a major developing country with about   3 trillion dollar economy.  Hopefully, the 1984 episode is resolved properly in India   and justice is delivered.   Besides Sikhs here in Canada cannot forever be embroiled themselves in issues in India – that is if Sikhs want to become   real Canadians and participate in the  Governments as political leaders.

For positive outcome ,   the Sikhs should concentrate in the well-being of Canada , all its citizens   and cannot harbour silent animosity towards innocent   Indians either in Canada or India or for that matter anywhere in the world.   Sikhs in India have moved forward and they are as usual most model citizens of India.

I believe that Sikhs have their work cut out for them if they want to pursue the cause of Sikhs either in Canada or elsewhere -including India.  Their roots will always be in India as most Sikhs’ spiritual bond is centered around Golden Temple in Amritsar in Punjab, India .    Though they have some historical places in Pakistan too.

The Sikhs who want to be active in pursuing acceptance and justice and a homeland should take a different tack -which is positive and helpful in making Sikhs model world citizens. By keeping external attire similar to many known Islamist terrorists ( with long flowing beards and frown on their faces ) only complicates their task.   I understand that said Sikh attire with colorful turban is a required necessity for their religious and spiritual identity – and so be it . But if this is associated with violent behaviour at home or in Gurudwaras or against innocent individuals   (even sporadic) do cause   a concern as to their attitude.

I believe those Sikhs who are so much active in the Community fighting for   justice for their cause should pose and note that many of us are supportive of their demand and looking for resolution of such incident.   However what I skim in various cases in India – from Bhopal Disaster and other atrocities, rapes and frauds   – in many cases the justice is delayed, denied or compromised from negligence or deliberate manipulating by powers to be .  Only way forward is to strengthen the democracy and many institutions of democracy in India. Which incidentally cannot be achieved by violent means – specially by running protests in Canada with display of photos of known killers of Canadian Citizens  . Many   Indians are active in India for such   an outcome .

Our Canadian Sikhs   or those Sikhs who are residing in the Diaspora can help achieve their objective of justice and respect in India by being themselves of higher morals and desist from any violent vengeance type activities.   They can establish a friendlier relations with other overseas Indians – individually and collectively – which will bring eventual better results.

The Diaspora Sikhs can use their knowledge and wealth and positive attitude to help solve many of Punjab’s social and economical woes.   Punjab is supposed to be number 1 province of India but have squandered its development possibilities by politics tied to religious happenings.

There is the issue of use of drugs in Punjab – drugs being smuggled from Pakistan . These smugglers have become a kind of conduits for traitorous activities against the security of the country.   Overseas Sikhs can provide  relevant technical, medical and educational support to stem the drug use amongst Punjab’s young population .     In the process , the overseas Sikhs can encourage peace movement between India and Pakistan.

If we look around here in Canada or USA or UK   , we see hard working Sikhs in all fields which include Industry and construction   (real estate) and have been very successful – and that is why they can support financially many of the political parties at in one way or another. This acumen is very useful and necessary for the industrial development of   Punjab and other parts of India .   Why can The Sikhs take up the call like Jews who developed Israel .

My final thoughts   turn to what I call moral downgrade in some of our Canadian Punjabi youths   (men)   -who go to India for marriage – get a dowry   and then leave the girls there abandoned and return to Canada – with loot of dowry in their pocket. These type of incidents have been reported in the press – why these so-called Sikh leaders in Canada do not take steps to stem such behavior. May be they have done it but I have not heard/read about any such activity.

Finally winning the world for Sikh nation is an admirable yearning but first of all the violent arrogant attitude need   to be removed -even though the Sikhs are a   martial race – only by recognizing that the flowering of the Sikh Community has come about by sacrifice of many Hindu families over hundreds of years   when many Hindus have   had  offered/sacrificed   their first born towards the Sikh growth

Pravin Shah

Shree Jalaram’s story- Jay Jalaram Bapa Temple at Virpur

Reference:   https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.458831947463908.121266.410764152270688&type=3

Jay Jalaram Bapa Temple at Virpur

India is a land of saints since ages.

Many saints have served the poor and miserable people of India through out their life. Such saints are really rare on this earth.

One of such saint was Jalarambapa of Gujarat. Saint Jalaram was born in the year 1799 at Virpur, a small village near Rajkot, one of the important cities of Gujarat.

There is a famous temple of Jalarambapa at Virpur in Gujarat. Many Indians have a deep faith in Jalarambapa. They always visit this temple whenever they get an opportunity. Saint Jalaram was not a god but was a human being, just like you and me.

In spite of it, he is worshipped today amongst all Indians more than god. The worshippers of Saint Jalaram are available in all the parts of the world. devotee of Lord Ram.

His father was doing a business at Virpur near Rajkot in Gujarat. In spite of his many efforts, young Jalaram never took any interest in the worldly activities and was drawing towards Lord Ram day by day.

His guru gave him one advice to feed hungry people all the time. Jalaram took this advice and started giving food to the poor, sick and needy people. His parents made him to marry Virbai, a local village girl. However, his religious activities continued along with his wife.

Jalaram was moving from village to village to collect the donation to feed hungry people. People started to know and recognize about the work of Jalaram and they started giving donations to him for his noble cause of feeding hungry people.

The span of activities increased and Jalaram was soon worshipped as “Rotibaba”. He started giving food to all the people coming to his house since the year 1827. Both Jalaram and his wife continued serving like this for many years.

Then came the greatest famine of the century in the year 1856. Jalaram and Virbai worked very hard and fed hungry people all through this famine.

This service was really invaluable as it was performed without any physical expectations of any kind of returns.

Finally, Jalarambapa died on 23 rd February 1881 while doing prayers of Lord Ram at Virpur only where he was born. This is called samadhi in Hindu religion.

The temple of Saint Jalaram was established at Virpur, Rajkot after the samadhi of bapa to pay the tribute to the noble acts of Saint Jalaram in the year 1885. There is no statue of Jalarambapa in this temple but his only real photograph available is worshipped here.

Most of the Indians   visit this place and Virpur has become a place of pilgrimage since then. The old practice of serving food, tea, and snacks whoever come to this temple is continued even today after around 121 years.

This service was possible due to unlimited donations from Indians all over the world and has never stopped even for a single day during the long span of 121 years. Even today, all the persons visiting this temple take prasad in form of lunch, dinner or snacks.

The whole job of cooking, serving, cleaning etc. is done by the youngsters of Virpur village without taking any type of compensation.

Have you seen such a holy and noble place where food is served to all the people with love and affection without any charges for last 121 years?

I am sure your answer would be NO. The most important aspect is that the temple trust have stopped taking donations since the year 2001 as there are sufficient funds already available to continue this service in the future.

Special lunch and dinner are served on the birthday of Saint and some special occasions.

You can reach Virpur by road from any major city of Gujarat. Virpur is around 130 miles from Ahmedabad by national highway 8B. The roads are excellent and it hardly takes around 3 hours to drive.

There is a Dharmashala available, managed by the temple trust, to stay during the night at very nominal rates of Rs. 20 (50cents) per day for two people.

There is a small market where you can buy all types of souvenirs of Saint Jalaram.

The temple is still having the bag and the stick that was carried by Saint Jalaram while he was going for collecting donations.

There is also a beautiful statue of lord Ram and Devi Sita in the temple.

The temple remains open all through the day and closes at 9pm.

The morning and evening Artis are really worth attending.

Try to remain present during these Artis and you will have a divine pleasure.

Though food is provided free, there are some small hotels that can provide varieties of food on nominal payment.

Around 10000 pilgrims visit this holy temple everyday and pay their homage to the great Saint Jalaram.

If you also want to share this unique experience, make sure to visit this temple at least for a day in Gujarat.

This will increase your faith in powers of human beings and what can be achieved by the sincere efforts of an ordinary human being.

Hindu Wedding -answer to a budding student for her fashion course.

I got an e-mail (16 March, 2008) requesting help to answer to questions posed by one of Shannon’s  cousins (Lee).

Here is short list of sample questions.

Hey Sunir!

I’m working on my fashion course at home right now and one assignment is to interview someone about wedding customs (mostly clothing) of another culture/religion. Would you be able to answer some questions about Indian marriages for me when you get a chance?   Here they are:-Have you attended a wedding in the Indian culture? -Was this a traditional wedding or something different?   -When did this take place?    -Where was it?
-Is this a typical place of an Indian wedding?

& there were more questions. One will know of all the questions , upon reading my response to ths help

My response (reviewed   by   my wife- (which I copied to Shannon, Nina & Sunjay). I sent the  response (electronically) on 18 March , 2008

     

Hi Sunir,
 
Hey son, I am repeating Lee’s questions below and would follow that as per response -so it becomes easier for her to understand in systematic manner  all answers   that she wants to know.  

     

I think she wanted answers (responses) to be anchored on any wedding attended  by you (or us). I have used Nina/Sunjay   wedding as the one  for actual happenings at a Hindu wedding.
     

In RED colour used for  the Titles which include Lee’s questions
Blue colour used for Nina/Sunjay wedding happenings
Black colour is used  for my general answers and more explanation.
     

Your mom has reviewed the responses.
     

I  have copied the response to Shannon & Nina/Sunjay for their look see. If anyone has a comment they can let me   or you know.
     

 

:):) dad  

     

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I’m working on my fashion course at home right now and one assignment is to interview someone about wedding customs (mostly clothing) of another culture/religion. Would you be able to answer some questions about Indian marriages for me when you get a chance? Here they are:
Shannon’s cousin, Lee
     

-Have you attended a wedding in the Indian culture?  

-Was this a traditional wedding or something different?  

-When did this take place?      

 

-Where was it?
-Is this a typical place of an Indian wedding?

-What does the bride wear?
-What does the groom wear?
-What do the guests wear?  

 

-What do the parents of the bride and groom wear?
-What does the wedding party wear?

-Was there an engagement before the wedding?

-If yes, how long was it?

-Are bridesmaids a part of the traditional wedding ceremony in your culture?

-How many bridesmaids does the bride usually have?
-What gifts are typically given?

-How many guests are usually invited to the wedding?
-Who are all these people (how are they related to the couple)?
-Please explain your favourite part of a Jain wedding.
-Are there any symbols used in the wedding? (i.e. ring represents never-ending love)

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see the following site for some FAQs : http://zoltami.com/FAQ.html

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Hi Son,

Here are my comments/observations/understanding on Indian weddings.

General,

1) Indian weddings encompass weddings by many diverse and disparate groups . These are Hindu weddings, Muslim Weddings , Christian weddings, Sikh Weddings, Buddhist weddings and Jain Weddings. There may be others such as mixed weddings. Indian Weddings are the : most Diverse Wedding in the world.   The Hindu marriage ceremonies vary in different regions and according to family traditions.    

 

2) Each religious group has sub-groups and accordingly weddings are varied and modified.

3) Further, there are  differences in wedding dresses ,decorations and traditions based on location (that is from which province the bride or bridegroom has come from?) Punjab has different dress code and wedding party traditions compared with Gujarat or Rajastan or Southern provinces (such as Kerala, TamilNadu, Andhra Pradesh)

4)   Indian populations who have migrated outside of India, vary their wedding rites as per local influences (which can be municipal constraints, acceptance or non – acceptance of Indian culture by local population of a country to which Indians may have emigrated to). Thus there are variations to wedding dress and celebratory functions to suit local environment.

5) Indian weddings also see variation/modification from each individual  priest  ( Purohits for Hindu/Jain , Mullahs for Muslims, and Priests for Christians). who carries out the ceremony. This is because most of the priests (at least Hindu/Jain) are trained by parents or grandparents (like on-the-job training). As the art and knowledge are passed down  from  generation to generation .

6) The form and style of Indian weddings (right across the board) are  changing influenced by demands of modern living and  the current environment in which the newly wed couple lives. It has happened many times that a groom lives (say in San Fransico in U.S. ) and bride comes from elsewhere such as  Kenya or India or other  parts of U.S. or American continent.    And the parents may be living at other part of the world.   Thus the age old traditions cannot be sustained and  quick modifications are implemented but keeping essentials of the traditional cermonies.

6) Most Indian weddings are sort of  relation between two families. The wedding would normally tie   two families for the life time (family of bridegroom and family of bride) apart from the actual couple who is getting married.

Hindu Wedding

There are certain commonality in Hindu weddings – no matter which group or sub-group (and from whichever part of India they come from) of Hindus celebrate weddings  of  their loved ones.

These are:

 1) A wedding is done in the presence of a fire (as a witness). A fire is considered very propitious and pure and has a haloed presence in Hindu religious traditions.

 2) In Hindu tradition, the new bride is considered an epitome of Goddess Laxmi (Goddess of Prosperity, wealth and good luck) and thus ceremonies are tuned to “a worship of the Goddess” and thus bride is  welcome (or annonited) at each stage of ceremony with reverance.

Note: In olden days or in orthodox families, all this euphoria would change once the bride becomes full member of the household and in reality nothing good happens or no wonderful breaks are attained by the family from her presence – to the detriment of the new daughter-in-law.

3) Hindu weddings are anchored in age old Sanskrit (ancient Indian language comparable to Latin) ceremonial “slokas” . The “slokas” are religious offerings to Gods/Godesses and ancestors for  invoking  favours, good omens and blessings for the newly wed.   The local language of the people involved is also used since most Hindus cannot understand Sanskrit in these days .

4) Hindu weddings are very particular in clearly specifying (demonstrating) to the newly weds their responsibilities as man & wife over the life span. The manner and style of specification may vary from group to group depending on the priest and the group (or sub-group)  to which the newly wed belongs

5) Traditionaly, Hindu weddings are carried out at the bride’s (parents) place (or at an identifed location) with bridegroom along with  his wedding party arriving  for the wedding.

These days (especially here in Canada and other western countries),  marriages are sometimes jointly organised by the wedding couple.  Their parents giving nominal but loving consent to their decision.

6) In Punjabi (north Indian) and Rajastani Hindu marriages in India, the bridegroom usually mount a horse or an elephant to arrive majestically to the bride’s parents home for wedding.

The Gujaratis normally do not have such tradition.   Gujarati groom usually comes in posh cars  

In Toronto, the north Indian marriages will see the groom mount a horse (a small distance near the place of wedding) when arriving at the wedding place. This tradition is NOW slowly but dfefinitely filtering to the Gujarati community. Well, this has given means of income to local horse owners.

Note: I will try to give a detailed description based on our Gujarati Hindu wedding ceremonies which we had for Nina and Sunjay in 2004. The following website LINK : http://www.shubhlagan.in/Traditions_Gujarati.asp  provides a bit more details and explanation.

Have you attended a wedding in the Indian culture?

Yes. We have attended many Indian Hindu weddings as we are Hindus and we have a long network association with many extended families and friends. The friends can be from  many different groups or sub-groups.

The wedding that I will refer to is Sunir’s sister (Nina Shah with Sunjay Mistry) during August of 2004.

Was this a traditional wedding or something different?

Yes and No. The wedding form & style  are changing based on amenities available and the current life style of the couple getting married .

Some basic  parts of traditon is normally  maintained except when time constraints and where family members are scattered all over and thus they cannot all attend the wedding.functions due to distance and other constraints.  

In basic sense , yes, most weddings we attended do follow the basic tradition – though we may NOT attend all the functions related to the wedding.

Nina’s wedding with Sunjay followed the basic  ceremonial structure  of a Gujarati Hindu traditional ceremony, normally followed by a diasporic (Indians who have moved away from India) Indian family.

When did this take place?

Traditionally, the wedding day and time is chosen by astrological combinations for good omens and for fending off any evils

However in modern times and outside India especially in Western Countries, sometimes this is ignored . For Nina/Sinjay wedding , the astrological phenomena was not explored much. Nina’s wedding was on  Saturday 28 Aug 2004. It turned out to be a very beautiful day with nice and clear warm sky.- though rain was forecast during these  days.

Where was it?

The wedding  ceremony  can be done at any appropriate but auspicious place where wedding couple can feel comfortable (with convenient location) and can invite their necessary family  members and friends

The ceremony usually takes place at a temple of choice  (i.e hall in the temple), commercial or community  halls (such as Sports club ) or hotels or outdoors under  a marquee near home or public places.

However, Nina’s (Sunir’s sister) wedding to Sunjay Mistry was at a  blueberry farm (Hugly’s at the outskirt of Pembroke) in the Ottawa Valley. Various wedding ceremonies were divided between  four (4)  locations..

The day before the actual   wedding day, her Wedding   Foundation ceremony was done at her parents home under an established marquee and a tent (in Deep River – about 45 km from Hugly’s blueberry farm).

Sunjay’s Wedding Foundation ceremony was done (about a week before) at his uncle’s place in Toronto.

The actual wedding ceremony was done under a marquee at the well set  and attractive Hugly’s blueberry farm at the outskirt of Pembroke. This included reception (just after the noon hour)  upon the completion of the Wedding ceremony .

In the evening after about 8.00 pm a celebratory party (welcoming of Nina as a newly married wife) was organised by Sunjay’s (groom’s) side at the Deep River Yacht Club . This was necessary to wrap up the “after wedding ceremonies” as per Hindu traditions at Sunjay’s (his parents) place. Since Sunjay’s sister and mom had come from U.K., they did not have luxury of time and place here in Canada to carry out such ceremonies at their actual place of residence. So a modification (for location) was effected by holding such ceremonies at Deep River Yacht Club.This allowed many guests who had travelled distences to attend the wedding to participate in the ensuing ceremonies.

Is this a typical place of an Indian wedding?

The choice of place that Nina/Sunjay made was NOT a typical place for an Indian wedding. However, the Hugly Farm owners were excited and  really took pride   that their place was chosen.The place was away from Ottawa (some 200 km) from where most items for wedding ceremony as well as  the Indain Caterers were brought in. The Hindu (Gujarati) Priest along with a Ph D educator (for translating the wedding rites in English for the benefit of all the guests) had to be motored from the Hindu temple in Ottawa.    

 

What  does the bride wear?

 

     

Gujarati marriage is a classic example of ethnicity, in which people dress up in beautiful rainbow colors. Gujarati wedding attire exhibits glimpses of their rich culture. Talking about the Gujarati wedding bridal wear, most Gujarati girls choose to wear a sari that is draped in the proper Gujarati style. During the ceremony, a Gujarati bride usually wears   a “panetar” as the wedding “sari.”   These days the fashion designers have come up with bridal “chania choli” in place of the “panetar”   Some brides do opt   to wear a bridal choli. So she can  wear a white blouse and lengha from the panetar choli. Then instead of the panetar chunri, she would wear  a maroon gharchola chunri with the same work as the “panetar” pieces. Then she will  have a separate white chunri (a sort of shawl) for her  head. This way it will look like it’s 1 outfit.
The bride also wears gold or silver jewellery and these days cosmetic jewellery to complete the wedding attire in Indian style.
The bride wears the “panetar” that is given by her maternal uncle, then a gharcholu sari on top of that, which is given by the groom’s family for good luck.
     

Gujarati weddings are still normally quite understated and subtle, though trends here in Toronto (and Canada)  are increasingly being influenced by North Indian culture.
Nina wore  traditional “panetar” – the sari worn during the wedding ritual ”” in its traditional   plain white  silk saree with a maroon border. Saree had self golden checks & pallav was in red color which has intricate design & also all over border with self design. Saree has matching blouse with   embroidery on its neckline
     

       

Nina  wore  gold  and cosmetic jewellery to complete the wedding attire in Indian style.

 

 

     

Nina bought her “panetar” in Toronto but many new brides go to India for selection and purchase of  their “panetar“.     Nina’s maternal Uncle & Auntie who came form Kenya paid for her panetar“.
     

What does the groom wear?
     

       

Wedding is a big day in everyone’s life be it girl or boy. For a guy wedding is the end of his bachelorhood. It marks the end of his carefree days of being the eligible bachelor. Wedding calls for more responsibilities and commitment. Not many grooms concentrate on planning their wedding outfits just as elaborately as the brides do and they really miss out on a lot of details

 

 

     

In a traditional Gujarati marriage, grooms opt for dhoti kurta. This type of wedding garb is now more or less extinct
In modern times and in metropolitan cities and in countries outside India,    for the modern men, the fashion designers are coming up with designer Gujarati “wedding bridegroom wear”  like indo-western kurta pyjamas.
In the western wear category, formal suits are becoming the choice of many.
For the main day wedding function a bridegroom  can opt for sherwanis, Jodhpuri suits,Kurta Pyjamas or Western suits. Sherwanis look stunningly regal because they fuse the best of eastern and western styling, they are the perfect attire for the wedding and also the reception. Shades of peach jamevar with touches of gold silver jari work or beiges and golds are more suitable than the traditional cream churidar kurta.        

     

 

Sunjay selected to wear a Sherwani  with shade of peach with touches of gold silver jari work -which looked regal  ,very attractive and distinct from what the guests wore.
     

What do the guests wear?
What does the wedding party wear?
     

Guests (including the wedding party) normally wear what is current in their cultural group(s) and/or what is prevalent in the society at large. In Canada, the western dresses or ethnic Indian dresses are worn by guests   There are no   particular rule or requirements what they wear except that clean, ironed and attractive garb to be worn.
Indian ladies usually wear sarees resplendent with their gold, diamond or cosmetic jewellery. Western ladies (who attend the wedding) wear western dresses (gowns). Some western ladies who are intimate with the new couple or their families wear sarees.  
Men  generally wear western suits with tie. Also some wear shirts and trousers depending on weather.
Note:
a) Guests wear  what one  normally  wears to a non-Indian wedding. The only clothing taboo to be aware of is that one  must take one’s   shoes off to enter a temple or the wedding canopy, so be prepared to leave them at the door.
b) Do try to make some allowances for comfort — it’s not uncommon for seating to be on the ground, so a tight suit or dress that doesn’t let you sit cross-legged might not be the best choice
During Nina/Sunjay wedding, all the above was evident.
     

What do the parents of the bride and groom wear?
     

Mother of the bride wears a new saree in cheerful colour (such as red, maroon, brown or green) with gold or silver motif embroidery. No black or white sarees are worn during the wedding functions   Black is representative of misfortune  and  white represents mourning.  

Father of the bride wears western suit  (newly tailored) or ethnic Indian dress.Normally  more expensive one to celebrate the wedding.    In some Indian groups, father and near relatives  also wear special wedding turbans which set them apart from the guests.

The above is true for the grooms parents.

For Nina/Sunjay wedding, Nina’s mom wore an attractive and cheerful  fuchia coloured saree with her gold ornaments and with a  big smile   Her father had a new suit with (most expensively tailored suit in his life). Sunjay’s mom also wore a cheerful saree with magnetic smile on her face.

Was there an engagement before the wedding?

Engagement ceremony is an integral   part of the wedding preparation in the Indian culture and tradition.

Many groups/sub-groups would not officially announce   engagement to the extended familiy members or friends unless a proper engagement ceremony is held; though the couple  may have made it official between themselves by very planned execution of wedding proposal by the young man and acceptance by the young lady – with youngman  putting an engagement ring on her finger.    

The engagement ceremony signifies that the “bride-to-be” is accepted by the family of the “groom-to-be” in presence of the the family of the “bride-to-be“as well as in the presence  of  some members of the community. The engagement ceremony also allows  the family of the  “bride-to-be” to ackowledge the acceptance of  “groom-to-be” as their kin and the  husband to their daughter.

Yes. Nina/Sunjay engagement ceremony was held in April 2004 (a few months before her wedding in August 2004). The ceremony was held at Nina’s parents home in Deep River,Ontario

If yes, how long was it?

The engagement ceremony takes about an hour (but not more than two hours)  but once the engagement ceremony is over there is feast along with  dinner and some socialising between two families and invited guests.

For Nina/Sunjay engagement it took about an hour and a half with dinner and the  feast afterwards.

Are bridesmaids a part of the traditional wedding ceremony in your culture?

     

Not traditionally but  in modern times the sisters and close cousins can be made part of the train which joins the  bride when she comes to the wedding “Mundap – a special canopy erected for the wedding  ”   The bride is usually escorted to the “Mandap” by her brother and maternal uncle.
Nina was escorted by her brother, Sunir and her maternal uncle who had especially come from Kenya to attend the wedding.   Her train of so called bridemaids included her  Auntie (wife  of her maternal uncle from Kenya) and her cousin who had come form U.S.A  .
     

How many bridesmaids does the bride usually have?
     

There is no special number but usually numbers are low as only immediate sisters (or sister’s daughters,if any) or immediate cousins would make the train of bridesmaids. However, in modern times relatives are scattered all over the globe and thus may not be present at the wedding. In that case bride’s close friends (most two or three) would be invited to become part  of the train to give moral support to the bride.
Note: There is no special dress code  required for so called bridemaids. They can be part of the train with their normal attire they had to attend the wedding.        

What gifts are typically given?      

     

This is an interesting question.
     

In modern times gift of cash (or cheques) is welcome as it helps to defray the cost of wedding. The cost, these days, are astronomical and can set the newly wed (and/or their parents) behind quite a bit. The amount should be an “auspicious” number ending in 1 — $51, $101, $201, $501, etc. (or similar numbers in rupees, pounds, or what  currencuy you have).
     

Beyond that , newly weds usually set a GIFT ACCOUNT with Bay or other commercial establishments for guests to pick a gift which can be fruitfully used by the new couple .
     

The parents (of bride and groom) and near relatives in Indian tradition normally give Gold/diamond jewellery, which remain forever and can become heirlooms for the couple in their lifetime.  
     

Some relatives give clothing (especially to the bride) such as sarees.
     

Other guests can buy whatever fancy them to give as gift.
     

The most important gift is warm prayers and blessings for the successful and healthy life of the new couple in the years to come.
     

How many guests are usually invited to the wedding?
The weddings in Toronto or other western countries usually  have from 200 to 400 guests.
     

In Kenya, when we (Nina’s parents) got married there were more than 2000 (yes, two thousands) guests . These days in Kenya the guest list goes beyond 2000 easily.
     

I am sure in India too, the guest list is extensive and atmosphere more festive than outside of India with bands, dances and music galore etc..
     

For Nina/Sunjay wedding in August, 2004 we had some 200 guests.        

Who are all these people (how are they related to the couple)?

 

The guests at the Hindu wedding in Toronto or any other western countries are a cross-section of family members and friends ( represnting multi-cultural aspect of the society). First guests are the family members (near and intimate ones). Then, the preference is given to the bride’s or groom’s friends (school,  university or workplace)  .  
After that parents’ friends (based on  their social life and inroads made to mutual invitation) are added on the list.
     

The number of guests are limited to the availabilty of the  space at the hall(s) where wedding is going to take place and reception to be organised.  
     

In India or Kenya (where there is a large Indian community) , the guests are mostly family members (also include all extended family members), friends of the family and commercial contacts. Bride and groom usually do invite  some of their friends but they form a small proportion of the guest list.
     

For NIna/Sunjay wedding, the guests represented most of  the good friends of the bride and groom and relatives who were  around   (or those who travelled from Toronto or overseas).  Also the some good neighbours or members of the local Indian Community were invited.  The mix of the guest list was multi-cultural – the Canadian Mosaic.
     

Please explain your favourite part of a Jain wedding.
     

Jainism dates to 600 B.C.
Jains, having shared the subcontinent with Hindus for more than 2,500 years, have developed a strikingly similar marriage tradition

The following is the most favourite and endearing part of the Jain Wedding.   It also permeates thru in the Hindu weddings.
hasta melap   ( hand clasping/holding)   :- The priest  places the bride’s hand into the groom’s. Linking the two together for life, he will say:        

“Aum Arham. O Jiva (living being) you are the one with soul. May you two become partners with the same time, mind, karma, shelter, body, action, love, desire, wishes, joy, sorrow, longevity, with the same hunger and thirst. May you have similar progress; may you enjoy the same good things; words, forms, scents, touch, ashrava, bandha, sanvara, nirjara, moksha (effects of karma). May you obtain a lasting relationship and unity by way of this joining of hands.”

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Durinng Nina/Sunjay wedding , which followed the Hindu Wedding rituals, the hasta milap (hand clasping/holding) was followed as per Hindu tradition. Added to that, a Jain universal prayer was also offered to all the spiritually advanced beings in the world.        

     

 

Are there any symbols used in the wedding? (i.e. ring represents never-ending love)
     

See the following LINK for the description of Short Hindu Wedding ceremony -which is becoming more prevalent in Canada and western countries as the wedding couple are nowadays  may not be from the same group and thus  from outside groups.  
     

There are some 4 critical moments in the modern Indian Hindu wedding.
     

1) Garlands to be exchanged by bride and groom   –   bride comes out carrying groom’s garland, escorted by her brother(s) and maternal uncle.
     

This is a new addition to the traditional Indian wedding and nowadays are followed even in India as modernity has encompassed everything.
     

The garland exchange  (prior to the  start of the religious Hindu ceremonies) between bride and groom signifies each one accepts the other as her/his life partner. This then allows (at least philosophically) to proceed with the ceremonies.
     

2) Rings to be exchanged by bride and groom
     

       

This is also a  new addition to the traditional Indian wedding and nowadays are followed even in India as modernity has encompassed everything.
The ring exchange  represents the same connotation as found in western Christian weddings. Thus signifies  promise of never-ending love between the couple.
3) Seven Final steps – called “Saptapadi”  (after  the Holy Steps circling the fire)  
The “Saptapadi” or seven steps is a very important ritual that makes up the Hindu wedding ceremony.
 Seven vows as the couple  takes the seven steps:
  1. May we be blessed with an abundance of food.
  2. May we be strong and complement one another.
  3. May we be blessed with prosperity.
  4. May we be eternally happy.
  5. May we be blessed with children.
    Idea: one “blended family” we know of changed this to “May the couple be blessed with obedient children.” 🙂
  6. May we live in perfect harmony.
  7. May we  always be the best of friends.
4)   Offering of  “Mangalsutra” (a special gold chain) by the groom to the bride  
     

Manglesutra” or thread of good wihich is a necklace worn specifically by married women as a symbol of their marriage.          

Some muslim women (such as Konkani Muslims, Muslims from Hyderabad and also Christians  in india wear “Manglesutra” too.

Initially it was a thread that a bride and groom tied on each other signifying their union in good will. Now, the groom ties it around his bride’s neck to indicate that he receives her from her father and vows to be her husband

The most common “Manglesutra” is made of two strings of small black beads with a pendant, usually of gold. The black beads are believed to act as protection against evil. Married women wear this to protect their marriage and the life of their husband. In southern India, the “Manglesutra” is called ‘tali’. It is a small gold ornament, strung on a cotton cord or a gold chain.        

Traditionally, a married woman never removed her “Manglesutra” . If she became a widow, it was cut off. Nowadays however, this custom is not strictly applied, and not all married women wear a “Manglesutra“.

 

     

Note: theManglesutrais not part of Punjabi culture.

It is kinda like the wedding ring in the west to show that the woman is married.
     

     

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

   

 

   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How I turned into a Pujari (a Priest for Hindu faith)

We were invited to participate in a Puja (prayer) gathering at Subhash M. residence in Pembroke on Sunday 2007 April 15. Subhash and his charming wife Prabhaji were celebrating the arrival of their first grandchild (Diya Jyoti). Diya Jyoti was born one month ago to Avanish & Nisha (proud parents) . Avanish is the eldest son of Subhash/Prabhaji. Many Congratulations to the new parents.

This was also the day when Subhash crossed the magic line of 65 years in age. Many Congratulations!

I was asked to prepare something for the Puja (blessings for the young one and also some words for the Senior).

Well it so happened that Subhash/Prabhji’s newly wedded younger son (Rahul) and his  wife (Sangita)had also come from Boston for the occasion. Many Congratulations to the newly wed.

My conversion to Pujari status came inadvertently as I perfomed blessings Sutras (Hindu prayers to Gods) -all in English. The appropriate Sutras fell in my domain  from search in the Internet to varIous Hindu websites and accidently picking up right Sutras for the occasion.

I also developed a  Couplet/Poem   for the baby. This is embedded in the text below which I delivered at the Puja.

This is a day full of pride and joy for which we all offer heartfelt thanks to our GODS ( Sankar, Vidhnu & Brahma ) and their incarnates over the millennia in the land of Bharat.
First, on behalf of all of us who are present in this assembly, I like to congratulate Avanish & Nisha for recently becoming parents to lovely Diya Jyoti. We also congratulate Subhash & Prabhaji for promotion to becoming proud grandparents.
I am so pleased to see Rahul   and his wife, Sangita also here to-day. They have travelled from Boston. Our Congratulations on your recent wedding.

A new baby brings excitement and energy in a household. Diya Jyoti represents a continuum in the Mehta family chain. Our prayers are that she brings wonderful omens of good fortune and success to the whole family.
 

A Couplet/Poem (by Pravin Shah)  

A baby”™s love is freely given.
Diya Jyoti”™s heart bears no preconceived prejudices
She is pure and innocent in her chuckles and smiles.
 

A baby”™s love is freely given.
Diya Jyoti brings hope, love and joy to all
She is an epitome of calm and cheer in our lives
 

A baby”™s love is freely given.
Thank you Lord for our precious little one
Help us to relish the blessings you have given us  
A baby”™s love is freely given.
 

Amen

 In Indian/Hindu tradition, when baby is born the father will set up a Sacrificial fire for worshipping and offers oblations with the following mantras
” Bringing you up as my daughter in this home of mine, may I be able to maintain a thousand people! May the Goddess of fortune never desert the children and the animals from the child’s line! I mentally transfer to you the vital force that is in me. If I have done any thing wrong – too much or too little in this ceremony, may the all-knowing benevolent Mystic Fire make it just right for me!”    “I put the Earth into you, I put the Sky into you, I put the Heaven into you, I am putting the whole of Earth, Sky and the Heavens into you, my child!”
 


 

According to Grihya-sutras, the father murmurs the chants near the ears of the child:“I administer to you, O my child,
The wisdom of the honey, and of ghee
Blessed by god Savitru, the bountiful.
May you live long, under God’s protection,
For hundred autumns to come
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After a month the baby is presented to the sun, as the sun (god Savitru) is seen as a very important astrological phenomenon and a reflection of God.

 
 
Om ! Shanti ! Shanti !

 I also would like to take this opportunity to congratulate Subhash for attaining that magic line of 65 years in age. On behalf of all of us here, we wish Subhash the best of everything for the day but also for many more years to come.
 

The following poems I wrote earlier, I believe are appropriate for the occasion. I believe lots of inner struggle goes in our minds at the time when we attain mature age

Destiny

Meandering thru life
Picking up this and that
Bobbing high and low
Going sideways
Here I am wondering where I am
What for and why?
Kids have flown the coop
Empty quiet living room
Internet contact to the world
Just meandering thru life
Someday my ship will arrive
That I guess is the destiny.
 

Pravin Shah
                                                                                                                                                               
                                                THE MAGIC LINE
The 65 years of life age is the magic imaginary line
That imaginary line of dependence to independence
65 years of life rushed by with some ups and some downs
This is the license to be grumpy, grouchy and irritable
An air of conquer and   “I don”™t care” attitude
Sit at home and collect my CPP, OAS   & free medicines?
Fewer taxes to governments for this and for that
The hidden traps unseen when crossing over the magic line
Retirement takes you away from colleagues and friends
The old abode suddenly becomes too large to manage
Your kid”™s memory is still intact though they left the coop
The struggle to decide where to move drives you mad
Downsize, remove clutter, have a hobby goes the refrain!
Organize family records, photos and memories for simplicity
Be smart and have financial plans to spend pension money
Go travel, go to Mexico, go to sun, run from the snow and cold
A constant clamor to go for vacation from friends and neighbors
Loneliness of retirement and senior years loom large

Mental and physical ailments become the daily grind
Well, going over 65 years is not that magic line or is it?
To establish priorities and clarity of purpose is the panacea
 Remove past grudges and accept the world as it is
Keep your humour and daily exercise
 Establish a spiritual bondage with the world and the Creator
AMEN
 
The crossing of magic line is made meaningful by the timely arrival of Diya Jyoti.   I believe Mehta”™s   ship has arrived with the baby”™s chuckle and smile. Many more will come to enhance their destiny. The first born, a little bundle of joy, will navigate their lives till kingdom come. Subhash, we pray for your happiness, fullness in life and a great journey from here to eternity. Enjoy your 65th.
 
Pravin & Jackie Shah

 

Krishna Personifies The Modern Man

Krishna is more relevant and nearer the contemporary man of today than Rama.

Krishna is the harbinger of change and writes his own rules and laws ”“ he is therefore closer to our post-modern period where there are no constants or givens in society. Ram on the other hand represents the age of Satya, where self is subservient to the good of society. In effect, Krishna”™s attitude of detachment is diametrically opposite Ram”™s adherence to all social norms and rules.

Fun-loving, cunning, street-smart, flirtatious, detached and living life as he chooses ”“ with loads of attitude – Krishna perfectly personifies the modern man.  

Krishna is more relevant and nearer the contemporary man of today than Rama.

Krishna is the harbinger of change and writes his own rules and laws ”“ he is therefore closer to our post-modern period where there are no constants or givens in society. Ram on the other hand represents the age of Satya, where self is subservient to the good of society. In effect, Krishna”™s attitude of detachment is diametrically opposite Ram”™s adherence to all social norms and rules.

Fun-loving, cunning, street-smart, flirtatious, detached and living life as he chooses ”“ with loads of attitude – Krishna perfectly personifies the modern man.  

   

   

   

‘Lord Krishna spent 125 years on Earth’

   

Saturday, 11 September , 2004, 12:49

It was February 18, 3102 BC Friday at 02 hours, 27 minutes and 30 seconds in the afternoon when Lord Krishna left his earthly body for his heavenly abode – or so claims an ascetic after intensive calculations.

Swami Gyananand Saraswati of the Varanasi-based Adi Jagadguru Shankaracharya Vedic Research Institute also claims to have calculated exactly how many hours Lord Krishna spent on Earth and his precise age when the epic battle Mahabharata ended.

He says Lord Krishna spent 125 years on Earth and departed precisely 5,106 years ago. The ascetic scholar presented a detailed timeline of the life of the Lord before a gathering of scholars at Somnath temple in Prabhas Patan, 350 km from this Gujarat city.

   

He says his calculations are based on the study of various Indian scriptures, including Skand Purana, Shrimad Bhagawat Purana, Shri Vishnu Mahapurana, Matsya Parva and the epic Mahabharata.

He also referred to the astrological treatise Bhrigu Samhita for dating various events in Krishna’s life. He fed the data into a computer and used a special software to determine the longitude and latitude of various places mentioned in the texts.

He says Krishna died 36 years after the war of Mahabharata. “His age on the last day of the war was 89 years, two months and seven days. That tallies with the estimate of 125 years,” Saraswati asserts.

He claims that Krishna was born the 22nd day of the fourth month of the 863,874th year of Dwapar Yug, which was the eighth day of the second half of the Hindu calendar month of Shravan, the day Janmashtami, or the birth of Krishna, is celebrated.

Saraswati, who is at the Somnath temple complex for a traditional four-month sojourn of Chaturmas, declared his findings on Tuesday to coincide with Janmashtami celebrations.

He has also worked out a chronology of the temple, one of the Dwadasha Jyotirlingas or the 12 most important temples of Lord Shiva. The temple has been reconstructed many times in its history.

The present temple was constructed in 1951 at the behest of Sardar Vallabhbhai Patel, the first home minister, and the idols were installed by India’s first president Rajendra Prasad.