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Letter to family friends -Eli & Tony Akkerman

                                                                                                                                          November 29 2004

 
 
Dear Eli & Tony,

Eric

 
It was nice to have visited you recently. We were glad to see that both of you are in good health and spirit. We had been quite busy since last few months, first with Nina”™s wedding and then functions thereafter.

 
We were glad that Nina and Sunjay (son-in-law) as well as Sunir found it appropriate to come and visit you in Niagara Falls. Both Nina & Sunjay want to receive blessings from their elders. They are also planning to go to Nairobi (during Christmas break) to receive blessings from my mother.

 
Earlier, immediately after the wedding, they had gone to U.K. to receive blessings from Sunjay”™s family elders. They have also visited Aunt Ruth (Ruth McKerracher) in Ottawa.

 
I feel bad that we could not spend more time with you. Jackie and Nina felt bad too and told me so.

 
Whenever we come to Toronto, we come for a very short time and have many items to cover. As travel takes long time we try to pack too many things.   My apologies.

 
As promised, we will come in spring or summer to Niagara Falls and spend full day with you guys. We have so much to talk about. I am planning to retire next year and throw in the towel for worldly battles. I need to find place for a peaceful existence and someone with whom I can talk about spiritual matters.

 
Deep River is cold and winter is slowly but definitely putting its tentacles around. The weather is unsettled at this time but hope that winter snow will engulf us soon so that at least we know that real winter has arrived.

 
Tony, I wish you were near but I think we will make it happen by our moving closer to Toronto in the next year or so.

 
Take care and with regards,

 
Jackie send her regards to you both & Eric.

 
 
Pravin Shah

Mother’s Day

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  May 08, 2004
 
Mother”™s Day


This Mother”™s Day saw a considerable number of mothers who were not happy. In fact they must be feeling the unimaginable consternation and pain.


The mothers of the prisoners in Abu Ghraib prison in Iraq must be having a terrible time to fathom the humiliation their imprisoned sons were put thru by the army of the most powerful and liberal country. The photos, which are circulating in all the media of the world, have shown the helplessness of the conquered people.  


This was not to be. The U.S army went in Iraq as liberators of the Iraqi people from the tyranny of Sadaam Hussein and removing the threat of Weapons of Mass Destruction (WMD). Those of us who supported this action are chagrined at the turn of the event.

The worldview of the morality for democracy, freedom and equality has taken a bit of a beating.  


The mothers of the young American soldiers who have been sent to Iraq (and also to Afghanistan) must be an unhappy lot too. It seems that these young men and women were not trained properly for such duty. The war is not going according to the script they were told. Here the enemy is elusive and borderless and this asymmetric combat in an urban or rural guerilla war is placing limits on America’s competence and credibility.


On this Mother”™s day, the best gift we can give to all the mothers is to have peace and prosperity but to achieve this we need to heed the message of Dalai Lama who was recently in Canada. He talked about compassion and peaceful solutions based upon tolerance and mutual respect.  
 
Can we rise to this challenge so that all mothers can rejoice in the growth and happiness of their children?   I am a dreamer and there is nothing wrong in dreaming!
 
 
 
Pravin Shah
 
 
 
 

Ode To Chatterjees on their move to Toronto

 

Sunday,   March 21, 2004

The Ode   delivered at the farewell party for Chatterjee’s held at Knights of Columbus Hall in Pembroke by Deep River/Pembroke East Indian Community.

Chatterjees, known for their smiles
Smiles:
Smile for a while
As if it’s in Chatterjees style
Spreading many a mile
And lasting a while
Will gather in style
All through one smile

 
Chatterjees, who exude warmth
A Friend:
It takes more than caring
To be a real friend;
The nature of friendship;
Requires a blend of warmest compassion
To reach and to comfort
The way that Chatterjees do
That”™s their kind of friendship
Is priceless to all

 
Chatterjees, one kind of a people
Special Family:
Writing about life
Friends helping thru strife
Dependable when needed
Chatterjees are one of a kind
     

Chatterjees, who are huggable
Inspired Hug:
Have you ever
Watched Chatterjees,
Eyeing each other as   “Dost”
Indian hearts sharing hugs
They help inspire
Such a simple verse

 
Chatterjees, our great support
Miss You:
Those of us who moved to
Deep River/Pembroke corridor

 
Over the years one by one
In a trickle from Toronto
Or a bunch from Whiteshell

 
Chatterjees a   “Welcome Wagon”
All music, parties and sunshine
A warm laughter and support

 
Smile and welcome, we will miss
Departure to Toronto leaves a void
AH! That”™s what life is about

 
Leena, Sadhan, Sudeep and Sumita
Jackie & Pravin wish you the best

 
Keep your smiles and warmth
Toronto will be yours in no time.

 

Pravin/Jackie Shah

Farewell Dinner for Chatterjis at our house

The following is a “Certificate” presented to Chatterjis at the dinner party organised at our house on   Saturday March 13, 2004. It is all in the fun mode.

Sadhan/Leena Chatterji’s Farewell dinner at home of Pravin/Jackie Shah –                                     Saturday 13 March 2004

   

 

We, who are present here to-night, confirm that  Sadhan & Leena Chatterji are of sound mind, body and spirit when they have decided to turn their back on   this   peaceful and friendly  Renfrew County for a traffic & smog filled, noisy city of Toronto     to   spend their  well earned retirement time.                                        
That is their wish and destiny.
We are definitely sorry to see them leave us as orphans and leaderless even though we know that we will have a base for us to visit Toronto for  cultural experiences and city excursions.
We announce here loudly and clearly that we will miss them very much    but do wish them, from bottom of our collective hearts, a very happy and satisfying retirement.    
May God grant all their wishes!

 

 

Toast for Christmas 2003

The following toast was offered at Ken Philipose’s residence (Deep River, Ontario, Canada) when celebrating Christmas.

Toast for  Christmas Day Thursday December 25, 2003  
                                             
     

Its that time again when we meet at Philipose”™s house
There are no trumpets & bugles but rousing welcome      

     

Christmas Day in Deep River with snow around  
Tinsel and ornaments on Christmas Tree bright!
Jingle Bells! Jingle Bells! Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer!
Silent Night and all Christmas corals   Hallelujah! Hallelujah!      

     

It”™s the season to be jolly and cheerful all smiles around
Caring and sharing we rejoice the birth of Christ in a manger      

     

Gifts and hugs laughter   all jostling about with each other
With twinkle in the eyes   warmth in spirit we sing praise
Jesus   brought a paradigm shift in the way man relates to others
The call of   “eye for an eye” is replaced by   “Love thy Neighbors”      

     

Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Mandela, Mother Teresa
All Understood great message of love, sacrifice and forgiveness    

     

Let us raise a toast to this Christmas Day and seek forgiveness
We offer hand of friendship to each other for governess
Ken and their offspring Ray and Leena celebrate tonight  
We raise a Toast to this family for sharing their joy with us  

       

Pravin Shah   & family

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mothers’ Day – Party at Ken Philipose’s home

Mothers”™ Day    
Party at Ken Philipose”™s house on May 11, 2003
 
WOMEN comprise half of mankind. And since time began, women ”“ whether as daughter, wife, mother, or matriarch ”“ have played half the roles of humanity. They are roles that not only ensure the survival but also the continuity of the human race. Foremost of these roles is that of motherhood.
Men of all nations, in recognition of mothers’ many invaluable roles and contributions, had paid the highest respects and compliments to mothers. One of them is reproduced below:
MOTHER
By Howard Johnson
(c. 1915)
“M” is for the million things she gave me,
“O” means only that she’s growing old,
“T” is for the tears she shed to save me,
“H” is for her heart of purest gold,
“E” is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
“R” means right, and right she’ll always be.
Put them all together, they spell “MOTHER”
A word that means the world to me & to all of us.
 
Mothers are beloved and adored in India.
Today, we celebrate Mothers’ Day. Let us honor our mothers and enshrine the sacredness of motherhood, for mothers are not only the wellspring of our nation but also the light and guide of our people.

Background notes:

History and Customs…
In the U.S. Mothers’ Day is a holiday celebrated on second Sunday in May. It is a day when children honor their mothers with cards, gifts, and flowers. First observance in Philadelphia, Pa. in 1907, it is based on suggestions by Julia Ward Howe in 1872 and Anna Jarvis in 1907.
Although it wasn’t celebrated in the U.S. until 1908, there were days honoring mothers even in the days of ancient Greece. In those days, however, it was Rhea, the Mother of the gods that was given honor.
Later, in the 1600’s, in England there was an annual observance called “Mothering Sunday.” It was celebrated during Lent, on the fourth Sunday. On Mothering Sunday, the servants, who generally lived with their employers, were encouraged to return home and honor their mothers. It was traditional for them to bring a special cake along to celebrate the occasion.
In the U.S., in 1908 Ana Jarvis, from Grafton, West Virginia, began a campaign to establish a national Mother’s Day. Jarvis persuaded her mother’s church in Grafton, West Virginia to celebrate Mother’s Day on the anniversary of her mother’s death. A memorial service was held there on May 10, 1908 and in Philadelphia the following year where Jarvis moved.
Jarvis and others began a letter-writing campaign to ministers, businessmen, and politicians in their quest to establish a national Mother’s Day. They were successful. President Woodrow Wilson, in 1914, made the official announcement proclaiming Mother’s Day a national observance that was to be held each year on the 2nd Sunday of May.
Many other countries of the world celebrate their own Mother’s Day at different times throughout the year. Denmark, Finland, Italy, Turkey, Australia, and Belgium celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday in May, as in the U.S.


Some Motherly Advice…

  • Always change your underwear; you never know when you’ll have an accident.
  • Don’t make that face or it’ll freeze in that position.
  • Be careful or you’ll put your eye out.
  • What if everyone jumped off a cliff? Would you do it, too?
  • You have enough dirt behind those ears to grow potatoes!
  • Close that door! Were you born in a barn?
  • If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
  • Don’t put that in your mouth; you don’t know where it’s been!

Around the World
 
 
African Mother’s Day
Some tribes like the Assam in Africa don’t call themselves families. They call themselves “maharis”, or “motherhoods
 
Chinese Mother’s Day
Chinese family names are often formed beginning with a sign that means “mother”. It’s a way of honoring their moms long past.
 
Greek Mother’s Day
The ancient Greeks celebrated Mother’s Day in spring. They used to honor Rhea, “mother of the gods” with honey-cakes and fine drinks and flowers at dawn.
The Greek word “meter” and the Sanskrit word “mantra” mean both mother and measurement.
Hindu Mother’s Day
Hindu scripture credits the Great Mother, Kali Ma, with the invention of writing through alphabets, pictographs and beautiful sacred images.
Buddha honored mothers when he said, “As a mother, even at the risk of her own life, loves and protects her child, so let a man cultivate love without measure toward the whole world.”
American Indian Mother’s Day
Native American Indian women have long been honored with the name, “Life of the Nation” for their gift of motherhood to the tribes.
 
 
Egyptian Mother’s Day
Ancient Egyptians believed that “Bast” was the mother of all cats on Earth, and that cats were sacred animals.
                                                        English Mother’s Day
In the 1600’s, England celebrated a day known as Mothering Sunday, celebrated on the 4th Sunday of Lent. Mothering Sunday honored the mothers of England.
As Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed to honor the Mother Church – the spiritual power that gave them life and protected them from harm. Over time the church festival blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration.
People began honoring their mothers as well as the church. During this time many of the England’s poor worked as servants for the wealthy. As most jobs were located far from their homes, the servants would live at the houses of their employers. On Mothering Sunday the servants would have the day off and were encouraged to return home and spend the day with their mothers
European Mother’s Day
As Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed to honor the “Mother Church”–the spiritual power that gave them life and protected them from harm. Over time the church festival blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration. People began honoring their mothers as well as the church
 
French Mother’s Day
Children in France spend days drawing a card and practising a poem as a surprise for their mothers. This springtime Sunday is refered to as Fete des Meres, and it provides children and adults throughout France with the opportunity to make their mother the centre of attention, and give her gifts and treats.
 
 

 
 

Bon Voyage to our friends Paramjit, Amar Arneja

                                                                                                                                                                                                  Sunday June 08,2001


Dear Friends,


Time has come to say Bon Voyage to our friends Paramjit, Amar Arneja and their family.   They are moving to Guelph. Though geographically far from here but again they are not that far away.   Guelph is only about ½ hour by car from Toronto. We can visit them when we go to Toronto.


Arnejas have been our friends and we have always enjoyed their company. As they are a bit on the quiet side, I have found them, at times, complex to understand. I have discovered valuable lessons learnt when crossing their path in this journey of life.


So I have made up a Top Ten list to describe how I see them and hope that these will describe the Arnejas.


Those of who know Arnejas know that they are focused in life and know what they want. They know the meaning of quality and planning.   My top ten observations are:


No 10- they do not toot their trumpet and do their things in a quiet mature way.

No. 9 – they are relaxed, unpretentious and not political in their dealings with friends.

No.8   – they are entrepreneurial and risk takers.

No.7   – they are focused and know what they want from life.

No. 6 – they are witty, sharp and have twinkle in their eyes.

No. 5 – they are compassionate and warm though in a quiet way

No. 4 – At least Amar knows how to play Bridge.

No. 3 – they participate in our social and religious gatherings with warm hearts.

No. 2 – they know when to get off the “Rat Race”, relax and enjoy the family, friends

                        and simple things in life.

No. 1 – they love their sons immensely.


Amar & Parmjit, you will get down to basics and focus on the truly important things in life and look towards the future with faith not fear. An important phase in your life is at hand and the Sweeping changes will occur.
 
I would like to wish Arnejas best of everything from Jackie, our family and myself.


Pravin & Jackie Shah

TOAST – ON WEDDING

                                                              SATURDAY   JUNE 17TH, 2000

THEME :     GRADUATION TO A MARRIED LIFE

   

                               This theme on   graduation is a very thrilling theme as any graduation   underscores a milestone in our lives. When we graduate ,we progress to next level of     growth and achievement.

1.           A graduate is an embodiment of human spirit for higher and better aims in life.

2.           A graduate is a person who signifies hope in our march to progress. A graduate represents a mould that we as a society has developed so that we can be assured of quality product and services.  

3.           When a young daughter is   graduated to next level of her life , we are confident of a good , well rounded and mature   young lady in the making.4.           There is twinkling in the eyes of a graduate.5.           A graduate is like a butterfly. Butterflies pass through two main stages of development throughout their life cycle: larvae and adult. The transformation into adult butterfly results in a colorful and a very active and useful living organism. The butterfly is pleasing to our eyes and also carries out functions which are helpful in pollinating various flowers and other plants.  

6.           A graduate transforms from a novice to an expert like a butterfly. The expert  

becomes our saviour in many situations and help the civilisation ticking and  progressing.7.           A graduate is a bud transformed into a beautiful and an aromatic flower. She  has excitement , and rose colored eyes looking to future with optimism.

So please join me and raise a toast to our graduate, who , with her enthusiasm and  optimism will make her family and friends   proud and looking forward to a higher plateau  in the days to come.

                            To all our graduates.